Paisley said:

Don't ever dare me...

Byron said:

:LOL:

You call those questions?

Reported!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I know, those arn't questions, want me to show him how it done?

Both of you...answer!!

Byron said:

and dont be using that tone of voice with me.

1) I would write the letter anyway. Perhaps my friend might rise to the occasion. Besides, in this economy, who am I to deny my friend the opportunity? I know firsthand what it is like to participate in a job search which is seemingly without end.

2) I would choose the intense, six-month relationship. Why go through the motions if there is no spark? In any case, I am somewhat jaded. I don't know that I necessarily believe in the concept of 'forever' in relationships anymore anyway.

3) I would much rather have the memory -- besides, the experience could not have been that magnificent if it was so easily forgotten. I would choose in this case to remember that which never actually occurred, and to be ignorant and blissful.

Paisley said:

You do that Dear Heart!

1. How do I know s/he won't do a good job? Was I their supervisor while at a similar position? Why didn't those dumbass screeners at the company catch that s/he isn't qualified? I've never had a friend ask for a "glowing" review, just to use me as a personal reference. When that is the case, (I'm a personal rather than business reference) all I have to do is tell the truth about the sort of person they are, not their work qualifications...and I'd do it, in that case.

2. I think I would take the average "forever" relationship, for a very important reason: good, healthy, truly loving relationships are not built upon perfection or dreams. Most of life is spent (hopefully) on a relatively even keel, rather than the drama of "strange highs and strange lows" (Depeche Mode ). Sure, it would be lovely to have a brief but perfect love affair. But to build a life together, it is more than acceptable to me that I have someone who is loving, kind, loyal and honest ENOUGH, rather than a perfect dreamlover whose intensity can't be sustained.

3. My first impulse was to say I'd rather have the actual experience, but experiences without the ability to re-live them seem so sad. One thing you didn't say, but I'm assuming with the memory of the experience: would I believe I actually DID these things I'm remembering? Or would I know I'm having a false memory? I'm thinking of Vanilla Sky, and how his "program" messed up and his memories got distorted...if I believed I really did live the experience, I'd choose the memory.
[This message was edited Wed Nov 5 22:44:42 PST 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

:LOL: :LOL:

todd305 said:

Co-sign.

AnotherLoverToo said:

Actually, it's not meant to follow whatever would happen in reality. The question, I think, was worded purposefully so that the only type of letter that would do any good was one that would require you to "exaggerate" to the point of lying...a letter that was "honest" would be the same as saying "Don't hire my friend"...


Nobody said your "lifelong partner" would be loving, kind, loyal or honest "enough", tho...it only spoke of how you would feel while in the relationship...that you would feel it was "average" at best...and it wouldn't contain any of the passion, eroticism, peace or fulfillment that goes along with true love...but at least you'd know it would be there forever...Also, the intensity of the dreamlover could be sustained...the relationship wouldn't burn itself out, it would just "end" after 6 months...as if you knew it would only last for a certain amount of time...not because those types can't last...but because this particular one will not.

Make any difference??..

Byron said:

Nope!

Seriously, though, there's too much info left out in those questions. So my mind is going places, filling in the gaps. I hate those black/white answer type questions, because that so rarely is the sort of situation a person is faced with in real life!