Sweeny79 said:

Noo, I have been *broken* many times, I bounce back and am stronger than ever even though at the time I am weaker than a sick bunny rabbit... but nature is strange, you have to conquer all and not let *them* win!

I am broken, maybe I did allow it, but the outcome does not change. I won't be stronger I'll be colder but that's the way it works for me I guess.
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Sweeny79 said:

It will make you a stronger person, you just cant see that right now.

Paisley said:

maybe
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Sweeny79 said:

I thought that way too honey, really, but if you met someone else ( I am thinking this is to do with a man, right?) do you want to shun him and be so cold and judge all men cos of this asshole?


Be strong! Lift your head up high, f*ck him! Girl Power and all that! (yes cliche, cliche)

But you are young and strong, dont ruin your life over someone who you say "cannot not care if they hurt another human? "


You care, and we do too, so please just say F*ck Off to him! and go party!

Sweeny79 said:

No you don't!

I take every bad situation as an opportunity for growth... you learn so much each and every time.

REDFEATHERS said:

No you misuderstand, it's not just a man it's a lot of things in my life, I witness the good people I know get shit on while the assholes just walk around without a care in the world. I don't judge all men based on one. I don't even judge the one who hurt me, and I'm not sure i would call him an asshole either. I'm sure he has his reasons for EVERYTHING he does and a s Sag10 says, karma
Thanks for listening/reading

sag10 said:

Hey I edited that

Sweeny79 said:

Ok well I misunderstood, but hey! you are better than these ppl...

Thanks red

and sag

2the9s said:

HA!

Sweeny79 said:

on a serious note it will forever be a mystery why some people are assholes. Maybe because of things that happened in the past

Be careful the cold wind doesn't blow out the flame in you, sweeny.

Just remember what I said, and what everyone else has said at least once in their lifetime,'what goes around comes around'. Someday the hurters will be the ones hurting.

Sweeny79 said:

Talking to your family and friends helps Sweeny, it can make the difference between feeling cold and losing faith and becoming strong again. It takes time to regain your confidence but you will do it. Don't keep it in, I've made that mistake.

Take care Sweeny

Number23 said:

It will but, someone else will light it back up for me I'm sure Thank you

LittlePill said:

I SO love you Jersey boy! :Kiss2:

alrighty sweeny im outta here

take care :HUG:

Christopher said:

Thanks Christopher, :hillaryduff:

Lleena said:

Thanks Lleena, I've been holding it in a long time but I've been talking lately. It's posion to keep it in

Sweeny79 said:

you should put that song on.cause it rocks.

ok latas:)

Christopher said:

yeah that the only reason
later

Sweeny79 said:

It's hard to stay cool when there's a fire inside, huh?

Number23 said:

I guess so

There are bad people and there are good people. Many people are very selfish and others less so.

I'm sure you have friends, family etc who are good people. Just seek out their company for a while and it will affirm your faith in humans.

Sweeny79 said:

Thanks Jersey girl! right back at ya!

LittlePill said:

Why?

Because many people tend to gravitate towards that which brings them the most pleasure and the least amount of discomfort--and to get it as quickly as possible. Many feel that whatever they decide to do is just in their "nature", and that they have no control over their behaviors. It takes a great deal of effort sometimes to do the thing that is difficult or unselfish, rather than the easy, fun thing that feels good. Others are deliberately harmful to others because they gain a sense of power and control.

Finally--others just don't "get" it. They are unable to see how their behaviors have the potential to affect/hurt others.

I hope you're feeling better soon, Sweeny!

AnotherLoverToo said:

You say it so well...

AnotherLoverToo said:

very well put! operative word being "unable" - it helps to focus on the fact that people who hurt others are, at that point, unable to deal with the situation in any other way. everything in life is a matter of cause and effect. something in their being does not allow them to look beyond their own pain, their own needs, to see how they affect others.

i sincerely believe that a person does whatever they do to the best of THEIR ability at THAT particular time. sometimes the outcome is a very good one, and sometimes it is not. you can not control the thoughts or actions of others, only your own response to them.

ok, i'll get off my soapbox now. good luck, sweeny! i'm sure you'll be able to look back at this situation later and see it in a larger context, and for what it truly is.
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