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Have you ever been stalked Has anyone ever had to deal with this? It's not the best situation and it can be really scary. I'm dealing with it right now. I was talking to a female aquaintance that I met on a message board. She lives about 20 miles from me. I guess she took a liking to me and she wanted to find out more about me. She knew I was dating and she knew that I live with my girlfriend. One day she introduced herself to me at my work which I thought was quite odd. After this I would randomly see her drive by my house. After a while my girlfriend started to get prank phone calls from another women telling her to leave me. MY GF thought I was cheating on her which hasn't helped our relationship. After a while it got worse and she made violent comments. She left a few pictures on the board that gave you that strange feeling but now she doesn't post on the board. What scares us is I don't see her posts and she has stopped with the calls.
My GF gets very red in the face when ever it's mentioned and both of us are always looking over our shoulders. We talked to the police but they can't do anything. Anyone have any suggestions? Here were the images she last posted and she mentioned me int he post. 
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I'm one girlfriend and one stalker short of being able to relate to your situation. *
 
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Yes I have  that was 12 years ago, but very scary stuff indeed...  | |
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Yep, a quiet girl from University tracked me down and started sending letters and stuff. Every few years she finds me again and I have to deal with it all over. The last time, she just turned up at work. Gave a false name to the receptionists on the floor above me and got them to track me down and say the woman was waiting for me. I thought shit I have forgotten a meeting or something and went up to meet her. As soon as I saw her she said "please don't call security" so I just walked off the premises with her and said to her “Nothing is ever going to happen, any questions? No? Have a nice life!”
Haven't seen her since but it is getting to about the time when she will re-appear again. Its been going on for about 10 years. It isn't nice at all, but I feel really sorry for her, she’s messed up. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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Yes, althought it was more of the cyber-stalk variety...she went from following me around in chatrooms and sending way too many emails, to hunting down my work number and work address and calling me there and sending me flowers & software there (she was a designer as well, it's why we first talked), to finding out about all the executives' names of the company I worked for...to claiming she had an interview with the very same company I worked for...everything...Towards the end, she threatened to contact the Vice President and claim I had been harrassing her thru company emails and get me fired, and even threatened to go to the police and claim I was into child pornography in order to get my daughter taken from me...and finally faked her own death in an attempt to get my attention and affection. It all happened within something like three months...and it was scary as hell.
While I did know that this was only one person and that this behavior can exist in "real" life just as easily as it can exist online, the experience played its part in how much I divulged of myself... | |
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yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. | |
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XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. just lock em out of orgnote land  | |
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XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. Restraining order do not work... But if it makes you feel safe then do it. Seriously stalking degrades a persons lifestyle.. Isn't it sad how we can lock each other up in our own sicknesses... ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. Restraining order do not work... But if it makes you feel safe then do it. Seriously stalking degrades a persons lifestyle.. Isn't it sad how we can lock each other up in our own sicknesses... i know restraining orders don't work - the point is to document the harassment so when you have to defend yourself it's on record. . . | |
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XxAxX said: sag10 said: XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. Restraining order do not work... But if it makes you feel safe then do it. Seriously stalking degrades a persons lifestyle.. Isn't it sad how we can lock each other up in our own sicknesses... i know restraining orders don't work - the point is to document the harassment so when you have to defend yourself it's on record. . . Yes, documentation is great.. Also any type of recording device, tape recorder, cam corder helps... I know they helped my case. Here is a website full of great information for those being stalked. www.ejfi.org . [This message was edited Tue Jan 27 10:05:24 PST 2004 by sag10] ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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shausler said: XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. just lock em out of orgnote land wow. you sure have a hell of a lot of nerve. http://www.prince.org/msg/100/77877 now what's going on with you anyway shaulser? | |
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XxAxX said: shausler said: XxAxX said: yes i have. it was odd because it was someone i didn't even know who decided that *i* was the one for him.
