XxAxX has mentioned me as the reason for hurting Melissa's feelings... I find that somewhat humorous, ridiculous, misinformed and misdirected.

I merely posted the results of a nomination. Not even my nomination. I had two noms for the category of "Most Embarrassing Thread"... the two listed were the two nominated. I didn't nominate either of them, but was obligated to list them as per my previously listed rules. Hell, I didn't even vote for that thread in that category... so...why you hatin' on me and judging me and my persona based solely on my avatar XxAxX?

Shame too, cuz I always liked you.

The ".Orgies" is not new to this site. It was started by Aerogram and continued on by me. It was set up this year with rules on the nominating process and the voting process which concludes tonight at midnight.

I'm sorry Melissa decided to leave the site. That was never an intention of mine, and it makes me quite sad. I hope she reconsiders because as an .Orger, I've always liked what she brought to the site...

Now, as far as that thread goes... I believe I responded on the thread with the attitude that you both know what you're doing and that I hope you two were happy. In fact, I just checked the thread (thanks matt!) and can post exactly how I reacted to it. Here's the copy:

I just now clicked on this thread...

People are always gonna comment on shit others post, but that's what's expected 'round here... otherwise, it wouldn't be posted in the first place.

Got that?

Anyways... Congrats to both of you, I hope all works out and that you find what you're looking for. Life is funny that way - risk takers live life to the fullest!

Carry on...


Matt, if you read this post (and the .Orgies thread), I hope you realize that nothing I posted was malicious or mean spirited... in fact I've reiterated several times (at the .Orgies thread) that this was all in fun.

I hope things work out. I'm sorry if I offended Melissa or you in any way.


(clarification edit... )
[This message was edited Fri Dec 19 23:17:12 PST 2003 by June7]

kiss85 said:

This isn't a street of strangers; it's a community of people who interact with one another.

matt said:

Yeah, behind computer screens!

The workplace is also a community of people who interact with one another, and like that "workplace", the org is also an environment whereas some people with different views, tempers, mindframes, etc. tend to criticize and/or make "mountains out of molehills" of issues that are brought to peoples' attention. Would you, or have you already told your coworkers about this? If so, how did they react?
[This message was edited Fri Dec 19 22:38:49 PST 2003 by kiss85]

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[This message was edited Fri Dec 19 22:39:12 PST 2003 by kiss85]

Okaaay,

here's the newcomer's two cents:

This thread is sort of stupid and childish. I don't know either one of you. Am I to understand that you are one of the moderators of this site?

I don't give a rat's ass WHAT you two do, but in the words of another poster, posting this kind of thing does reek of the "look at me" syndrome. Think about what the new people are thinking. They're not really interested in your love life either way.

I think the whole polyamorous thing is a cop out anyway. Too weak to actually commit, also too weak to stay single. But that's just MY opinion. Sorry.

rdhull said:

I thought pejman was gazoo.

boo fucking hoo

is it too late to name this the most embarrassing thread of the year?

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[This message was edited Sat Dec 20 1:52:20 PST 2003 by AaronAlmighty]

still reading... noticing the disdain for "negativity".



i've been here since the day this website opened as the ppml, when the only interaction on the website itself was the chatroom. "negativity" has been a core value here from the very beginning. and it carried on into the news threads, and now the forums. people are JUST NOW bitching about it? noticing it? what? it's been like that since DAY ONE, when there were huge "soap opera"-esque dramas and epic flame wars with FACE and Bill and others. since when did this place become a site where the thin-skinned, weak-willed and crybabies were coddled and pitied?


and yeah, i know, i'm one of the people that is often labeled as a source of "negativity" (hell, maybe i'm the serpent that brought evil into the garden of eden since i was here from the first day on), but i don't think it's an issue. the "negativity" thing is bullshit. grow up. be a real person. there are people who aren't going to like you or like what you have to say or your personality, or whatever, ANYWHERE IN THE WORLD. if it's too much for you to deal with, i suggest that you lie under your bed and wait for the world to pass you by. get over it. it's a fucking website. if it's not fun for you, and you can't handle a little bit of dislike from the people you come across, leave. that goes for a website, a job, a home... but there's nowhere on the planet that you're going to get sunshine blown up your ass 24 hours a day, so you better just learn to get over it.

I don't even know what the hell is going on in this thread because I don't have the patience to read past the first 50 people who posted. I did read the most important reply and that would be from RD.

Here is a quote

from matt

I don't think so, not even close. People become very attached to online communities. People meet best friens, future wives and husbands and future same sex wives and husbands on message boards. These boards are like anything in life that feels good. It can be highly addictive. (Pej, I didn't say it)

People say they are leaving for one reason. ATTENTION and that means you SUPA (leaving for your dam Rootbeer-- :LOL:) People are not leaving and telling people they are leaving because they are upset with the harsness of this message board (If this is harsh I'll take it any day of the week, year or decades)

I'm not saying this is 100 percent and in fact I can think of 2 situations that people did leave because of certain reasons. I think one mentioned it and the other faded. They are both back on the board and I'm stoked because I think they have great personalities and they stimulate converstation.

