Velvet...you already know how I feel... Both ears (well, eyes) are open thru here and email if you ever need them again...


Sweeny... ...you deserve every one of those, and so many more...

Tis sad a young lady trying to fight her heart in love..

Nobody needs nobody

And my feeling is that you need to be first in your life. He can handle himself...

Okay, I just got to say, on behalf of nice guys everywhere:


DUMP THE MOTHERFUCKER!! DON'T LOOK BACK!!!

Seriously, there are a whole lot of guys who actually care about women, and respect them. Guys like this ruin it for us. No women trust us, because they've been fucked over so many times by jerks. They can't believe we are sincere, and that is so frustrating.

My point (and I do actually have one), is that you deserve better, and there are good guys out there willing to provide it. Don't fall for this guys emotional manipulations.

theVelvetRoper said:

Baby, it's not that you have no idea what to do, it's that you have no idea HOW to do it. All on this thread and all in your head you have heard, dump him, fuck him, let it go. so much easier said than done. The actual procedure for doing this has not been shared here. I am dealing with an ex who now "needs" me. Well I have found the only thing keeping my horny ass out of the bed of the man with whom I have the best sex I ever had is distance. I don't answer the phone when I see it is him calling, I just don't pick the damn thing up. I pretend I am not online when he IM's me. I pretend I didn't get his e-mails. I don't go to his house. If I do pick up the phone I am "sooo sleepy" or I "have to go see about the bunny (our 5 year old)" Most of all I cannot get within a a couple of feet of him (I have to actually see him when pickup/dropoff our daughter) because after that the magnet inside his body pulls too strongly on my steel will. Girl, if you can move where you live, across town or across the country or get a job on the graveyard shift or anything that makes it more inconvenient to communicate then do that. If you can get the decision to communicate as much out of your hands as possible it will be easier.

Also, find someone to have a crush on. You don't ever have to even tell them, just find someone to fill that spot in your fantasies so you can actually imagine being with someone else. Not some movie star but someone you know. Put on something tight one day and walk around getting hit on to remind you that other people will find you attractive. chat online with other folks to remind yourself that others will find you interesting. You sound really smart, especially for 19. I am 37 going through the same damn thing! If you can't do him you have to find someone else to do til you get over him. I'm sure my advice isn't for everybody but the main thing is it works!

Look forward to the day that you see him with someone else and go Phew! instead of Damn! When I realized I didnt give flying f*ck who he was doing I remember thinking "Oh thank God I'm over that idiot". Good luck to you dear. Obviously men don't get much older than 7 so you are going to have to think up new ways to deal with them to keep yourself sane.

You don't know what Love is if you love this guy.
Secondly, you are 19, you don't know what Love is.

Love isn't an emotion and you are letting your emotions dictate this situation. Love is a feeling. You know it when you have it and when you are having problems like this, it isn't love. Someone you love doesn't make you cry.

Tell him to fuck off and change your phone number. Don't ever accept another one of his calls no matter how much he begs. Never open the door for him.

He only needs you because you are convenient and there isn't another girl out there who will do it. Trust me, I have been that guy before.

Get some self esteem and grow a backbone and tell him to go away for good. Don't worry about being alone. Get a dog if you have to or go find another man.

Once you are happy being alone, then you will realize it when you finally have that good relationship. Be happy with yourself, the rest will come later.

bkw said:

My hands are on my hips as I say this

hardy har har muthafuckas

2the9s said:

now if only I can get back my girlish figure I once had