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hmmm... I'd need a bit of SERIOUS advice Hi everyone.
I need a bit of help here. I've just been on the phone to a friend of mine asking for some advice and I think I may be a bit out of my leauge. My friend Caroline just phoned me and said that a couple of nights ago she met a guy in a chat room. She said he seems like a really nice guy and that 2NIGHT he's going to be in her town. This guy sent her an e-mail this morning asking if she would meet him and show him 'round town. I'm not sure that meeting someone she's just met online is a safe idea, but she seems to be sure that he's very sweet and sincere. I'd go myself and keep an eye on things but she lives far too far away. She said she's gonna think about it. Should I call her back and say something? What do U think? NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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i will listen in on this...as i have something similar happening with me...
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sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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this was weird... [This message was edited Mon Oct 20 11:04:42 PDT 2003 by sag10] ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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...yeah, if she just has to go out of being curious, dont go alone! two people to ID a person is better than one, *... "ive always said, that if you have to ask for something more than once or twice, it wasnt yours in the first place"...* | |
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sag10 said: Seriously, I suggest this person talk to her father... Be honest and let him know that you need some of his love, and attention..
If that doesn't work, let me know I and will go jack him up... Think U got the wrong thread there sweety. NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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silverjean said: ...yeah, if she just has to go out of being curious, dont go alone! two people to ID a person is better than one,
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sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. Not at all. I don't know how far you live from her.. But it would be good if her time was occupied. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. Not at all. I don't know how far you live from her.. But it would be good if her time was occupied. It's 7pm over here, and it's a 4-5 hour train journey. By the time I get there all the pubs and clubs will be chucking out. If shed called me a few hours ago I would of. I think it's too late for that. NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. | |
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Paisley said: justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her..
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sag10 said: Paisley said: justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her.. what a ASS! | |
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Paisley, Kelly, Sag10, Thank U so much. That last bit has made up my mind. I'm going to call her and insist that she dosn't go! NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her.. what a ASS! They never found him... It was horrible... she walked to my house like at 5 in the morning... She was wrecked. I took her to the hospital, and got her some counseling. She is scarred, but she is strong, and doing well. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her.. what a ASS! They never found him... It was horrible... she walked to my house like at 5 in the morning... She was wrecked. I took her to the hospital, and got her some counseling. She is scarred, but she is strong, and doing well. My goes out to her, I cant imagine going through something like that. | |
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sag10 said: Paisley said: sag10 said: Paisley said: justkelley said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: CAMILLE4U said: sag10 said: Indeed you should say something...
I personally don't think it is a good idea. A couple of nights does not make a nice person. He could be a mass murderer for all she knows. Please encourage her not to go... alone. but if she took a friend or was in a public place she'll be safe right? You know Camille4U, if she goes she should have a male with her...And in very public places. I think your right. Personally I don't think it's worth the risk to go alone. alright...that said...i do have to ask this question...whats the difference between meeting someone in a bar and getting together again...or meeting someone on the net ? you dont know who anyone is these days That is very true girl a girl can never be too careful now days. Very true.. my girlfriend flirted with this guy at a bar. He said he had some vintage cars he wanted to show her. She went with him and he raped her.. what a ASS! They never found him... It was horrible... she walked to my house like at 5 in the morning... She was wrecked. I took her to the hospital, and got her some counseling. She is scarred, but she is strong, and doing well. It's stories like these which start to make me change my views on capital punishment! NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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How old is she?
I don't think you can stop her from seeing him, or that it's your place to make her stop, however you can suggest she waits until another opportunity arises, after she's got to know him a little better. If she really must go, try to make her aware of the importance of meeting him in a public place (ideally if she can get another couple of friends to go and have a drink in the same bar (at another table) it would be the safest option) and also VERY IMPORTANT ... tell her to keep a hold of her drink in case anyone tries to slip anything into it. This guy may be a really nice guy but these days it's better to be safe than sorry. Good luck! | |
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Raspberry said: I don't think you can stop her from seeing him, or that it's your place to make her stop, however you can suggest she waits until another opportunity arises, after she's got to know him a little better.
Well, if she had her heart set on it I's express my feelings but I wouldn't tell her what to do. U see she called me because she couldn't make her mind up U see. I think if I said no she'll then make her own mind up and say no. That's the impression I got from our call. Thanks for the advice. Keep it coming. I need to go for half an hour but I'll be right back. NOTE: THIS ACCOUNT IS NOW CLOSED. PLEASE CONTACT “K A M L L E” | |
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The hardest thing in the world is when you have a friend who is reckless or too trusting and you try to tell them to be carefull. It's difficult to get your point across to them and not come across too forceful or like a parent.
I have similar problems with a friend who wants to walk home on her own when she's drunk, which unfortunately takes her past a big park. Sometimes I have to frog march her to an authorised taxi rank and force the cash into her hand. Responsibilty, eh? "You know, you're the classic example of the inverse ratio between the size of the mouth and the size of the brain" | |
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CAMILLE4U said: Raspberry said: I don't think you can stop her from seeing him, or that it's your place to make her stop, however you can suggest she waits until another opportunity arises, after she's got to know him a little better.
Well, if she had her heart set on it I's express my feelings but I wouldn't tell her what to do. U see she called me because she couldn't make her mind up U see. I think if I said no she'll then make her own mind up and say no. That's the impression I got from our call. Thanks for the advice. Keep it coming. I need to go for half an hour but I'll be right back. oh cool ... in that case I'd advise her not to go ... get to know him better first. I think the difference in my mind between meeting someone in a bar and arranging to meet them via the internet first is that usually if you meet someone in a bar you swap numbers and arrange to call. If you arrange to meet someone, you can almost feel like it's a second date and be tempted to put more trust in them than is wise. It's a tough cool ... you sound like a fantastic friend though Camille. | |
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Raspberry said: It's a tough cool ... you sound like a fantastic friend though Camille.
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I'd say it is probably fine, as long as she brings someone with her or arranges to meet in a crowded place that she knows well etc. Best way is to bring a friend along (such as you) to make sure it is cool. | |
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Moderator | ian said: I'd say it is probably fine, as long as she brings someone with her or arranges to meet in a crowded place that she knows well etc. Best way is to bring a friend along (such as you) to make sure it is cool.
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He could pretend to be nice for awhile, but be different later. | |
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