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Questions, Questions, Questions... I'm sitting here sick and eating oatmeal(first thing I've eaten in 2 days)...don't have to go to work...should be laying down...but fever brings me here instead. 
So I thought, what the hey...whip out the ol' "Book Of Questions" and ask a few to you kind souls...*smile* 
1) A dear, longtime friend comes to you asking you to write them a glowing letter of recommendation for a job they're interviewing for...You know your friend desperately needs this job, yet you also know that your friend is not qualified for the job and will most likely do poorly if hired. Do you write them a letter that does not truly reflect your feelings...or do you refuse to help your friend who's in need of assistance on principle? 2) If you could only have one or the other, which would you have: a love relationship that is intense, passionate, peaceful, erotic, and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams--however, it will only last 6 months...or a relationship that is average, and will contain none of the passionate, erotic, peaceful and fulfilling highs of true love--but it will last forever?? (and, no, you're not allowed to say "both"...lol) 3) Which would you rather have: A magnificent experience, of which you'll never have a memory of...or the memory of a magnificent experience of which you actually never experienced? I'll answer in a few...  | |
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Byron said: I'm sitting here sick and eating oatmeal(first thing I've eaten in 2 days)...don't have to go to work...should be laying down...but fever brings me here instead.
So I thought, what the hey...whip out the ol' "Book Of Questions" and ask a few to you kind souls...*smile*
1) A dear, longtime friend comes to you asking you to write them a glowing letter of recommendation for a job they're interviewing for...You know your friend desperately needs this job, yet you also know that your friend is not qualified for the job and will most likely do poorly if hired. Do you write them a letter that does not truly reflect your feelings...or do you refuse to help your friend who's in need of assistance on principle? I would write, but only embellish minimally. 2) If you could only have one or the other, which would you have: a love relationship that is intense, passionate, peaceful, erotic, and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams--however, it will only last 6 months...or a relationship that is average, and will contain none of the passionate, erotic, peaceful and fulfilling highs of true love--but it will last forever?? (and, no, you're not allowed to say "both"...lol) Average. But thank God you can have both in real life
3) Which would you rather have: A magnificent experience, of which you'll never have a memory of...or the memory of a magnificent experience of which you actually never experienced? The experience I'll answer in a few... | |
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1. I write the friend the letter regardless. My love for my friends is pretty much unconditional. He/she needs to know I will stand behind him.
2. I would much rather have the six month intense relationship. Did the average realtionship for six years...time I won't get back. 3. I rather have the magnificent experience. | |
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You're delirious with fever, aren't you...
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Byron said: I'm sitting here sick and eating oatmeal(first thing I've eaten in 2 days)...don't have to go to work...should be laying down...but fever brings me here instead.
So I thought, what the hey...whip out the ol' "Book Of Questions" and ask a few to you kind souls...*smile*
1) A dear, longtime friend comes to you asking you to write them a glowing letter of recommendation for a job they're interviewing for...You know your friend desperately needs this job, yet you also know that your friend is not qualified for the job and will most likely do poorly if hired. Do you write them a letter that does not truly reflect your feelings...or do you refuse to help your friend who's in need of assistance on principle? i would write the letter...and then hope my friend does their best at the new job...who am i to say they will or wont do well ? 2) If you could only have one or the other, which would you have: a love relationship that is intense, passionate, peaceful, erotic, and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams--however, it will only last 6 months...or a relationship that is average, and will contain none of the passionate, erotic, peaceful and fulfilling highs of true love--but it will last forever?? (and, no, you're not allowed to say "both"...lol) i would take the relationship that lasts forever...and then work on how to make it better...there is always room for improvement in a relationship...none of them are perfect 
3) Which would you rather have: A magnificent experience, of which you'll never have a memory of...or the memory of a magnificent experience of which you actually never experienced? i would take the experience...you live but once in life...and i intend to experience all i can in life 
I'll answer in a few... THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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1) i would be truthful in what i write about my friend and play up their good qualities and skills that would fit the position they are applying for.
2) the short, but passionate relationship 3) the experience **************************************************
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and byron...i hope you feel better soon sweetheart  :F:THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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1) I would write a reference hilighting the skills they do have. I would be honest. Many jobs offer training and once the friend actually is working the chances of them doing well will improve. I think everyone deserves a chance and especially if a friend is desperate for work.
2) I would go for the first shorter relationship. 3) I think I would like to have the memory so I could re-live it over and over..  | |
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1) Hard as it would be, I would refuse to write the letter of recommendation for my friend...and I would explain to them that they know they're not qualified, and that the only way I could write it is if I exaggerated to the point of lying...if they're as dear and close a longtime friend as I imagine, it will not harm the relationship too much, if at all...
2) I'd take the intense, passionate, peacful, erotic and fulfilling relationship over the other, average one...even though it will only last 6 months. Why??...Because I may die in 5 1/2 months...so to me, it would have lasted a lifetime...Besides, if I took the second relationship, I might die a year from now...would an extra six months of an average, unfulfilling relationship be worth it??...Six months in that type of relationship can feel like years...I'd rather spend it alone. 3) I'd rather have the memory of a fantastic event that I never really lived...than to experience the event and never have any memory of it...Why? Because, who's to say I already haven't done the latter?
