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How do you ask someone 2 be ur lover ? I think I'm ready for a relationship. The thing is I don't want a boyfriend, that word makes me cringe and no I don't have a fear of commitment  , but I want the type of relationship where I can find a man who'll teach me how to make love and the only way I figured I could do that is if I had someone to be my lover.
Recently I've been interested in someone. He's a little bit older then me (the way I like it). He's very mature and he just drives me wild. he isn't seeing anyone at the time and I know he knows I like him a whole bunch, he's just waiting for me to say something to him. I want to tell him how I feel about him, I just don't know how to do it. I want to tell him so bad how I want to be his lover, nothing more or nothing less, however I want to be his only one. He already knows I'm a virgin, I always tell him I want him to be my first, little do he know I be dead serious when I say it . I just don't know how to come right out and ask him, without having him looking at me like I'm some kind of freak or something.
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i'm not sure it's really something you ask. it just sort of evolves into that... | |
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AaronUniversal said: i'm not sure it's really something you ask. it just sort of evolves into that...
So in other words, I would just have to sit wait and see if anything is going to happen ? | |
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Yeah, just chill and see which way the wind blows. I know that sounds like BS, but really these things just evolve like Aaron said.
However, if the pressure becomes too much, sing some P at him. If "Do Me Baby" don't wake his inner beast, then he can't teach you anything! "You know, you're the classic example of the inverse ratio between the size of the mouth and the size of the brain" | |
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DigitalLisa said: AaronUniversal said: i'm not sure it's really something you ask. it just sort of evolves into that...
So in other words, I would just have to sit wait and see if anything is going to happen ? well, no. but going on dates, hanging out, making out... all of that stuff should probably come first before you jump the gun on nailing someone down as your "lover" | |
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I agree with Aaron.
Be careful you might not like what you get... ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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daned said: Yeah, just chill and see which way the wind blows. I know that sounds like BS, but really these things just evolve like Aaron said.
However, if the pressure becomes too much, sing some P at him. If "Do Me Baby" don't wake his inner beast, then he can't teach you anything! the only thing I worry about is, if this does happen with me being a virgin and everything would he turn me out, I've seen this happen to alot of girls and I don't want to be walking around town like some slut
I can control myself, I think  | |
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Doesn't he already know you like him? Isn't that enough? I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: Doesn't he already know you like him? Isn't that enough?
yeah I know, I guess we both waiting to see who's going to make the first move | |
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Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do? | |
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Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. I think she's too shy  to do that.  | |
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Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. I think she's too shy to do that. hmmm, she doesn't sound like the shy type... Time will tell I suppose. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. I think she's too shy to do that. hmmm, she doesn't sound like the shy type... Time will tell I suppose. Tru Dat, if it's meant to be it will happen. | |
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Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. I think she's too shy to do that. Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin ... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy | |
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DigitalLisa said: Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: Well damn girl ya already told him that you WANTED him, what more do you have to do?
I guess she could put on that sexy negligee' next time he comes over.. I think she's too shy to do that. Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin ... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy AWWW  | |
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Paisley said: DigitalLisa said: Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin
... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy AWWW I am absolutely baffled by your response, Paisley.  I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: Paisley said: DigitalLisa said: Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin
... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy AWWW I am absolutely baffled by your response, Paisley. You poor thing.  | |
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Get really drunk, take off all your clothes, approach your sweetheart with a big serving fork in your hand and scream "BE MY LOVAHHH!!!"
...hey, it worked for me. For a while anyway. | |
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Anxiety said: Get really drunk, take off all your clothes, approach your sweetheart with a big serving fork in your hand and scream "BE MY LOVAHHH!!!"
...hey, it worked for me. For a while anyway.
I think I just might try it  . | |
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Paisley said: Natsume said: Paisley said: DigitalLisa said: Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin
... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy AWWW I am absolutely baffled by your response, Paisley. You poor thing. ... look deeper, my dear ... I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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Natsume said: Paisley said: Natsume said: Paisley said: DigitalLisa said: Yeah I am , maybe I'll write him like a dirty letter or somethin
... I haven't quit told him I like him, but friends of mines say he already knows, cuz I'm always staring at him and following him around like some love sick puppy AWWW I am absolutely baffled by your response, Paisley. You poor thing. ... look deeper, my dear ... NOW NOW, let's not get nasty!   | |
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Guy's are quite stupid when it comes to knowing what the girl is thinking. 
I think you are actually going to have to spell it out to him. He'll appreciate the fact that you told him, without him having to guess, and you'll know where you stand with him too. | |
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If he knows you like him, and has commented that you follow him around and stare at him, and he still doesn't show "that kind" of interest in you--I'd recommend leaving it alone. Your attention might be turning him off, cause desparation is not sexy. Find someone who shares your passion, my dear, someone you don't have to chase!  | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: If he knows you like him, and has commented that you follow him around and stare at him, and he still doesn't show "that kind" of interest in you--I'd recommend leaving it alone. Your attention might be turning him off, cause desparation is not sexy.
Find someone who shares your passion, my dear, someone you don't have to chase! Well see it's like this, we're really good friends and we're always joking around with each other especailly about sex. I like him and I think he likes me, but like I said before we're both kind of waiting to see who's going to make the first move. So I’m not desperate or I I would’ve walked into in house butt naked telling him to make love to me right now lol.Meanwhile I'm dying in anticpation just wishing he could acknowledge my feelings or say something... if he doesn't I'm just going to go ahead and tell him, be like look I want u and nobody else , I want u 2 devirginize me and violate my body in all kind of ways, let's go to the backseat of the car and make hot passoinate love like never before. So what if this is my first, I learn fast
I'm so nasty 
clean edit [This message was edited Thu Oct 23 20:05:46 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] | |
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DigitalLisa said: I think I'm ready for a relationship. The thing is I don't want a boyfriend, that word makes me cringe and no I don't have a fear of commitment
, but I want the type of relationship where I can find a man who'll teach me how to make love and the only way I figured I could do that is if I had someone to be my lover.
Recently I've been interested in someone. He's a little bit older then me (the way I like it). He's very mature and he just drives me wild. he isn't seeing anyone at the time and I know he knows I like him a whole bunch, he's just waiting for me to say something to him. I want to tell him how I feel about him, I just don't know how to do it. I want to tell him so bad how I want to be his lover, nothing more or nothing less, however I want to be his only one. He already knows I'm a virgin, I always tell him I want him to be my first, little do he know I be dead serious when I say it . I just don't know how to come right
out and ask him, without having him looking at me like I'm some kind of freak or something. Any advice ? You had me at "Hello".
Just kidding. If you're friends don't rush anything. I agree with what someone said earlier that most men (not all) are dumb when it comes to these things. Let him know how you feel. After that, there's not much else you can do. [This message was edited Fri Oct 24 7:35:40 PDT 2003 by NovaAngel] "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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Okay let me give this from a my point of veiw, if he has an idea then maybe he is just a little shy and is afraid to be rejected, I don't know the whole story but I was in this situation and I just broke down one day and told someone who I had been in love with for a long time how I felt straight up, now things are just being taken one day at a time.
now I know you may not really be into what I am in but maybe you should just get toghether over starbucks or something or maybe just a quiet walk in the park and talk and really let him have it, trust me it might shock him but it will wear off and then stand back and enjoy the ride girl. best of luck and just go for it I say, I did. *********************************************
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Oh and like I said...just do it *********************************************
I'll believe it when I see it | |
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kiss him.
you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel 
Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants. | |
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lillith said: kiss him.
Yes...I agree with that. | |
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