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Printablebkw said: MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: uhh no not really  Okay, you're being serious 
Are you saying you have too much empathy? no I have to much sympathy.....I let my emotions rule way to much sometimes.....its a bad thing in my world. | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Heather, to address your topic though:
Is there a difference between 'judging' and 'forming impressions' of someone? If so, what are those differences? Are there times that using instincts and impressions can be helpful and protective in nature, rather than negative? Is there a way to BOTH be kind AND set boundaries about what is acceptable behaviors? I always judge people and I rely on those judgements. How else do you decide who to trust and like/dislike? When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: bkw said: Okay, you're being serious
Are you saying you have too much empathy? no I have to much sympathy.....I let my emotions rule way to much sometimes.....its a bad thing in my world. Are you saying you need to harden up? When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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bkw said: AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Heather, to address your topic though:
Is there a difference between 'judging' and 'forming impressions' of someone? If so, what are those differences? Are there times that using instincts and impressions can be helpful and protective in nature, rather than negative? Is there a way to BOTH be kind AND set boundaries about what is acceptable behaviors? I always judge people and I rely on those judgements. How else do you decide who to trust and like/dislike? but what if you judge them wrongly.....uhhh I forgot where I was going with this.....oh fuck it nevermind  | |
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bkw said: MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: no I have to much sympathy.....I let my emotions rule way to much sometimes.....its a bad thing in my world. Are you saying you need to harden up? No cause on the other end of the line.....I can be way to much of a bitch.....yet I have learned to except my flaws and live with them. Cause they are what makes me...ME and I  myself to pieces.....  | |
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It is important to have high standards, no reason to lower yourself for anybody but it's all in your mind.
Judging others through false ego is a symptom as well as a pastime of a non-worldly person. The daily life of such a person engrossed in evil ways is full of its natural contentions, contradictions, jealousy, usual competitions, selfishness, corruption, falsehood, desires and fears. Consequently, they end up living a wrong life in all their worldly contacts and experiences, thus wasting useful time and energy by undergoing tensions, strains, and creating chaos within themselves and confusion for others. "Do Not Judge, And Others Will Not Judge U" It's a matter of adapting to others, if U can't, move on, and find someone that U can tolerate to be around. There are other methods apart from relying on harsh judgement to know whom to trust and like or dislike etc.... | |
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bkw said: AnotherLoverToo said: Ok, Heather, to address your topic though:
Is there a difference between 'judging' and 'forming impressions' of someone? If so, what are those differences? Are there times that using instincts and impressions can be helpful and protective in nature, rather than negative? Is there a way to BOTH be kind AND set boundaries about what is acceptable behaviors? I always judge people and I rely on those judgements. How else do you decide who to trust and like/dislike? I observe.....I use my intuition a lot with people as well. But actions speak quite loudly. I suppose when it comes to 'judging' someone, there are different categories: Family/Close Friends Good Friends Casual Friends/Acquaintances Neutral Slightly Wary/I keep some boundaries up Very Wary/Have Observed this person doing behaviors that bother me Want Nothing to do With/Has hurt me or someone I love | |
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MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: bkw said: I always judge people and I rely on those judgements. How else do you decide who to trust and like/dislike? but what if you judge them wrongly.....uhhh I forgot where I was going with this.....oh fuck it nevermind My instincts are incredibly good, especially in person. Also, just cos i judge them doesnt mean I let them know what I think, often that is private. If I do say I like/love a person I mean it though. When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: bkw said: I always judge people and I rely on those judgements. How else do you decide who to trust and like/dislike? I observe.....I use my intuition a lot with people as well. But actions speak quite loudly. I suppose when it comes to 'judging' someone, there are different categories: Family/Close Friends Good Friends Casual Friends/Acquaintances Neutral Slightly Wary/I keep some boundaries up Very Wary/Have Observed this person doing behaviors that bother me Want Nothing to do With/Has hurt me or someone I love Exactly. I agree entirley! When I read about the evils of drinking, I gave up reading. | |
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bkw said: MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said: no I have to much sympathy.....I let my emotions rule way to much sometimes.....its a bad thing in my world. Are you saying you need to harden up? 
he said "harden". | |
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I see judging people as a form of competition. We are bred to be competitive creatures so comparing ourselves to others is a natural reaction. I don't think it's wrong unless you start infringing on their rights. That's when problems start. | |
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