...Now, what would you do if you got this letter? What does this letter mean? How is it different from thr first one?

I get spam mail like this all the time, mostly from my wife. Mailwasher works for me. If that were to fail, I've heard being friendly to people is worth a try.

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They clearly are of different personality temperaments. Either the one doesn't feel as strongly and or does but doesn't need as much contact.

The writer needs to learn the term "Let go." A year has passed and with a follow up like that I would say they have an obsession with the recipient. Which falls lightly under the heading stocker!

They clearly are of different personality temperaments. Either the one doesn't feel as strongly and or does but doesn't need as much contact.

The writer needs to learn the term "Let go." A year has passed and with a follow up like that I would say they have an obsession with the recipient. Which falls lightly under the heading stocker!

I'm leaning more towards that the letter writer is a stalker and the recipient is smart to stay away...

Perhaps theres more to this than meets the eye. Is this person imagining this thingy is happenin orrr...was there really sumfin goin on..in the start maybeee and you lost interest or i dunno. See, i fink the thing is wif some situations is communication and mixed messages n blah blah know what i'm sayin. ANyways..im on pain killers so im not much help...but yeah okay..seee yaaa

Perhaps theres more to this than meets the eye. Is this person imagining this thingy is happenin orrr...was there really sumfin goin on..in the start maybeee and you lost interest or i dunno. See, i fink the thing is wif some situations is communication and mixed messages n blah blah know what i'm sayin. ANyways..im on pain killers so im not much help...but yeah okay..seee yaaa

lilmissmissy said:

Oh, I do think there were some mixed messages and signals and definitely a miscommunication somewhere. I mean, come on, if someone told be they wanted me to be the mother of their child, I wouldn't take that as being "just a friend" I would think that person saw me in a way beyond just friendship. A child connects people for life, even if something terrible happens to the child, those two people will be connected forever and it's a serious thing. I believe there was definitely an attraction between the two and that attraction went away for one and not the other for specific reasons

lilmissmissy said:

Your career in counselling awaits - just wean yourself off the painkillers first.

I read both letters and I'm not sure what 2 say. It seems the friendship is very one-sided and that the recipent doesn't really care about the writers feelings or just dismisses them totally.

How close friends were the writer/recipent or where they just acquitances (can't spell )?. It seems the writer has become obsessed with the recipent and that they are holding on 2 memories of a friendship.

I don't know the full story so I'm not making any judgments but think that the writer should understand that the recipent doesn't care about their friendship no more, this is the view I'm getting from the writer recieving no response.

Both have 2 discuss this situation @ perhaps it can b remedied.

I'm leaning more towards that the letter writer is a stalker and the recipient is smart to stay away...

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Muse, did you write that letter How ya doin sweets?

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Wait a minute! Are you sure you didn't mean they work at a grocery store? I got that vibe.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

How dare you!! Good one!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

whoa, isn't a stalker someone who wont leave you alone after you've told them to stop and they follow you around and stuff??? Maybe I'm wrong

Knowing both of these people, I will say the the recipient is a little on the self-centered, selfish side by their own admission. I'm more on the writer's side because they have the same view on friendship as I do. I think people use the word friend when they really should be using the word associate.
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thetimefan said:

They were very close. They saw each other and talked to each other on an average of every other day. They went out a lot together, shared intimate feelings and secrets with each other, supported one another in their interests, gave each other long drawn-out hugs goodbye. The recipient actually called the writer their boyfriend/girlfriend at one time and admitted to being jealous when the writer mentioned a significant other.

Janfriend said:

This is very interesting. From what you say it seems they were very close, and perhaps the writer's jealousy turned the recipent away...who know's. I am not judging the writer @ all but it seems that they became obsessed by the recipent a great deal, even 2 the point that they said they were jealous.

I'll guess the writer is a guy and the recipent is a girl but I may be wrong and its most likely that the recipent is now ignoring the writer. The writer obviously (can't spell wanted more than to be just friends and this may have put off the recipent but again I don't know the full story.

I think the recipent should have the decency to tell the letter writer why they didn't write back or phone etc. If they were such close friends then why are they in this situation?.

If the recipent isn't interested in being the writer's friend no more they should tell them, but I think the writer wants a relationship with the recipent and that they won't be happy unless they are, being friends isn't good enough, therefore the recipent is ignoring them.

Friendship has turned into obsession, and therefore, if I was the recipent I wouldn't want to continue the friendship. Just my opinion.

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Janfriend said:

When I say stalker, I mean all you'd have to do is add a little actual commitment on the recipients part and this person would absolutely be in stalker mode. Look at the depth of feelings the writer is expressing. Just imagine how much hardcore things would be if they did have a sexual relationship with the recipient of the letter. I wouldn't be surprised if they would become suicidal after losing this person as a lover.

And might I add that the recipient of the letter is screwed up too if in fact they claimed at anypoint to be in a girlfriend/boyfriend relationship, knowing full well that wasn't their intention, and especially if they got jealous of someone the writer was committed too. It sounds like that person likes to play head games and might be having fun with the writer of the letter much like a cat who plays with a mouse until it's dead...

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

So, where's the line between being in love and being obsessed? Couldn't it be that the writer is just in love with the recipient? What makes it obsession as oppsed to love?

Janfriend said:

I can certainly understand the feelings the writer is having. When I love, it's with every fiber of my being. That sounds like the kind of love the writer has for the recipient. I'm saying that the writer would have crossed the line to obsession if they did consumate and have an actual relationship with the recipient vs. just being friends. I mean look at the wording. This person professes undying love and they were only "friends"