Why in the hell is everybody leaving this place??? I don't understand this. Why would you let some assholes chase you away from your friends? Why let someone's negativity take control of you to the point that you give them the power of setting the tone of this site?

I understand that sometimes we need to take a break. But so many great people are leaving. How will the negativity be broken if nobody sticks around to make the site what they want it to be?

Everybody take a deep breath...and chill

Power to the People.

he who takes the hot lead enima . .




let HIM cast the first stone

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

this insane negativity is getting out of control and people are starting to jump ship because of it.

she orgnoted me too

i'll make sure i'll open more org accounts, each with a unique personality...you'd think no one left

cborgman said:

i heard from her, too. we're losing people with great, grounded personalities and genuine concern for others.

the point has been made before that people should just grow thicker skins - i think i like thin-skinned people, they tend to be more insightful.

I mean it seems like every other day there is an "I'm Leaving" thread. And all because of how some people have been spreading negativity. Giving them control just isn't right. I'm not going anywhere and nobody is ever gonna chase me out of here. There will be blood before that happens

Ardeo said:

don't.

IAmTheTouch said:

in general, most of the orgers who prescribe "becoming thick-skinned" as the answer, should really just be saying: "i don't want to bothered to be nice to people, it's more effort than i want to invest. i would rather everyone else become pointlessly cruel like me"
[This message was edited Mon Dec 22 12:17:34 PST 2003 by cborgman]

i miss the old days

i miss talking about prince

i miss what i originally came here for in the first place

i am the one who has strayed

i am going to the prince music forum

i am going to get on back to what





brought me here

in the first place




thats right


im leaving forums





\/))/\/\s Yo!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

very true.

IAmTheTouch said:

Some people need to develop the skills to deal with the negativity that occurs here. Not saying that this is the only reason people leave and I'm certainly not saying my girl don't have skills.

I know people have a life outside the org and sometimes you need to focus on your house for a while. But to leave because of some assholes stupidity?

Come and get your hug on when you need it!! I love my friends and hope that some of them who have left will return. I'll be here when they do

cborgman said:

not quite. i consider myself pretty thick-skinned, but i don't live to make others miserable. if one can hold their own it don't mean that they're awful.

IAmTheTouch said:

i think given the suspicions i have about the few new mods coming up, things will be changing around here. deja definately falls on the the "if ya aint got nothing nice to say, dont say anything at all" side, but she is only one woman armed against a big throng of the cynics.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

i should rephrase:

people who tend to prescribe "becoming thick skinned" as the answer to the org negativity are using the phrase in place of their true intentions. not everyone that is thick skinned is a negativity monger.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

i will say this that wether it is the role of the org or

not to toughen the skin, it will by sheer osmosis alone

teach one to take it all with a grain

now mind you im still workin on it but

im better

shausler said:

i have become a lot more thick skinned about it, but it has also dimmed my enjoyment of this place a little, sadly.

cborgman said:

It's not just the mod's responsibility to catch the nasty moments of the org. Use the report to moderator link!!! Let's take care of each other! I'm not outside of the musicians forum much, but when I see negativity that goes overboard, I report it.

Friendship is noble, fruitful,holy
When two separate souls march in difference
Yet in harmony; agreeing and disagreeing,
Glowingly improving diversely...
Ah, friendship - flowering, heaven-born plant!
Nurtured art thou in the soil of measureless love,
In the seeking o soul progress together.
By two who would smooth the way, each for the other.

VinaBlue said:

agreed.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

that's exactly how i see it. i stay around and be a part of the org to help make it a better place.

cborgman said:

well put!

and really, we all know the difference between a good-natured ribbing and careless or even intentional hurtfulness. when in doubt, err on the side of caution. it's quite simple, really.

shausler said:

oh who am i kidding

cborgman said:

And I'm not saying that being thick skinned is the only response. People should be allowed to feel what they feel. But taking away positive presence and leaving the negative behind isn't going to make this a better place. Staying and connecting with the people you love will

I have tended not to fight others battles, even though lord knows I'm ready to kick ass at the drop of a hat to protect the friends I love.

I am always here for my friends when they need me.

Always.

can't you just ask people 2 submit credit card numbers for id verification? like MSN

shausler said:

Nobody you little scamp

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

and we love you for it. it saddens me that some of the strongest beacons of positivity (most notabely moonbeam) have had enough and left, but thank the lord there are still others.

and you are definately one of em

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

You're so cool.