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1.) Well Id have 2 approach this diplomatically so as 2 do justice 2 my friend whilst at the same time giving the employer an awareness of their weaknesses but how they could turn them in2 a strength if hired. Im sure that there is always a recognition that some1 is trying 2 do well in their job and wants 2 improve if given chance.
2.)A loving relationship that lasted 6 months would be what Id choose. This being in the sense that U can look back on that relationship with fond memories warm in the knowledge that someday in the future I will have another great, beautiful relationship again. If I was in an average relationship I would always be wondering what it felt like 2 have something really special. Although I guess at the same time I wouldnt know what something special was!! Erm, this is kinda tricky this question, but I still say the former! 3.)Well the latter I guess. The memory of a magnificent experience of which I never experienced. Ehehehe, I was 2 young 2 see or appreciate Prince at the height of his powers but Ive been left with a wonderful history of it still. [This message was edited Wed Nov 5 12:45:07 PST 2003 by JDINTERACTIVE] | |
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i had that incredible relationship..and as you said...its over now...and now i find myself trying to find a replacement for that wonderful time in my life...there is noone that can measure up to what was given to me by that man  this is just something i have come to understand... THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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stymie said: 12. I would much rather have the six month intense relationship. Did the average realtionship for six years...time I won't get back.
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applekisses said: You're delirious with fever, aren't you...
Hush, or I'll give you cooties... | |
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Byron said: 1) Hard as it would be, I would refuse to write the letter of recommendation for my friend...and I would explain to them that they know they're not qualified, and that the only way I could write it is if I exaggerated to the point of lying...if they're as dear and close a longtime friend as I imagine, it will not harm the relationship too much, if at all...
2) I'd take the intense, passionate, peacful, erotic and fulfilling relationship over the other, average one...even though it will only last 6 months. Why??...Because I may die in 5 1/2 months...so to me, it would have lasted a lifetime...Besides, if I took the second relationship, I might die a year from now...would an extra six months of an average, unfulfilling relationship be worth it??...Six months in that type of relationship can feel like years...I'd rather spend it alone. 3) I'd rather have the memory of a fantastic event that I never really lived...than to experience the event and never have any memory of it...Why? Because, who's to say I already haven't done the latter?
The memory lives within us and effects us longer and deeper than the event itself... Byron, you ARE A STUD! And a smart one at that. A certain Orger I know needs to pay special heed to item #2... I would do EXACTLY the same things that you would do. To a T. Peace! | |
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justkelley said: i would write the letter...and then hope my friend does their best at the new job...who am i to say they will or wont do well ?
Good point as well...however, what if it's for a job that they're obviously unqualified for?? i would take the relationship that lasts forever...and then work on how to make it better...there is always room for improvement in a relationship...none of them are perfect
But in this case, the relationship will not improve at all...however, neither will it get worse...just a straight, flat line of a relationship... | |
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DudeDrops said: Byron, you ARE A STUD! And a smart one at that.
Thank yew...(it's the Nyquil...lol) | |
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Byron said: applekisses said: You're delirious with fever, aren't you...
Hush, or I'll give you cooties...  | |
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justkelley said: and byron...i hope you feel better soon sweetheart
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Byron said: justkelley said: i would write the letter...and then hope my friend does their best at the new job...who am i to say they will or wont do well ?
Good point as well...however, what if it's for a job that they're obviously unqualified for?? then i guess they would have to work it out...why are they going for a job that they know they cant do anyway ? 
i would take the relationship that lasts forever...and then work on how to make it better...there is always room for improvement in a relationship...none of them are perfect
But in this case, the relationship will not improve at all...however, neither will it get worse...just a straight, flat line of a relationship... that would never happen..."just a straight, flat line of a relationship"...you know life doesnt work like that...hell...im not even that straight or that flat 
i see your point...but...the pain when its over on both of these counts wouldnt be worth it to me i dont think...i usually see things for the future they have...i am not good at looking in the momment 
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Byron said: I'm sitting here sick and eating oatmeal(first thing I've eaten in 2 days)...don't have to go to work...should be laying down...but fever brings me here instead.
So I thought, what the hey...whip out the ol' "Book Of Questions" and ask a few to you kind souls...*smile*
1) A dear, longtime friend comes to you asking you to write them a glowing letter of recommendation for a job they're interviewing for...You know your friend desperately needs this job, yet you also know that your friend is not qualified for the job and will most likely do poorly if hired. Do you write them a letter that does not truly reflect your feelings...or do you refuse to help your friend who's in need of assistance on principle? I would write the letter. And my friend would understand that it would not be glowing, but put in a way that portrays the truth. 2) If you could only have one or the other, which would you have: a love relationship that is intense, passionate, peaceful, erotic, and fulfilling beyond your wildest dreams--however, it will only last 6 months...or a relationship that is average, and will contain none of the passionate, erotic, peaceful and fulfilling highs of true love--but it will last forever?? (and, no, you're not allowed to say "both"...lol) I'd take the six months, and the memories that go with it.. Worry about tomorrow, tomorrow. 3) Which would you rather have: A magnificent experience, of which you'll never have a memory of...or the memory of a magnificent experience of which you actually never experienced? the memory... It is fun to relive those times..
