ugh, i hate family holidays. my oh so ghetto brother gets on the phone and the first thing he says is "hey, i told mom that i ma gonna pick you up from the airport and since it gets in so late at night you are gonna spend the night at my place.and guess what? i had another baby sunday"

before i can stop myself, i say "again?"

it is his 4th tht we know of. he randomly impregnates women and then the owmen hate him and we never see the kids. it drives me nuts.

"yea, and i think there is another girl in dallas, but i think she is gonna have an abortion."

oh, god, i don't wanna go home...

please, santa, bring me a real family for christmas.

poor Chris - we don't pick our families, i'm afraid! hope you can make the best of it!

Have fun Chris... and if things get bad take a taxi to your mom's..

...welcome to the club. Every time I go home I am suddenly reduced to a petulant 13-year-old in the body of a grown-ass adult, not to mention the fact that nobody wants to hear a word I have to say about what goes on in my life, yet I'm expected to listen to everyone rattle on and on and on about their medical woes and workplace dramas. I don't care about my OWN workplace dramas, WHY would I care about someone else's??? I mean, it could be worse - everyone in my family could have a proclivity for violence and they could be members of some kind of blood cult. I guess I should count my blessings.

1 - 2 - ...

Yeah, that about does it for the counting.

the worst part is he and one of his friends are going to be picking me up, and his friends are all gang-bangers. i am already paranoid about airport cops after my encounter being arrested at the airport for outstanding tickets, and i just know we are gonna get pulled over cause him and his friends don't have the sense to not smoke out while driving way over the speed limit with deafening rap cds on.

jason has already been arrested several times, he just invites it. several ties for possesion of marijuana, once for having a handgun, once for stealing a car.

and my mother i can tell is already trrying to set me up with one of her 50 year old church men, i can feel it. she had that happy little tinkle in her voice when she mentioned that she is giving christmas eve mass at the church she started, and mentioned that all of the guys from the church will be there. she has made it her mission in life to marry me off to one of her rich creepy old gay man friends.

and aaron, my other brother who has become a JW will be there, protesting our celebration of christmas and the sexual orientations of me and my mother.

oh, dear lord, i do not wanna go.



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[This message was edited Tue Dec 23 8:26:30 PST 2003 by cborgman]

Christmas can be testing, I hope you enjoy yourself Chris.

cborgman said:

That does suck. BUT, the women don't have to be stupid enough to get pregnant either.

We all have those crazy people in our family.

Try to make the best of it.

Hang in there, honey...I hope that you can focus on what positive there is...we'll be waiting to hear some interesting stories when you get back

cborgman said:

That is SUCH a scene from a movie. But, um, not really funny in real life.



OMG. Worse than I thought.

Praying for Chris...

feel free to call, if -- okay, when, u need a break. have a great trip and think happy thoughts. don't let THEIR shit bug u out. here's another 4 the road.

madartista said:

please keep your cell phone close to you and high alert for the next three days, so if i start to lose my mind i can call and get a sane person.

madartista said:

you are my beacon of sanity the next few days.



thank god for you

thank you everyone.

cborgman said:

Call a cab or taxi... I won't/wouldn't rely on family that is negative or ill influenced. I have long seperated myself from my biological mother/sister/cousins (all in peace), although totally for my own well-being and spiritual growth. Nothing will stop me. (yes, I say this with conviction)

Seperation is sometimes the only way to go... Chris. (I know)

~My family is small... although what I have and chosen to have is the most beautiful of all things. *sigh*

i should never have let them talk me into going. i shoulda just said i was too busy.

i hope SW airlines sells drinks on the flight.

it could be worse, i could be forced to spend it with my father's side of the family...

I sooo understand what you mean. I live in the same city with my family, but I don't really see them that often, 'cuz my mom is nuts! No, I mean literally! Why my father hasn't had the poor woman commited years ago is beyond me. I mean, I love her, but she's totally squirel-bait! A couple of Christmases ago, she entertained us all with her elaborate theory about how Alec Baldwin is possessed by demons! The other day she called to tell me how Prince Charles is the Anti-Christ (she has a great explanation for that one). Great! I get to hear all about that one this year!!!

My dad is great, as long as he doesn't get started on politics (he's an ultra-conservative, so you can imagine that he and I clash on this topic). My siblings and my grandma are a joy, but we're all dreading my mom's random rants that explode when you least expect it! She can be going along, seeming as normal as can be, and then she'll suddenly burst forth with some cockamammie theory about how Hillary Clinton is secretly trying to murder all the Christians (yup, that's another real one she came up with). To top it all off, my dad lost his job recently, so the stress is making her worse than normal (often she's able to act normal for extended periods, although she almost always acts up at immediate family gatherings).

JediMaster said:

Honestly... I don't celebrate Christmas... but I do give... unconditionally/compassionately, no matter the date of calendar.



Just say no to Negativity.


[This message was edited Tue Dec 23 8:48:16 PST 2003 by Freespirit]

Anxiety said:

ehh... it was too long to read, and as i read it again for the first time in 6 years, i realized my writing has thankfully, come a long way.
[This message was edited Tue Dec 23 8:56:04 PST 2003 by cborgman]

One word Chris:cab. My hope for you is that you can find a way to get closer and make peace within your family because think of if you had no family to go home to at all.

JediMaster said:

god bless you for being as screwed up as i am about family. you and me and freespirit and others tht come from severely screwed up fmailys need to gather together at the holidays and drink ourselves into oblivion.

No, no... finding your peace free of drink and drugs... but high on life and nature... is the way to go.

Let me take you by the hand and show you... (perhaps one day)



*beautiful sigh*

stymie said:

i am gonna put my foot down, if they start smoking in the car or speding, i am gonna wig out on them untill they stop.

i think next year i am gonna get a bottle of vodka and put it in a glass case with one of those little hammers on a chain and have "break in case of family" on it.

Vodka--lots of vodka and cranberry juice..helps.

rdhull said:

thankfully, my mother's lover Sue, keeps a really well stocked liquor cabinet that she is happy to mix things from for me. which of course sends my JW brother into rants about the evils of alcohol, but after a few drinks, his voice is replaced in my head by prince singing usually.

JediMaster said: