Byron, are you sure it's not because you're naked at the time?

I ALWAYS say thank you when someone holds the door open for me. It's a nice gesture and it needs to be appreciated because a lot of men don't do it.

well, it's nice of you to do this byron but feel free to *not* hold it for me, if we should meet. i'm strong and healthy and can open my own doors thanks

what i mean is, when some guy who's twenty feet ahead of me opens and holds the door then stands there waiting for me to 'hurry up' and take advantage of his generous gesture.. . . forget it. that's just annoying. especially when the guy in question then feels entitled to be critical if my reaction to his action does not meet his expectation of what i *should* have done. like, if i'm not gushing my gratitude. please

my rule is, let people open the dang doors for themselves, on their own time, unless they're handicapped by age, infirmity or luggage.
[This message was edited Fri Feb 20 17:02:15 2004 by XxAxX]

lillith said


co-sign

a better question would be "Why is it that when someone bumps into me, I say excuse me?"

I always say thank you or smile btw

kiss85 said:

Well if he is hot I would flirt too, and why not.

Byron said:

Only cuz it's hard to find a LADY. Ladies come before gentlemen because without a lady there can BE no gentlemen. No offense to any females in here cause most of you seem pretty cool about the whole thing. A woman is easy to find, but a lady.....

guitarslinger44 said:

one day we'll have to go to a museum to see what a lady looks like.

milkshake said:

Doesn't Paris Hilton fit the part?

milkshake said:

Nah...we'll just come here.

I used to wonder about these things too. Then I realized that I hold doors open for everybody just because it's the nice thing to do. I don't look far behind me-- just far enough to see if there's somebody close--and rarely if ever look them in the eye. That way if someone isn't right behind me I don't keep it open and make them run to catch the door. Also by not looking at them it lets the women know I have no expectations because I'd do the same for a man. I don't say your welcome though I just go "mm, hmm" out of nature.

I do these things not to be anti-social but to keep things simple. I can understand how women who have men approaching them all of the time would get tired of some man staring at them as they hold the door open hoping to flirt with them. Living in the city it just gets tiresome looking at everybody and interacting so you learn to keep it to a minimum and I suspect that's where much of the lack of response comes from. Generally, a country woman is more likely to thank you.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

never heard someone use that expression before, think it's hilarious!

After I pick my jaw up off of the ground, I will always use it to say thank you. It is surely not something I expect anybody to do for me, and it doesn't happen too often.

I notice the same thing when I hold for others. Half of them seem to think that I was put on Earth just to hold that door for them that day, so why bother with thanks?

Byron said:

we're supposed to say something?
sheesh.....someone keeps changing the PC rules and I never get my copy of the latest issue....

And I always am very appreciative when someone holds a door for me. It's a kind gesture, and it's always nice. In fact, I always hold the door for others in public myself, and it pisses me off when people don't say "thank you". Sometimes it makes me wish I wasn't so polite and that I just closed the door on their toes!

Just FYI, to show that poor manners isn't exclusive to women: I opened a door for a man today (I was there first, it was natural) and he didn't thank me. Normally, I don't think I'd have noticed it but this thread came to mind. I just smiled.....lol

I think Dansa's right about the midwest thing. Almost everyone holds open doors and almost everyone says thank you. Men and women alike. But it's more of the hold it open behind you rather than the hold-the-door-open-wide-"after you!" kind of thing. When a guy does that in the midwest he's either VERY polite or he's flirting.

i always say thank you unless i have something on my mind that is really consuming me. when i get like that i could walk into the damn door and not notice.

AnotherLoverToo said:

Was that you sweety?

Byron said:

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