I'll answer in a few... [This message was edited Wed Nov 5 14:08:14 PST 2003 by sag10] ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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DudeDrops said: Byron said: 1) Hard as it would be, I would refuse to write the letter of recommendation for my friend...and I would explain to them that they know they're not qualified, and that the only way I could write it is if I exaggerated to the point of lying...if they're as dear and close a longtime friend as I imagine, it will not harm the relationship too much, if at all...
2) I'd take the intense, passionate, peacful, erotic and fulfilling relationship over the other, average one...even though it will only last 6 months. Why??...Because I may die in 5 1/2 months...so to me, it would have lasted a lifetime...Besides, if I took the second relationship, I might die a year from now...would an extra six months of an average, unfulfilling relationship be worth it??...Six months in that type of relationship can feel like years...I'd rather spend it alone. 3) I'd rather have the memory of a fantastic event that I never really lived...than to experience the event and never have any memory of it...Why? Because, who's to say I already haven't done the latter?
The memory lives within us and effects us longer and deeper than the event itself... Byron, you ARE A STUD! And a smart one at that. A certain Orger I know needs to pay special heed to item #2... I would do EXACTLY the same things that you would do. To a T. Peace! I am with U 2 here myself!!! great thought to have been placed B 4 me today! Thanx much! | |
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justkelley said: But in this case, the relationship will not improve at all...however, neither will it get worse...just a straight, flat line of a relationship...
that would never happen..."just a straight, flat line of a relationship"...you know life doesnt work like that...hell...im not even that straight or that flat:lol: i see your point...but...the pain when its over on both of these counts wouldnt be worth it to me i dont think...i usually see things for the future they have...i am not good at looking in the momment ...True...then again, life doesn't dictate that relationships full of passion, arousal, peace and fulfillment have to end...so if you're not gonna stick to the question rules (lol) and are gonna work on one of those two relationships...would you still choose the same way?? | |
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Byron said: justkelley said: But in this case, the relationship will not improve at all...however, neither will it get worse...just a straight, flat line of a relationship...
that would never happen..."just a straight, flat line of a relationship"...you know life doesnt work like that...hell...im not even that straight or that flat:lol: i see your point...but...the pain when its over on both of these counts wouldnt be worth it to me i dont think...i usually see things for the future they have...i am not good at looking in the momment ...True...then again, life doesn't dictate that relationships full of passion, arousal, peace and fulfillment have to end...so if you're not gonna stick to the question rules (lol) and are gonna work on one of those two relationships...would you still choose the same way??yes...i believe so...i would build passion THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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Byron said: 1) Hard as it would be, I would refuse to write the letter of recommendation for my friend...and I would explain to them that they know they're not qualified, and that the only way I could write it is if I exaggerated to the point of lying...if they're as dear and close a longtime friend as I imagine, it will not harm the relationship too much, if at all...
2) I'd take the intense, passionate, peacful, erotic and fulfilling relationship over the other, average one...even though it will only last 6 months. Why??...Because I may die in 5 1/2 months...so to me, it would have lasted a lifetime...Besides, if I took the second relationship, I might die a year from now...would an extra six months of an average, unfulfilling relationship be worth it??...Six months in that type of relationship can feel like years...I'd rather spend it alone. 3) I'd rather have the memory of a fantastic event that I never really lived...than to experience the event and never have any memory of it...Why? Because, who's to say I already haven't done the latter?
The memory lives within us and effects us longer and deeper than the event itself... I agree with you on 2 and 3, however I would have a different approach on 1. I would agree to write the letter for my friend, however I would not lie in it. I would write a glowing reference highlighting their strenghs but would not mention their faults/weaknesses. I would take the view that it is up to the employer to interview satisfactorily. I would tell my friend that I have concerns about their ability to do the job but would write the reference anyway in the hope that, even if they were only in that job for a month or two, it would be enough to get them through their tough times. | |
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By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL: | |
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Paisley said: By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL:
No...that would be "Hair Questions, Hair Questions, Hair Questions..." | |
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Paisley said: By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL:
So did i :LOL: It has you written all over. I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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Byron said: Paisley said: By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL:
No...that would be "Hair Questions, Hair Questions, Hair Questions..." All I'm gonna say is   :LOL: | |
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Paisley said: Byron said: Paisley said: By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL:
No...that would be "Hair Questions, Hair Questions, Hair Questions..." All I'm gonna say is :LOL:That's gonna be my signature...lol | |
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Byron said: Paisley said: Byron said: Paisley said: By the title of the thread I thought it was going to be about me. :LOL:
No...that would be "Hair Questions, Hair Questions, Hair Questions..." All I'm gonna say is :LOL:That's gonna be my signature...lol :LOL: I dare ya. :LOL: | |
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