cborgman said:

I know. I love your sense of humor and I think you're great.

But when you constantly find yourself in the middle of a shitstorm, doesn't it ever make you wonder why you're the target? Maybe you should start completely ignoring the people that are bothering you so you don't get hurt and they don't feel they're winning. Don't let them get to you.

TRON said:

give them the silent treatment

TRON said:

that's what i did, nate. i ignored a whole lot of shit. but they kept on. it had been going on for four freaking months with aaron. he would not let shit go, and eventually i got tired of taking the high road cause it didn't seem to be doing any good. so i started reporting it, since it was obvious he was not ever gonna let it go. i mean for the love of god, four months of that shit. and why didd he do it? well, i have my theory, but i don't think it's appropriate to say, cause i don't wanna stoop to his level and say the kinds of things he would say.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That's right.

'Cause if they know they can get to you, they'll keep on goin on and on. So next time, Chris, try to ignore it.

i mean, my god, it was so long ago that it started that ian used to have to tell aaron to knock it off. it has been that long ago.

cborgman said:

Let me clarify. I'm not trying to assign blame. I never want to hurt anyone's feelings and it gets tiresome to constantly see people at eachother on here. I'm just trying to offer a middle ground. Of course we all know that certain orgers are on the rampage and cannot hold their tongues. That's been well documented. And of course we've all heard the accusations against you about being over sensitive and reporting things. I'm not trying to take either side or rehash the specifics of what has or hasn't happened. I'm not in the middle of this, so it's not my place to do so anyway. I just wish that you and those that are in danger of being banned or have already been banned could take a step back for a bit. Let the nerves settle. It doesn't have to be like this.

cborgman said:

You might as well be honest. Everyone else is.

I say let us all take the day off, and head to the nearest bar..

TRON said:

no, i am fine with what you are trying to do and respect it and think it's great. but he majorly crossed a line by repeatedly posting those homophobic slams at me just to piss me off.

TRON said:

honestly, i like aaron, when he ain't off on his tears. he is one of the wittiest people i have ever met, when he ain't doing demean everyone humor, and lord knows, i may be his most recent mark, but i sure am not his only mark. he has a looong history of doing this kinda stuff.

and that's all i am gonna say. my theory on his behaviour is just for me and it's just gonna start new shit, and i am not gonna do that. god knows, i am sooo tired of these petty pointless you said, he thinks things.

cborgman said:

Then maybe try something in between. Let them know you're going to draw the moderators attention to the issue. Then go about your merry way. The more fuel you give them, the more it makes them want to battle you.

sag10 said:

what i would not give for whiskey shots right now...

TRON said:

i thought that's what i did. granted i did it in the heat of the moment, so i probably typed it in a more heated way then i should have. but i thought that is what i did.

cborgman said:

You seem to still be hashing it out with a few orgers.
[This message was edited Wed Jan 28 12:09:29 PST 2004 by TRON]

TRON said:

that's because they take up the fight and start right where the last person left off. god bless paisley, she was doing just that before with aaron and RD two weeks ago. thankfully, she came around to reason and made peace. and these people spur them to do it. look at aaron. came and typed out some ridiculously long "i'm right and everyone else involved is just out to get poor little me" letter just so the fight would continue. RD starts a thread claiming he is banned and starts sayign goodbyes, just to keep the fight going. immediatly everyone thinks i am some big asshole who got him banned, when in truth i went to great lengths to make sure he wasn't.

and it works for him! C went as far as to demand his account be banned as well, pej swears vengence, ALT says she heard that Matt and i petitioned to have RD banned, and for what? he's not banned, no one told him he was gonna be banned, he created this huge drama about NOTHING.

i mean, am i crazy? did i somehow cause that?
[This message was edited Wed Jan 28 12:20:49 PST 2004 by cborgman]

cborgman said:

And why shouldn't this behavior be reported? Many people notice the climate these kind of antics create and they aren't liking it. I nearly always ignore this shit and eventually it dies away. It was the same people who shat all over the Orgies awards and when I won "orger of the year" some people ranted about how lame the awards were and how horrible it was that people were doing a popularity contest and again, that thread wasn't anything more than people acknowledging fellow orgers. It was fun, it was for community. And it got turned into something ugly.

It is better to ignore the rants than to feed them because they become like monsters feeding off the angry energy.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

well, i agree. i have done a lot of ignoring, and what happened while i was ignoring is that my reputation got thrown wildly out into left field that i was some hysterical drama queen demanding that anyone i didn't like be banned, and nothing could be further from the truth. today is a perfect example, with that "i'm being banned" thread.

cborgman said:

Kinda like Melissa storming off in a huff over the ribbing, some of it not nice, over her polygamy? There is a point to try and rectify your position but you shouldn't have ever been put in that position to begin with...

U just cant stop and to get the last words passive agressively in bringing up folks...(look at that thread he made blah blah blah)...some "silent treatment" . No silent treatment as long as someone gets to keep getting their digs in etc explainig..but if its someone else doing the same then its "they are just awful, they are trying to sway", nevermind the content and explanation etc.So typical



little by little the hypocrisy still remains

cborgman said:

lie



lie


pooly wogglism was being discussed and u got pissed and decoided to take it on yourself to be the bearer of "stop talking about my freinds even though made a public statement" including revealing perosnal info about me in the wake..all because YOU were upset

drama queen that u are..report that I dont care--I speak the truth..Ruth

rdhull said:

rd, you wanna end this, it's real simple. edit all those little gay barbs and go on your "i'm being banned" thread and post that there is a truce, and that no one ever said you would be banned. it's that easy.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Exactly. It's better not to rehash it. The more people keep bringing up specific examples, the more it perpetuates it. The more it seems like you have to have the last word, the more it seems like you're keeping the fight active.

rdhull said:

Excuse me. How many times have I ever made the point I just made? Once. Right here, right now. This aint about getting the last word, I'm just stating my piece.

There have been people, including you and aaron, that have misconstrued things as well. We are all guilty of it. Let's just move on and get along instead of bickering back and forth.

that's all i ask, rd. not even an apology for making all those hompohobic comments, just edit 'em out and go on that thread tell the truth about it, so all these people you got pissed off at me know the truth that no one ever said that you were gonna be banned, and declare a truce.
[This message was edited Wed Jan 28 12:38:34 PST 2004 by cborgman]

please, i am asking nicely.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

That may be asking a bit much Supa.

what do you think tron, do you think this is too much to ask for on my part? supa? anyone?
[This message was edited Wed Jan 28 12:39:32 PST 2004 by cborgman]

TRON said:

Maybe so. But people shouldn't be surprised then if they get reported for baiting.

anyone?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I think expecting everyone to get along is way too optimistic.

But being at least civil is very easy. There are plenty of people on here that I don't vibe with, but I don't make a point about it. I'm just not in their circle and don't make it my business to get to know them.

It's very easy.