Anyone see that program on BBC2, social rejects reformed...that's kinda harsh to say. Human beings with difficulty relating to others.

I found it interesting and kinda sad, you could see the guy was in alot of pain and locked into a pattern of thinking and acting. 37-year-old, lives with his mother, kinda scruffy.

Has issues with interacting with people, especially women...tomorrow they have 26-year-old girl.

Hopefully he was able to change things for the better.

I hate the way TV abuses people like this for profit. It's the same with Teen big brother. Lets lock some kids in a house, treate them bad, piss them off, film it and sell it!

CAMILLE4U said:

I agree, but in some ways one hopes that these people can changed things for the better, he was obviously very unhappy and not able to change himself.

He needed to have all his "bad points" pointed out to him, in a rather abrupt and cruel fashion, for him to make a change.

liberation said:

I agree. Filming it is just bad taste though, U know?

CAMILLE4U said:

True...i had difficulty watching it, i cringed..he might be a "loner" or "social retard" by the standard set by society, but he is still a human being who simply longed for a relationship.

liberation said:

I don't pay my licence fee to watch retards.

Infact, I don't pay my licence fee at all.

I would like to meet Michael Palin.

mcmeekle said:

liberation said:

I dunno... I don't believe in the "quick fix culture" we get bombarded with on TV. If people want to have more success dating, it'll take more than a new outfit and a pep talk If people wanna lose weight, it takes regular exercise and healthy eating, for a long time. Everyone wants the quick answer, but it isn't realistic.

I hate that "What Not To Wear" show too... I feel these shows prey on people's insecurities, offer vapid quick-fix solutions (as if a few new items of clothing can solve someone's lifelong stuck-in-a-rut lack of self confidence etc). It's shallow, stupid, and insulting to the viewer.

Some of the sad cases on "Would Like To Meet" are definitely tragic types, and we all know someone like that maybe - a friend or workmate who just cannot get their shit together. Something tells me though that the TV show does not help them much, and once the cameras are gone, life gets back to normal, except for occasionally getting recognised in Tescos etc

ian said:

I agree with what U say, but I think it's too funny for me to hate it. Those 2 are shameless.

Yes! Oh my God! I text messaged JD about this program 2nite - its a good show, but that guy was a bloody freak!

He was the saddest person I think Ive ever seen. And talk about anger issues!!!

I kinda warmed 2 him though - I dont know why, I think it was because he never had a childhood...

Oh hang on, that's Michael Jackson isnt it?

ian said:

I agree, although I do laugh at how mean and catty they can be to people. What I don't like about that show is that they ALWAYS end up giving everyone the exact same makeover: same hair, same make up, and always the same wardrobe and everyone ends up looking like clones. No one has any personality of their own anymore because they try to brainwash people into thinking that they HAVE to dress/look a certain way, and that that person's style is bad/ugly/out of fashion.

bananacologne said:

Well i think the "freak" tag is a tad strong, in today's society it is very difficult to "fit in". People these days judge you more on material wealth and physical apperance then they do your spirit or personality.

The whole "first impression" thing, well it seems you're more likely to be asked how much you make per year then how sweet you are.

I hope that this guy gets alot of offers of marriage and turns into a babe magnet, is there someone out their for everyone?

Dunno about that, but you will find someone with the same wants and needs and "dysfunction" to make a love connection.

God willing.

liberation said:

freak, creepy, wierd. U telling me he wasnt?!? That would be strange.

I'll reiterate though - I warmed 2 him.

It was good 2 see him stop being such a victim and DO something about it as apposed 2 waiting 4 someone else 2 do it all for him.

Anyway, he dissed Newcastle - Fuck him!

bananacologne said:

Creepy and weird...he's a human being and has "issue's", as alot of people do. I don't judge people like that.

But i agree that it was nice and showed just how much he had to offer when his feeling of self worth was raised, it was at that point he came out of his shell and be became more high functional.

bananacologne said:

Newcastle...full of slappers.

liberation said:

I guess its relative, but the way I look at it if someone IS creepy and wierd, then...well - they're creepy and wierd really. Im not in2 this PC Bullshit of trying 2 find a nicer word 4 it so as not 2 offend. It is what it is. Like I said, it was good 2 see him pull himself out of it - finally.

And yeah - Newcastle is full of slappers! Luckily, I didnt go out in 'that' part of town - know wot I mean? Top place Toon Town.

Anyway - where were we...? Oh yeah - creepy guy...

Hello, my name is Krish, Im 37, and it's very nice to meet you. You have wonderful hair.

STOP LOOKING AT ME WHILE I EAT!!! IT'S VERY PERSONAL!!!

Oh, I love your eyes...your'e SO out of my league...

Bless him.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/heal...shna.shtml

Richard, thought u would find this interesting:

If you missed Krishna's dramatic transformation read his programme guide:
Programme background:
Possibly our toughest case to date, Krish, is a 37 year-old, hopeless romantic, who has only ever had two relationships. He lives a hermit-like existence in Hammersmith, West London, has no idea how to flirt around women and his confidence has hit rock-bottom. He puts women on a pedestal, and greets them with a very theatrical kiss on the hand.

Little does Krish know what a rough ride is ahead of him over the next six weeks. In spite of our experts’ positive encouragement in teaching him about what women want, Krish seems very resistant to change, and resents any new challenge given to him.

With just a week to go before his final date, Krish seems a lost cause. Tracey, Jeremy and Jay pull no punches in telling him to pull his socks up and make an effort, which really hits him hard. The only way for him is forward...

Find out what happened after the cameras stopped rolling.
Read Krishna's update in his own words!
A life changing experience?
I was shocked when I first saw myself in a trailer for 'Would Like to Meet...', with a face like thunder and uttering the not so immortal words, 'I should have realised that no one could change me 'cause I've done it, and it doesn't work.'

I was a difficult case, I resisted the process, believing I was perfect and didn't need to change. As filming progressed I focussed inwardly and began to acknowledge my weaknesses, discovering that I had anger issues, a creepy dress sense and a fervent belief that I was James Bond every time I went on a date.

To this day I can still hear the voices of Jeremy, Tracey and Jay in my head whenever I sit incorrectly or dress badly.

Jeremy helped me to understand that watching TV at home alone does not improve my current life experience or help me to answer my once least fave question 'What have you been up to recently?' Go out and do something and enhance your conversation by talking about it!

I have a lot to thank Jay for. Dressing well and looking good is the norm not the exception. Now I'm worth a second glance if not a third. Jay also cured me of my addiction to romance. Of course romance is good but in small doses. My gestures of romance are not so 'grand' anymore!

Finally, as far as rejection goes my take on it is - it happens, so get used to it! Face it calmly with dignity and just imagine how nice your next date will be!

Krishna's dating tips
ICQ - this is something a friend taught me in Holland: eye contact, compliment, question.
Smile at people, when they smile back it lifts you in ways you can't imagine. My current record was recently in Amsterdam when I was "four for four" on the smile stakes.
Less is more; don't over compliment your date. Use your charm occasionally and catch your date off guard in the nicest of ways.

*****

So...there ya go. All's well that ends well. Kudos 2 the guy.
...and they all lived happily ever after.

The End.

[This message was edited Tue Oct 21 15:23:57 PDT 2003 by bananacologne]