fortunately, he was non-violent and mostly just annoying. but, it's forever changed the way i look at people. i advise you to take action to make it absolutely understood to this person, with no room for misinterpretation, that you are not willing to endure crap. notify the police, your employer, etc. document your efforts and get a restraining order if necessary. also, make sure your GF protects herself by carrying mace etc. just lock em out of orgnote land wow. you sure have a hell of a lot of nerve. http://www.prince.org/msg/100/77877 now what's going on with you anyway shaulser? im trying to make peace for god sakes so i will not respond eleflowers was 2 years ago we were over it whats going on with you anyway x? | |
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now what offends you about that link your posting
my exchange with anotherlover or my reference to not getting along with you for whatever dated reason do tell ya know what fuck it im outta here fuck this | |
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Yes.
And here on this site Ive just recently had to utilize the block orgnote feature. "Climb in my fur." | |
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Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left  | |
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shausler said: now what offends you about that link your posting
my exchange with anotherlover or my reference to not getting along with you for whatever dated reason do tell ya know what fuck it im outta here fuck this shaus calm down... "Climb in my fur." | |
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DigitalLisa said: Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left
You come across as the stalking type j/k :LOL: I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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DigitalLisa said: Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left
Yeah, you're really gone  "Climb in my fur." | |
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CtheUncanny said: DigitalLisa said: Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left
You come across as the stalking type j/k :LOL: puleese seems like i'm the one who's been being stalked these days ... I'm seriously in cyber world and real life. I swear all I do is talk 2 the men, then I get stalked | |
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DigitalLisa said: CtheUncanny said: DigitalLisa said: Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left
You come across as the stalking type j/k :LOL: puleese seems like i'm the one who's been being stalked these days ... I'm seriously in cyber world and real life. I swear all I do is talk 2 the men, then I get stalked Quit waggin your wagon in front of their faces and getting them all excited :LOL: I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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CtheUncanny said: DigitalLisa said: CtheUncanny said: DigitalLisa said: Yes I'm being stalked right now by a orger, that's why I left
You come across as the stalking type j/k :LOL: puleese seems like i'm the one who's been being stalked these days ... I'm seriously in cyber world and real life. I swear all I do is talk 2 the men, then I get stalked Quit waggin your wagon in front of their faces and getting them all excited :LOL: that's funny, cuz I was gon say I'm gon have 2 stop being a tease | |
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My ex stalked me while we were boyfriends. I got laid off from my job and decided to take a much needed vacation. During my time off my boyfriend would pretend to go to work and then lay in wait in our apartment complex to see where I would go when he left. He also made up fake hours at work and then would show up at home to catch me cheating. He was a sick psycho.
One time I actually caught him. This was before I lost my job. I had him drop me off at work and I had been there about a half hour when I had to bring some paperwork to the Managers secretary. The secretary was on the other side of the building (the side where the entrance was) and as she spoke on the phone, I looked across the street and notice our car in the parking lot all by itself. I told the secretary that I would be right back. As soon as I walked out of the building the car sped off. Amazing. He was of course guilty of cheating and just putting his guilty concience on me. Bastard. I have never been stalked by a stranger and hope to god I never am. It can be scary. Sorry Kobra that you are going through this. It sucks. Do document everything you can. It can only help you. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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kobra said: Has anyone ever had to deal with this? It's not the best situation and it can be really scary. I'm dealing with it right now. I was talking to a female aquaintance that I met on a message board. She lives about 20 miles from me. I guess she took a liking to me and she wanted to find out more about me. She knew I was dating and she knew that I live with my girlfriend. One day she introduced herself to me at my work which I thought was quite odd. After this I would randomly see her drive by my house. After a while my girlfriend started to get prank phone calls from another women telling her to leave me. MY GF thought I was cheating on her which hasn't helped our relationship. After a while it got worse and she made violent comments. She left a few pictures on the board that gave you that strange feeling but now she doesn't post on the board. What scares us is I don't see her posts and she has stopped with the calls.
My GF gets very red in the face when ever it's mentioned and both of us are always looking over our shoulders. We talked to the police but they can't do anything. Anyone have any suggestions? Here were the images she last posted and she mentioned me int he post.
