Would ya Accept it? Tell him to leave? How would ya Handle it? Would it MATTER?

I don't care if he's polka-dotted, if he cheats on me, I'm gone.

TheOrgerFormerlyKnownAs said:

cosign

I'd say ! Let's have a

If he was gay, then - like most men - I think even I would have already worked it out by the time penetration occurred.

If he was bisexual, I guess I'd want to know if I knew the woman involved.

Either way, if it was my partner in a same-sex marriage, I don't think the relationship would last a breach of trust like that.

I would cannibalize him like he was a double filet o fish sandwich.

I just would be Afraid of Diseases ya know. So I suppose I would INSIST on AIDS tests. I would be Ok but like I said it's the Disease thing I would be worried about. As long as Everyone is Safe and Clean then ya are Ok .
[This message was edited Tue Mar 2 14:25:46 2004 by Zelaira]

Zelaira said:

you should be just as afraid of Diseases with straight men.

My husband is bi, and he is free to have "gay affairs", provided he is honest about it and meticulous about safer sex.

MelissaC said:

this is in NO WAY malicious...you must have been asked this a million times so i'm sorry for making it a million and 1 but...why? i mean, did you know prior to marriage or was this something that came out later? it seems to me that one of the many points of marriage is monogamy and promising yourself to one other person. this is very interesting to me so, if you care to divulge, please explain your position.

SassyBritches said:

Agreed. Please explain.

Sweeny79 said:

I cosign that too.

SassyBritches said:

We are polyamorous (you can run a google search on that word if you're curious). Neither of us grew up wanting a traditional relationship. He's not a US citizen, so we had practical reasons to get married, or else we probably wouldn't have bothered.

Being poly is fun. Pretty cool walking down the street with a man on each arm.

SassyBritches said:

Aside from Melissa's response concerning her specific situation, I'd also point out that there are social benefits that come with being married. Some are minor... for example, where I live landlords will charge unmarried couples two application fees while charging married couples only one. And some are major... for example, the ability to get employer-provided benefits (if they're not extended to domestic partners).

It's possible to work around some of the problems that come with being an unmarried partner... for example, I plan to execute a health care power of attorney so my partner won't be prevented from visiting me in the hospital if my condition is serious and the doctors are allowing only "family" to see me.

Having been in an unmarried-partner relationship, then a marriage, and now another unmarried-partner relationship, I prefer being unmarried. But I do recognize that it has its disadvantages.

Why are so many people assuming that a bisexual partner is going to sleep around or cheat on them? This kind of attitude (and it comes from straight AND gay people) pisses me off so much.....

So many people seem to think that being bisexual means a person is incapable of being monogamous; that they are automatically going to cheat on their partner. Some of you may have had a bad experience before, but that's no excuse to say an entire group of people is going to behave this way. It's just fucking ignorant.

Bi people are just like anyone else. Some will be monogamous, just like some exclusively gay and straight people. And some will cheat, just like some exclusively gay or straight people.



And to address some comments I've seen on here on the Org and elsewhere:

1)It's not that most of us can't make up our minds, or that we're greedy. I know what I am. There's no question. True, some people might say they're bi because it's trendy, (especially younger women) and some people who are in fact gay might say they're bi in order to adjust;ease out of the closet, or to take advantage of the "straight priveledges" we're perceived as having, but that's not true for most people.

2)If I'm with a man, I'm not straight, and if I'm with a woman, I'm not a lesbian. I'm bisexual regardless of the gender of the person I happen to be with.

I actually had an ex boyfriend tell me he was bi right after we had sex! The only comment I could manage to stammer was what did he prefer?... Men or women?... He said women, so I guess he was either telling the truth or just didn't want to get his ass kicked by me!

ladyguen69 said:

Would it have mattered, either way?

let em join in

meow85 said:

I'm not really sure happened so long ago, but i think it would have been nice to know before doing the act instead of being surprised after, well not surprised more like shocked.

i'd have sex with him!!


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