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Why Don't Women Say "Thank You" When You Hold The Door Open For Them?? Been wondering about this lately... 
I always--always--hold the door open for women, no matter what...men as well, actually...just a polite thing to do, and my mom always emphasized being a gentleman (so did my sister, actually...lol)..But I've noticed that, when I do hold the door open for a women coming or going into the store, the bank...wherever...it's a coin toss as to whether she'll say "thank you" or not...whether she'll smile or not... Half the time, the woman I've held the door open for will say thank you...a few of them with an appreciative smile...  ...but the other half of the time, they either just walk thru as if holding the door open is my job, or they rush thru with their eyes and head pointed down or off to the side, as if they're suspicious of my motives or my intent...I could understand it if I looked scary or something, but please...I've seen squirrels that looked scarier than I do.
Men are ALWAYS appreciative when I hold the door open for them...but women are either appreciative, snobby or freaked...lol....So, what gives??  | |
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I do the same thing and I'm always amazed at how many just ignore me. 
Next time I'm going to let the door swing right back on their arse.  | |
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...What! | |
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althom said: I do the same thing and I'm always amazed at how many just ignore me.
Next time I'm going to let the door swing right back on their arse. Heh heh...  | |
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Freespirit said: ...What!
They don't!!... (Well, half of them, anyway...)...  | |
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I only hold the door open for the women I'm with, as for the rest of them to bad, i ain't no fucking gentlemen.  | |
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I was just thinking today... what is it, that people just don't understand...
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I'm a gay guy and hold the door open for women and yup, some women think it's your job because your ovaries happen to be on the outside. The thing that gets me is when a chick gets bitchy about you being polite. Whatever... 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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chivalry is so dead dude
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sinisterpentatonic said: I only hold the door open for the women I'm with, as for the rest of them to bad, i ain't no fucking gentlemen.
I hold the door open for everyone...entire families have passed before me...busloads of women have walked into the restaurant as I held the door for them...lol | |
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dunno if that's the way it is over on the west coast, but here in the midwest you're more likely to hear a "thank you". i always make sure to give guys my thanx when they hold open a door for me.  | |
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Byron said: sinisterpentatonic said: I only hold the door open for the women I'm with, as for the rest of them to bad, i ain't no fucking gentlemen.
I hold the door open for everyone...entire families have passed before me...busloads of women have walked into the restaurant as I held the door for them...lol Sucka!! | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I'm a gay guy and hold the door open for women and yup, some women think it's your job because your ovaries happen to be on the outside. The thing that gets me is when a chick gets bitchy about you being polite. Whatever...
LoL....Men basically see what you're doing and say to themselves "Cool, thanks buddy.."...I have no stinkin' clue as to what women say to themselves when they see a door being held open for them... | |
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shausler said: chivalry is so dead dude
Apparently...
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Byron said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I'm a gay guy and hold the door open for women and yup, some women think it's your job because your ovaries happen to be on the outside. The thing that gets me is when a chick gets bitchy about you being polite. Whatever...
LoL....Men basically see what you're doing and say to themselves "Cool, thanks buddy.."...I have no stinkin' clue as to what women say to themselves when they see a door being held open for them... Ummm... thank you. | |
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I'm surprised! I always say thankyou myself No hablo espanol,no! 
Pero hablo ingles..ssii muy muy bien...
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: dunno if that's the way it is over on the west coast, but here in the midwest you're more likely to hear a "thank you". i always make sure to give guys my thanx when they hold open a door for me.
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Freespirit said: Byron said: LoL....Men basically see what you're doing and say to themselves "Cool, thanks buddy.."...I have no stinkin' clue as to what women say to themselves when they see a door being held open for them... Ummm... thank you. Well, I mean women besides you and Handclaps...lol... | |
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Byron said: Handclapsfingasnapz said: dunno if that's the way it is over on the west coast, but here in the midwest you're more likely to hear a "thank you". i always make sure to give guys my thanx when they hold open a door for me.
