Have U ever had an argument with your parents over some silly matter?? I mean, when I apologized to them, they stubbornly
refused my apology!! Now they took away My rights 2 party!! How do I make them change their minds so that I can go to a Halloween party??

I need quick advice fast, be4 it's too late 4 me!!

That's shity. Kick em in the nutz.

What did you do to piss them off?

My dad once grabed me by the throat and started punching me cos I asked him to iron a shirt for me (I asked nicely aswell). I refuse to take any of his shit now.

CAMILLE4U said:

That was awfully brutal...

i used to get into arguments with my dad all the time and he'd wind up takin away my privileges for however long...he'd end up shortenin/lessening my punishment a while after we argued and if i apologized. i ain't sure of how it is between you and your folks, tho'...my dad wuz strict but very lenient at times.

my best bit of advice would be for you to wait a day or two before apologizing to 'em for whatever. if it don't work, too bad. whatever your folks say, goes.

sag10 said:

In all fairness he's been going though a lot with mum leaving us and all the extra work he has to do. I just felt so pissed off because when she left I stood by him and was always there for him. And then I'm the one he turned on when it all got to much. I lost a lot of respect for him that night!

Was your apology sincere, or might they suspect that you're only apologizing to be able to go to the party? :O

<--- deals with own child on this issue

CAMILLE4U said:

Stress is a mother fucker...

C'mere Camille. I have lots of hugs for you.

teller said:

yeah, this is what i wuz thinkin...i used to do the same thing sometimes, apologize in order to con my folks into sayin 'yes'

Just take a shot at them they'll give in then.

sag10 said:

Your a X20

Missy said:

Best way is to be mature about it. Don't go on at them or make a fuss but forget about it for now. Nearer the time, when the argument and reason why you're grounded has been forgotten, tell them you'd really like to go and ask whether there's a way of them letting you go. Unless you've been really bad I think this woul work

teller said:

me too

best to lay low and do EVERYTHING you are supposed to do without being told, be nice to siblings etc... in other words suck up and just wait, I have a hard time denying my kids social events unless they have really messed up bad. Maybe by wednesday next week they will be willing to talk, BUT it DEPENDS on what you did to piss them off.


good luck

butterfli25 said:

Yeah--don't bring the subject up at all. If you're an angel for longer than just one day, parents can be really forgiving.

You didn't kill anyone did you? :O

I hope not

sag10 said:

Well, my father and I were teasing each other with names,and
he calls me a name that i thought was offending.( I don't know whose fault)and I snapped and told him that I don't like to be called names that are offensive. He thought I caught an attitude!! Then, when I tried to explain to my mom wat happenned,( over a disagreement me and dad had over something as well) she stubbornly didn't want 2 hear wat i have 2 say. Finally she decided I shouldn't go 2 the party. my dad acts like a brother!! I still love him, though. It's tough.

:hmmm:

is that the whole story??? how did mom jump from you defending yourself with dad to you not going to a party? that is quite a jump...

butterfli25 said:

i forget 2 write down that my dad was driving me to work!!
Sorry. Anyway, when I got home from work mom questioned why I snapped at dad.That's where it all began.

sorry I mislead you guys in the story!!

Missy said:

so I still am not seeing the connection of you being snappish ( hormones of a teenager ) to not going to a party. I mean yeah no fun for you if you are not going to respect us but are you grounded or you just can't go to that party? I can see the whole grounding part... but just to take the party priviledge away doesn't seem to match the crime...and I am a hard ass when it comes to respect but if dad was playing then well... let mom cool off and just do what I said and for god's sake don't try and explain why she is wrong...just roll with it..she'll figure it out.

"We shall survive,
Let us take ourselves along,
When we fight out parents out the streets,
We'll find who's right and who's wrong."
--Elton John
"Bennie and the Jets"

Either your parents are really strict or that's not the whole, unbiased story...