for real...now that i am older ...and dating again...i have some questions...

how much are you willing to work through in a relationship right from the beginning ?

i mean...everyone has got thier problems...and baggage...but where do you draw the line ?

for me...its gotta be drugs...

i cant deal with a motherfucker that wont stay straight...

drinking is another one that gets touchy with me...yes...you can drink...but dont make it an everyday thing...and for Gods sake...be responsible

hurting kids...thats a definate no no

other than that...nothing else comes to mind...but the question still remains..are you willing to go through some difficult spots to make a relationship work...or do you expect it to be perfect from the beginning ?

and no...im not trying to change anyone...this question is about me and what i think i can deal with...so save the counsling...i will need it another day

I draw the line at crazy baby momma drama.

when u start writing Ilove you on a mirror in your own blood, thats when i say, OK gotta gooo

Well, I draw the line where I dont think Im appreciated or respected as a person.

bigots racists etc.
people who cheat ( I mean in a theiving way, obviosly someone cheating early in a relationship (or ever) means trouble)

these are all good examples...and i agree with them all...keep em comming...

I thought this was a thread about the new Bjork song.

TRON said:

nope :LOL:

From here on out... If a man has been married before, the first question I have is... WHat was she like?

I have been through the ex-wife stalker, and will absolutely not ever do that again.

I would have to think money would be an issue.
I couldn't deal with letting anyone "hold" some money until pay day.

To be honest, I probably wouldn't work through much from the beginning. There has to be many beginnings out there.

jbchavez said:

this is true...however...what does it take for you to decide to invest your time...energy...and effort into a relationship...maybe thats how i should have worded the question instead

In the words of Tupac "Ya Got Ta Keep Your Head Up"
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I'm too young to know.

When you ain't handling your responsibilities and spend most of your time doing nonsense. You see your life isn't going anywhere. When you know you are on the wrong path.

CtheUncanny said:

great advice

when I go home and find a non-yellow feather on the bed.

TweetyBird said:

justkelley said:

Things like drugs, alcoholism, abuse...those aren't things you can "work out" in a relationship...those are some rather extreme character flaws that a person has to solve themself. You can only offer help & support as they do.

Issues about money, kids, jobs, etc...those are things you can easily work out together if you're both wanting to. Their existence would never deter me from pursuing a relationship...Everything else is in the gray area...everyone can (and will) make mistakes within their life, so I can live with that existing within a relationship. What I could not live with, however, is if they didn't realize their mistake and learn/grow from it. If they do, then you're blessed with seeing your lover grow, which is something beautiful to witness...but if not, then you're with someone who's spiritually and emotionally immature...and that would lead to a frustrating, draining and unfulfilling partnership for me.

the only thing that would keep me from pursuing a relationship is if I didn't truly love the person intimately, romantically, spiritually and passionately. ...It's ultimately, I think, why I divorced when I did...she deserved someone in her life who loved her intimately, romantically, spiritually and passionately...in other words, in all the ways I knew I didn't. *long sigh*...

Byron said:

byron...i tease you a lot...but in reality...i love you you are such a sweet, down to earth guy...any woman would be very lucky to have you in their life. thank you for your thought and compassion writting this ...you are one in a million !!!

here...have a on me