Thank you  2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Byron said: Handclapsfingasnapz said: dunno if that's the way it is over on the west coast, but here in the midwest you're more likely to hear a "thank you". i always make sure to give guys my thanx when they hold open a door for me.
thank you, byron. | |
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Byron said: Handclapsfingasnapz said: dunno if that's the way it is over on the west coast, but here in the midwest you're more likely to hear a "thank you". i always make sure to give guys my thanx when they hold open a door for me.
Hey why is that door open... | |
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Freespirit said: Byron said: Hey why is that door open...
Why, I oughta.... | |
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I always hold doors open for others if I get there first, no matter the gender or age or physical ability. I don't notice whether or not they thank me--I suspect most do--probably because I don't expect or care for thanks.  It's just what I do.
I also always thank someone for holding the door for me. Every time. I think the lack of thanking someone could be indicative of how they were parented/brought up. I had parents who literally beat manners into me. I say "please" and "thank you" along with all of the other social niceties without even thinking, but I know many people who hardly ever thank anyone for anything. They don't mean anything negative by it, they just don't know any better cause they didn't have the "home training". | |
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I always look at the man and say "thank you" and with a smile - I show my appreciation. It sure makes them feel good and they smile back too. 
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moderatorByron said: Half the time, the woman I've held the door open for will say thank you...a few of them with an appreciative smile... ...but the other half of the time, they either just walk thru as if holding the door open is my job, or they rush thru with their eyes and head pointed down or off to the side, as if they're suspicious of my motives or my intent...I could understand it if I looked scary or something, but please...I've seen squirrels that looked scarier than I do.
They think that you're hittin on 'em. Or they are bitches. Possibly both. | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: ...probably because I don't expect or care for thanks.
It's just what I do.I don't do it for the thanks...but I notice it when it's not given in one form or another. And I really notice it when it becomes a pattern...just makes me curious. | |
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luv4u said: I always look at the man and say "thank you" and with a smile - I show my appreciation. It sure makes them feel good and they smile back too.
Yanno...it does...  | |
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Byron said: Been wondering about this lately...
I always--always--hold the door open for women, no matter what...men as well, actually...just a polite thing to do, and my mom always emphasized being a gentleman (so did my sister, actually...lol)..But I've noticed that, when I do hold the door open for a women coming or going into the store, the bank...wherever...it's a coin toss as to whether she'll say "thank you" or not...whether she'll smile or not... Half the time, the woman I've held the door open for will say thank you...a few of them with an appreciative smile... ...but the other half of the time, they either just walk thru as if holding the door open is my job, or they rush thru with their eyes and head pointed down or off to the side, as if they're suspicious of my motives or my intent...I could understand it if I looked scary or something, but please...I've seen squirrels that looked scarier than I do.
Men are ALWAYS appreciative when I hold the door open for them...but women are either appreciative, snobby or freaked...lol....So, what gives?? I'm always thinking this very same thing! I'm just too polite... 
Can one be too polite?  |
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June7 said: Byron said: Been wondering about this lately...
I always--always--hold the door open for women, no matter what...men as well, actually...just a polite thing to do, and my mom always emphasized being a gentleman (so did my sister, actually...lol)..But I've noticed that, when I do hold the door open for a women coming or going into the store, the bank...wherever...it's a coin toss as to whether she'll say "thank you" or not...whether she'll smile or not... Half the time, the woman I've held the door open for will say thank you...a few of them with an appreciative smile... ...but the other half of the time, they either just walk thru as if holding the door open is my job, or they rush thru with their eyes and head pointed down or off to the side, as if they're suspicious of my motives or my intent...I could understand it if I looked scary or something, but please...I've seen squirrels that looked scarier than I do.
Men are ALWAYS appreciative when I hold the door open for them...but women are either appreciative, snobby or freaked...lol....So, what gives?? I'm always thinking this very same thing! I'm just too polite...
Can one be too polite? nah...one can not be too polite... Two can...but not one... | |
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