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Another year Next week I'm going to be 27. I'm feeling old and unattractive and my theory of me living alone in a house full of cats is becoming more and more of a reality. Think maybe I'm having a mid life crisis??  If I am. it means I'm only gonna live to 54.
And why the fuck do I have a conscience? It's not getting me what I want...I always do the right thing and I'm so sick of it DAMMIT! Rant over. | |
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CarrieLee said: Next week I'm going to be 27. I'm feeling old and unattractive and my theory of me living alone in a house full of cats is becoming more and more of a reality. Think maybe I'm having a mid life crisis??
If I am. it means I'm only gonna live to 54.
And why the fuck do I have a conscience? It's not getting me what I want...I always do the right thing and I'm so sick of it DAMMIT! Rant over. if its any comfort  red hot like a chilli pepper | |
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for all it's worth - i've found my late 20s to be a time of general uneasiness. i think what happens to a lot of people is that they're pretty much established in their career, and now there's a lot of outside pressure to have a "perfect" home life, whatever that might be, and that pressure is easily internalized. i remember my husband one night telling me, "You have no idea who you are, do you?" - and he was dead-on. seems like in my early 30s, things just fell into place. i can tell that you have high expectations of yourself, Carrie, and don't compromise that only because you have not quite seen the big picture of your life yet.  | |
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 Good Lord...
Carrie!  
 But, if you do that Carrie, you'll do it all with style and make it seem so glamorous, so...lol 
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IAmTheTouch said:
for all it's worth - i've found my late 20s to be a time of general uneasiness. i think what happens to a lot of people is that they're pretty much established in their career, and now there's a lot of outside pressure to have a "perfect" home life, whatever that might be, and that pressure is easily internalized. i remember my husband one night telling me, "You have no idea who you are, do you?" - and he was dead-on. seems like in my early 30s, things just fell into place. i can tell that you have high expectations of yourself, Carrie, and don't compromise that only because you have not quite seen the big picture of your life yet. Whoa. I think you're right on. But I still want to bitch so I'll think about your post later... | |
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CarrieLee said: Whoa. I think you're right on. But I still want to bitch so I'll think about your post later... yeah, i hear ya... venting your frustrations is important, too! | |
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I turned 30 this year and I feel pretty much the same way you describe. Although, I do live in a house of cats, I am married and not alone, but I still remember feeling this sort of panic set in after I turned 27. To me it meant: ok, you are not in your mid-20s anymore and you're heading towards the big 3-0! I am slowly accepting the fact that I have started new decade of aging, but it's something I obsess about every day. A lot of times I just have to tell myself that's it's only a number after all.  "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Don't listen to yourself....you're damn sexy, dahlink, and you know it...you just need to move to the land of tattoed pretty boys to find your soulmate. And old??...Please...I have things in my fridge older than you...
Don't go and buy those cats just yet... Seriously, tho...don't use your time wondering if you'll be "with" somone...I guarantee that will happen on its own, whether you think about it or not, whether you want it to or not. Better to use whatever time alone you have on creation, discovery and improvement of Self...and start those morning journalings like I suggested...(gives CarrieLee the stern "Byron Look"...)...   
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Oh Dahlink! 
You are so in growing mode.. they say that from the age of 27 to 29 is a time of letting go of the rose colored glasses, and budding into a beautiful rose. Realization sets in, and some of the things that were important to you become less and less. (Well except for tattooed musicians.) I can't even imagine you thinking that you are anything but beautiful.. I just wanna smack you..
Cheers baby, you know that you are loved. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect, it means you've decided to look beyond the imperfections... unknown | |
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Ya ya ya you're all right! Maybe once I get out of mom's house I'll feel better  | |
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I´m turning 28 this year so I know how you´re feeling, Carrie. I think the fear of ending up alone is the worst part of the whole thing. It´s usually easier to cope with difficult times if we have someone close to us that we feel connected to and can rely on. And at this time of our lives everybody seem to be starting families and settling into the pattern they will follow for the rest of their lives. It sure is kind of depressing, especially for us who are alone/single at this point.
What always helps me though, is to think about all the people that are twice our age and seem to be enjoying life to the fullest, even though many of them don´t have a partner or a young body anymore. Keep your eyes open and you will see them. We have every chance in the world to find the happiness that they have found. And we still have a few decades to play with before we get to where they are. | |
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Feel ya, babe. There is this one John Mayer song that refers to a quarter-life crisis, and I think they are quite common. All of my friends this age, even the ones who are marreid or who have Careers or whatever, feel this way. We think growing up that by the time we're 25 we'll be grownups who know just what we want our lives to look like. And it's a lie. I think we just have to keep listening to those 30 (and 40 and 50 et al)-somethings who keep telling us that the 20s are still a time for searching and sorting and wondering. All of life is, I guess. Hurts sometimes, though.
I can't handle this much profoundness (profundity?  ) today. I'm gonna go and do laundry and try not to think so hard. | |
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Aahhhhh.I remember when I was younger. 
Happy birthday!  | |
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Whatever you do, don't start feeling old now! You're not even 30 yet. There's plenty of time for aging, and doing it well 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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I'm almost 2 years older than you. And look how fabulous my last 2 years have been!!! You have nothing to worry about!
Seriously, though. I go through the exact same emotions on a semi-annual basis. But deep down, I know I'll be pretty darn happy being the crazy cat woman. |
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