REDFEATHERS said: ian said: I was mugged by AnotherLoverToo So I'm now avoiding all white females everywhere - they are all plotting something, I'm sure of it!
I never had a problem with Irish men, but cos ian deactivated me hundreds of times, I dont like them anymore Aww! Give me a hug! | |
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ian said: REDFEATHERS said: ian said: I was mugged by AnotherLoverToo So I'm now avoiding all white females everywhere - they are all plotting something, I'm sure of it!
I never had a problem with Irish men, but cos ian deactivated me hundreds of times, I dont like them anymore Aww! Give me a hug! Cos I am forgiving and trust people a second time around here ya go! And now you have locked Kelleys thread I wont get confused between the two threads anymore. :wink | |
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REDFEATHERS said: ian said: REDFEATHERS said: ian said: I was mugged by AnotherLoverToo So I'm now avoiding all white females everywhere - they are all plotting something, I'm sure of it!
I never had a problem with Irish men, but cos ian deactivated me hundreds of times, I dont like them anymore Aww! Give me a hug! Cos I am forgiving and trust people a second time around here ya go! And now you have locked Kelleys thread I wont get confused between the two threads anymore. :wink i really appreciate it being locked ...thanks THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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ian said: I was mugged by AnotherLoverToo So I'm now avoiding all white females everywhere - they are all plotting something, I'm sure of it!
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omg my night has been spoiled! too bad
I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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justkelley said: REDFEATHERS said: ian said: REDFEATHERS said: ian said: I was mugged by AnotherLoverToo So I'm now avoiding all white females everywhere - they are all plotting something, I'm sure of it!
I never had a problem with Irish men, but cos ian deactivated me hundreds of times, I dont like them anymore Aww! Give me a hug! Cos I am forgiving and trust people a second time around here ya go! And now you have locked Kelleys thread I wont get confused between the two threads anymore. :wink i really appreciate it being locked ...thanks For you Kelley | |
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it takes a lot for me to trust anyone, regardless of their sex. | |
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: it takes a lot for me to trust anyone, regardless of their sex.
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Natsume said: AnotherLoverToo said: Natsume said: That British food is giving you some major gas, girly! That avatar, that signature! Are they the silent-but-deadly types, perchance? I have learned from the very best - Lleena! | |
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REDFEATHERS said: Handclapsfingasnapz said: it takes a lot for me to trust anyone, regardless of their sex.
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: REDFEATHERS said: Handclapsfingasnapz said: it takes a lot for me to trust anyone, regardless of their sex.
. Would you trust an asexual person though? > | |
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Lleena said: Natsume said: I have learned from the very best - Lleena!
helllo, sweetcorn! I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: Lleena said: Natsume said: I have learned from the very best - Lleena!
helllo, sweetcorn! I know you want smell me! | |
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: it takes a lot for me to trust anyone, regardless of their sex.
This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Lleena said: Natsume said: Lleena said: Natsume said: I have learned from the very best - Lleena!
helllo, sweetcorn! I know you want smell me! Brie!!! | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: Lleena said: Natsume said: Lleena said: Natsume said: I have learned from the very best - Lleena!
helllo, sweetcorn! I know you want smell me! Brie!!! On toast!!! | |
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I think Nats gone to bed!!! Goodnight sweety! | |
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Moderator | I have been lied to, cheated on and left an abusive man. It is not easy to trust coz you are never sure if the next man will hit you too. Gotta be careful, very careful. Take everything with a grain of salt. Ohh purple joy oh purple bliss oh purple rapture! REAL MUSIC by REAL MUSICIANS - Prince "I kind of wish there was a reason for Prince to make the site crash more" ~~ Ben |
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cauze lotsa men are pigs | |
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MrBliss said: cauze lotsa men are pigs
thats offensive to pigs | |
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Ardeo said: MrBliss said: cauze lotsa men are pigs
thats offensive to pigs i meant it in a loving way | |
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MrBliss said: Ardeo said: MrBliss said: cauze lotsa men are pigs
thats offensive to pigs i meant it in a loving way oh, thats ok then :LOL: | |
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now to finally get back to this
I guess some people understood what I meant and some didn't My examples were deliberatly over the top so as to clarify my position I also know there are plenty of people with all sorts of prejudices out there, but I want to feel that Prince fans are a little more "enlightened" I'll try another way of saying it Men get hurt by women all the time, but at least among the men I have been friendly with it would be disgraceful to then make a coment about hateing women. When there are a group of men and one makes a woman hateing, or "women are only good for one thing" coment and it is clear he is not making a joke then if someone does not speak up immidiatly, then at the very least he will not be met with approval. It is by most inteligent people seen as a very distasteful coment to make. Yet among women I have seen I hate men, I don't trust men type comments made all the time, by otherwise intelligent and unprejudiced people, and in my experience other women always express agreement and sympthize. I hope this clarifys what I meant Now I'm older than movies, Now I'm wiser than dreams, And I know who's there
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WELL AFTER I HAVE BEEN LIED TO , USED OR HURT BY A MAN
I JUST KNOW NEXT TIME TO THINK WITH MY HEAD AND NOT MY HEART, BECASUE SOMETIME UR HEART CAN LEAD U IN THE WRONG DIRRECTION PEACE AND JOY MISS LACE:) | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: Well, first of all, I question your assumption that you would not judge people of a certain race based upon "30, 40, 50 times" of negative experiences with members of that race. If it only happened once or twice, then I could believe that. But when the same thing keeps happening over and over again, the brain begins to change its patterns of thinking/responding. I don't think you would consciously think to yourself "all black men are thieves" after it had happened 10-20 times, but I think that subconsciously, your mind and body would develop protective instincts and begin to respond in certain self-defensive mannerisms. It's biology, the "fight or flight" instinct, where we learn to identify potential threat based upon our experiences. There's no value judgments there, no racism, it's the mind telling itself, "someone who looked/behaved/spoke very similarly to this person hurt me in the past" and evoking anxiety.
Let's reverse the situation, and let's say a person of color has experienced violence or overt racism from white people time and time again. They may be able to rationally tell themselves that not all white people are racist Klan members, but as a result of trauma, they will develop subtle protective instincts that allow them to "feel out" that white person. And it makes a lot of sense to do so. There are studies that have been done on being a minority and the extra stress involved in "normal" everyday interactions. Anyone who experiences emotional or physical trauma is prone to be extra careful in similar circumstances. It does help to talk yourself through situations, to remind yourself that not all people who look a certain way behave in a certain way. I think the most helpful thing to do is to take a look at our own behaviors and what we personally are doing to draw this hurtful type of person to ourselves when we find ourselves repeatedly traumatized. (No, not 'blaming the victim', but just being smarter about our own tendencies of putting ourselves in danger) There are some types of men that women do need to be extra careful around--it would be silly not to, given crime statistics, etc. AND there are certain types of women that men need to be careful with. It's all about perspective and self-insight, I believe. Fuck, excellent! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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