So I've developed a stupid crush on a co-worker. And she's got a crush on me. And I'm married and she's engaged and no, we haven't done anything except play grabass, back BEFORE we knew about this crush - it was just being goofy at 4:30.

But, so, how do I become uncrushed on this girl? We're GREAT friends and co-workers and this crush is just plain stupid and I wish I could stop thinking about it. But it's eating me up inside.

Just get a crush on someone else.

I'll help

Is that better?

Lust, get over it... You have a wonderful wife awaiting your arrival home..

FUCKIN SWEET! Thanks Camille. I O U! and HOW!

Look at what U'd be messing up. It takes strong will power but U will feel better for it in the long run.

Just think about your wife more. Honestly. You don't need to stop anything you have described (well maybe the ass-grabbing) but think about your wife more.

I really feel for you, babe.

sag10 said:

Exactly. I tell myself that. And I do. I worship the ground my wife walks on. She is my best friend in the world and amazes me constantly. This is not a matter of choice or else I would have already chosen to not thinka bout it any further.

I think it's more an issue of familiarity. We've worked together for two years and hit it off and she's cool BUT there's NO WAY she's my type, I'm not physically attracted to her, but I find myself thinking about her and wanting to touch her - WHY? it's idiotic. Glad I could confide in you. You wont go telling anyone, right?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:11:20 PDT 2003 by otan]

That is a very good question! I would like 2 know also... I have had a crush on someone 4 like 5 years and it just will not go away no matter what i do...so the best thing ya can do is stay away from each other and keep it just professional...i guess...

See u in the purple rain

You have the power of override...strength of character answers this dilemma for you. Many(all) of us have our moments of weakness within life, but we find our way back, recentering ourselves.

All I can say is that, if you have a life partner that you love deeply with all your heart and soul...and she feels the same for you...give prayers and appreciation to God for bringing her to your awareness...then let that appreciation ring true and sincere by how you live your life.

Lust is fun...but it's easily overcome and even discarded if love resides in your heart and in your relationship.

Good luck...




Edits...sheesh.
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:16:12 PDT 2003 by Byron]

otan said:

This sounds like it will pass. I used to fancy my boss, until she threatened to sack me. That sorted that problem out.

otan said:

I won't tell if you promise to re-channel your thoughts...THink of touching your wife, and think of the years your wifey has given you... Good luck, I know you will do the right thing... (oh no I didn't just sound like Dr. Laura:

Do U think U see your wife too much? (If U don't mind me asking)

Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Maybe U need to take a break somewhere alone so U can let your natural instinks rekindle.
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:23:12 PDT 2003 by CAMILLE4U]

What a dumbass thread.

REDFEATHERS said:

Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back.

Teacher said:

Check yo self B 4 U wreck yo self!

CAMILLE4U said:

Chiggity~Wriggity.

INSATIABLE said:

Was that a bit of Snoop Doggy Dogg?

CAMILLE4U said:

I said that but in a long winded kinda way now it seems!

CAMILLE4U said:

Ice Cube, yo!

INSATIABLE said:

Check yo self was Ice Cube. I'm getting Chiggity Wriggity mixed up with Tizzel Pizzel Wizzel from "Paid da Cost to B da boss"

CAMILLE4U said:

CAMILLE4U said:

I think I've just revealed how white I am!

CAMILLE4U said:

kentucky fried cracker... ...

Teacher said:

Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura?

On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about.

Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that.
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan]

KeithyT said:

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damn... a side of Keithy you don't get to see at npgmc... ...

REDFEATHERS said:

No dumber than some of yours ... I think he was sincere in sharing what he did...

I'm no expert Otan but I don't think U can just stop a crush. It's a crush, if we could turn them on and off where's the fun. Maybe U should try avioding this women U work with.

otan said:

When that happens to me, I kinda hint around to kinda get myself in trouble and then I snap out of it.

When you have a connection with another person and you're just friends, sometimes you just wonder what it would be like if you were physically closer as well. It's natural. Talk about your wife at work or put a picture of her by your desk to keep things in perspective.