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So here's the deal... I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
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Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of Novemberand I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfreind can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when i metioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
not if your man got mad..not if you wanna stay with your man [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 13:59:17 PDT 2003 by rdhull] "Climb in my fur." | |
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Yep. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Do what U want and dont feel guilty about it. | |
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INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. "Climb in my fur." | |
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INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. That's what I'm thinking  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. He's just jealous and pissed off that I have the time and the money to go and he don't. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:01:31 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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What if HE wanted to do the same? Would you be angry about it? "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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minneapolisgenius said: What if HE wanted to do the same? Would you be angry about it?
but he's done it anyway.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single. 
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Sweeny79 said: minneapolisgenius said: What if HE wanted to do the same? Would you be angry about it?
but he's done it anyway. Why were you angry at him for that? Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. He's just jealous and pissed off that I have the time and the money to go and he don't. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:01:31 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] wow..is that what you think of your partner not wanting the one he loves to leave on a week long vacation without him? YOu honestly think his being upset at you going ona vacation alone is only becaue he is jelaous of you having the time and money? "Climb in my fur." | |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: minneapolisgenius said: What if HE wanted to do the same? Would you be angry about it?
but he's done it anyway. Why were you angry at him for that? Hell yes, but it was different. He just took up and left was unclear about where he was going or when he was comming back. Things were rough in his life and in our relationship at the time, and he just ran away from it and me instead of trying to make it better. This is different. Things are ok between us now and i just want to enjoy my break from school. If i sit home I won't even see him anyway because he works nights. I would just be wasting my time. He's really pissed I am thinking about "leaving" him behind. He is so jealous of the fact that I have enough money to take a trip it is ridiculous! I really want to go  but i think it would no more damage than good in the long run.In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. He's just jealous and pissed off that I have the time and the money to go and he don't. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:01:31 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] wow..is that what you think of your partner not wanting the one he loves to leave on a week long vacation without him? YOu honestly think his being upset at you going ona vacation alone is only becaue he is jelaous of you having the time and money? He admitted it to me! In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! 
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wish not to make an expensive purchase without the other knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as one would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:10:43 PDT 2003 by rdhull] "Climb in my fur." | |
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Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: Do what U want and dont feel guilty about it.
Almost missed you up there thanks I will in the end   In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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is this man paying for your trip? is this man paying your rent? do you, other than emotionally, owe him anything? is he your husband? if you've answered 'no' to any or all of these questions...
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. She evidently is taking his feelings into consideration...thus the thread. He should also be considerate that this is her school break, and a perfect time for her to do something she likes.. There is quite a diffence between respect, and jealousy, and or control... Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wish not to make an expensive purchase without the other knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as one would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:10:43 PDT 2003 by rdhull] ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. He will, Sweens. Just like you were there when he up and left without warning. You're taking a well-deserved trip. Maybe by instilling some well-needed independence from the relationship, he'll follow suit. Otherwise, it looks like you're headed for a stormy future if the boy's so codependent. I'm sorry, babe. I pray you make the right choice to make you genuinely happy. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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lookit all the How Stella Got Her Groove Back sisterhood ...dont cry when you come back to trouble etc lol "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
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sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? "Climb in my fur." | |
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