I want to thank everyone for sharing a bleek moment with me. I wish you could bare my cross too! However, it doesn't work like that! ( ) Non the less... at least I could look somewhere for more concepts and I do appreciate that!

Muse...

Well I've decided as well to take a "break" from actively pursuing a relationship and I can say it's been positive so far. It's given me a chance to refocus my energies towards more positive things that I feel help me grow as an individual. It's a much more pleasant place where I am mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as opposed to where I've been last year.
If you need to take a break from it all then by all means do so. Rededicate yourself to whatever makes you happy and fulfilled. There's nothing wrong with that.

Y'know what I've learnt? That it is all about giving. Yes, being open to receiving, but it is all about the giving.

When I've been in relationships in the past, I've been concerned about how the other feels for me. That is cos I have not really 'been' with myself.

After spending time with myself, in anguish, desperate, wanting, clawing, I began to realise that everything I need, I already have.

I sometimes do slip back into that reaching out - but I see it for what it is. In that frame of mind, I am not realising who my deepest self is. I am not with the moment, I let all the beauty and love in the world, seen in nature, people etc, pass me by, cos I am looking to be nourished from another. I am looking to be healed; a wound that I received in childhood. The only way that can be healed is by me, not another.

And so when I hold that perception inside long enough, I let in all around me. And I make connections, simply where they are to be found. It is all about self connection for me. If I can connect with the life force energy, then I see it in all about me. And instead of a narrow, addictive, obsessed thought pattern of insecurity, I realise that I have everything, as do all others. Then, I am free to give.

Hard to put into exact words really. I can so empathise with the struggle Muse. Best of all to u. xx

Therapy said:

Understood perfectly...

Byron said:

I don't force relationships, but I do push them along a little bit to speed things up... I'm a terribly impatient person.

Therapy said:

:POP: That was awesome! Very thought provoking!

Natsume said:

Me too! I think I need to knock that off! Then when I am aligned with someone of the same attributes we move far to fast! Not a good thing... Then when you are wayyy down the line you look back and think Where am I?

NovaAngel said:

Agreed! I just wish deeply to be in a marital relationship and share my life from here forward with another. That need and want can and does drive me a bit. So I need to step away and allow it to become more of a natural thing. I am very successful as a single woman and have not really ever given up my independence or wanted for this.. It is kinda cool to hear me feel that way. However, now I need to learn the ropes. Before I set myself where I am not to be!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

ezzactly... that's why my relationships tend to burn out so quickly... I suck 'em dry after the first few months

(that sounded really dirrrty but was not intended to be as such, hopefully Christopher and gooey aren't reading this...)

I thought I would add my two pennith.

1. Many valid points being put forward I don’t have much time so I will list instead of verse. Forgive me if it comes across as abrupt.

2. Be happy – whether you are actively looking or not this will find you more happiness. People flock to happy people.

3. This is impossible (especially when you are feeling bad about yourself)

4. Therefore don’t try if you are not in the mood

5. Someone will walk through a door soon, and you will know, embrace EVERY opportunity.

6. Don't spend time dwelling, enjoy life, it's not long, relationships arn't everything.

Sometimes in our lives it is not a matter of what we think we must do, but what nature, life is directing us to do in order to grow.

We can not ignore this, it will eventually take you back until you learn whatever it is.

Happy journey Muse, I am sure you will love the outcome..

I have been through many, and there is nothing like finding you. It is pure bliss.

sag10 said:

There are a few women on this site whose posts always fill me with inspiration and love and one of them is definitely you, saggie...

Natsume said:

Aww, that was sweet. Thank you my love..

Great stuff people !


Teller, I answered you and fell offline and lost the document! I am putting it back together now.

Keep your head up sweetie and remember, nothing compares to you.


[This message was edited Mon Nov 3 11:30:58 PST 2003 by Paisley]

Paisley said:

Thanks! I am going to hit the ground running! I have conformed an agenda. Change sucks!

Natsume said:

althom runs off to find Christopher

althom said:

Your just plain evil! :LOL:

Oh and have 1 of these!

Althom

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

You're not changing...you're simply becoming a more successful version of yourself.

They say: When ur NOT actively LOOKING 4 a partner/friend THATS when U FIND THEM, & I find that 2 B true! Just relax, and let it happen. No need 2 give urself a time limit to "STOP LOOKING". Nature usually takes care of that, when it's TIME. A persons body language usually tells others whether they are interested or not. Not being too friendly, dressing like ur NOT looking USUALLY works, however I've had THAT work against me. Sometimes when I want 2 look like I want 2 be left alone is when I've gotten the MOST attention. GO FIGURE! Anywho, we DONT ALWAYS want or need 2 be in a relationship. Being alone in ones space is healthy as well, as we need 2 touch base with ourselves, and figure "things" out that only being by onesself can do. It's nice 2 feel U CAN handle ur life ALONE (as nice as it is 2 have a partner), independently, and in the way only "U want" 2!

Good stuff Thank you!