Shit: Evil White Male, Chemmie and Ice Nine I mean number32 or is that number23 stimulate thought and out of the 3 I can say 2 have the worst mentality about race on this board. The third may have the same mentality but I've never seen or read it and you know what? What the fu ck am I going off on this for.

I take everything back, I'm sorry for your girl what can I do to help, I feel so bad and I hope my words didn't effect your decision to stay. I'm leaving the org, :LOL:

Are you physically leaving the org. If you do can you give the address of this place so I can go visit and have cookies and punch
[This message was edited Sat Dec 20 2:13:26 PST 2003 by mrbungle]

mrbungle, congratulations on having the 100th contribution to this nonsense

AaronAlmighty said:

Isn't that great, I feel like such a schwepo for posting, I got to a point and I said what fuck am I falling for this trash.

Aaron you're on it!!!

mrbungle said:

Hey!!!

I was 90th, goddammit!!!

June7 said:

91

:LOL: I'm sorry I have a short attention span :LOL:
[This message was edited Sat Dec 20 2:34:33 PST 2003 by mrbungle]

CtheUncanny said:

I agree 100%!

AaronAlmighty said:

Telling like it is!

bkw said:

me too. 100%. if there are things that you're sensitive about and can't take heat for, don't share them. yes, this place is a community. it is. but starting threads sharing incredibly personal information is like advertising your personal feelings and relationships in a community newspaper. just like when you confide in a friend, there are orgnotes for that sort of thing. when you decide to share something with the community at large, it had better be something you're willing to take the reactions to, good and bad. for example, i'm in a deeply committed and successful relationship with another orger and have been for some time now. but only a handful of people even know who it is, because i'm not prepared to put certain personal business of my own out there for public consumption.

June7 said:

i stand corrected, june7. and i apologize for wrongly blaming you. i didn't know you simply compiled the nominations, not created them. as i'm spending less and less time in here i find it impossible to keep up with the latest dramas, coolest threads, and popularity contests... erm, appreciation threads. i guess i missed your 'nominate' thread and the rules thereto altogether even

i still think the nominations thread is a bit mean - i never hated IceNine as i said right out on the thread itself, and i think it's mean for any ORGer to make a point like that of putting down another like that, even for the sake of humor.

that being said, unlike melissa i wouldn't leave the ORG if someone nominated me to "worst big mouth" or something for my posts on this thread. i just don't care about what people on here think of me that much. i do kind of think it's a shame that melissa feels betrayed (and i hope matt doesn't shut the place down and walk away after this), but then again if melissa was a part of creating and posting the 'statement of love' thread then i guess she should have been mindful of the potential consequences. at this point i have no idea if matt typed the 'statement' like he did this thread, without melissa's input, or if she typed or what.

anyway color me sorry for picking on you june7. i retract that and pick instead on all people who submitted nominations and think it's funny to single people out for shit like 'most hated orger' and 'most embarassing thread' when those judgment calls are entirely subjective anyway.

and after actually spending valuable minutes of my life on this thread i must come to the inevitable conclusion...i'm just way too old for this stuff anymore and i don't have time to sort it all out by hanging around and watching 'as the ORG turns'. i just popped in this morning to see if matt had shut down the ORG yet.

have a good weekend. again, i'm sorry i made fun of your butt-cheek avatar june7 and implied it was anything less than tasteful. and also for thinking you were rdhull. ..

NOT that there's anything wrong with being rdhull! i didn't mean to imply that either... bother. waayyy too late to quit while i'm ahead

XxAxX said:

:sniff: :sniff: I smell guilt. This Melissa chick might not be as comfortable with her "lifestyle" as she projects.

Hmmm...

I like Melissa. Shame she only really posted in the L,S & R forum of late. I don't venture in there very often. Anyway, if you read this M, I hope you're okay.

XxAxX said:

Apology accepted.

June7 said:

You guys are apologizing over an avatar

rdhull said:

...and it was more that. She said she was sorry for thinking I was rdhull! :shudder:

What the fuck is all this shit?

EvilWhiteMale said:

June7 said:

yes I know that, but that's not what I copied and responded too..yall need to calm the fuck down. And yeah I shudder at folks thnking anyone besides me is me so dont fret none because I dont want anyonbe thinking you're me either June 7th

EvilWhiteMale said:

It's like one of theose thread u post ewm about "ok everyone--I am sick and tired of..."

its like one of those

rdhull said:

:LOL: Yin meet Yang