[This message was edited Tue Jan 27 3:42:05 PST 2004 by kobra] How does she no where you work,phone number etc..?You stated that you met her on a message board.Did you give her your information? | |
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yes, i have been, when i was young and stupid. i was 17 and met this great guy and we went out for a while, and were living together, and he asked me to marry him (or the non-legally recognized equivilant thereof), and i said yes.
after a few more months, he dropped the curtain and i saw who he really was for the first time. my very sweet, very well mannered gentleman of a fiance suddenly became this huge crass, obnoxious, rude queen whom i had never met before. my friends told me i was just getting cold feet but it got worse and worse. one night i was laying in bed with him and i couldn't sleep, cause i knew i had to break it off. i woke him up and we talked about it and i gave him back the ring and he moved out the next day. then he started stalking me. not scary dangerous stalking, but stalking none the less. he would break into my the car (it was a crap car, an old one where you could unlock it with a wire coat hanger) and put mix tapes of songs and him begging me to reconsider in the tape player so when the car was turned on i had to hear him. he would break into the apartment and leave gifts and letters on the bed. i had to start locking all the windows and had to have the locks changed. oy... Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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cborgman said: yes, i have been, when i was young and stupid. i was 17 and met this great guy and we went out for a while, and were living together, and he asked me to marry him (or the non-legally recognized equivilant thereof), and i said yes.
after a few more months, he dropped the curtain and i saw who he really was for the first time. my very sweet, very well mannered gentleman of a fiance suddenly became this huge crass, obnoxious, rude queen whom i had never met before. my friends told me i was just getting cold feet but it got worse and worse. one night i was laying in bed with him and i couldn't sleep, cause i knew i had to break it off. i woke him up and we talked about it and i gave him back the ring and he moved out the next day. then he started stalking me. not scary dangerous stalking, but stalking none the less. he would break into my the car (it was a crap car, an old one where you could unlock it with a wire coat hanger) and put mix tapes of songs and him begging me to reconsider in the tape player so when the car was turned on i had to hear him. he would break into the apartment and leave gifts and letters on the bed. i had to start locking all the windows and had to have the locks changed. oy...  | |
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TRON said: cborgman said: yes, i have been, when i was young and stupid. i was 17 and met this great guy and we went out for a while, and were living together, and he asked me to marry him (or the non-legally recognized equivilant thereof), and i said yes.
after a few more months, he dropped the curtain and i saw who he really was for the first time. my very sweet, very well mannered gentleman of a fiance suddenly became this huge crass, obnoxious, rude queen whom i had never met before. my friends told me i was just getting cold feet but it got worse and worse. one night i was laying in bed with him and i couldn't sleep, cause i knew i had to break it off. i woke him up and we talked about it and i gave him back the ring and he moved out the next day. then he started stalking me. not scary dangerous stalking, but stalking none the less. he would break into my the car (it was a crap car, an old one where you could unlock it with a wire coat hanger) and put mix tapes of songs and him begging me to reconsider in the tape player so when the car was turned on i had to hear him. he would break into the apartment and leave gifts and letters on the bed. i had to start locking all the windows and had to have the locks changed. oy... IT WAS YOU??!!  Power tends to corrupt; absolute power corrupts absolutely. - Lord Acton | |
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shausler said: now what offends you about that link your posting
my exchange with anotherlover or my reference to not getting along with you for whatever dated reason do tell ya know what fuck it im outta here fuck this what's weird about it is that you blame AnotherLoverToo for the fact that i blocked your ORGnotes. i already told you straight up why i did that. and then she told me you'd done something similar to her under your alter ego GirlIntercepted. and to make it worse,you denied being GirlIntercepted, then later admitted it when cornered with the truth. my point is why not just say what you think to people's face? why the subterfuge and denials? this is why i'm asking, are you ok? 'cause this is definitely not the shausler i know and love. you're way too talented a musician to be wasting time on writing odd ORGnotes to peeps when you could get to writing music instead just my 2c | |
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