AaronUniversal said:

cuz I need a break I'm sick of staying home, I feel trapped. I want to see new things and clear my head a bit.

But if she has the time and the money she could go somewhere she's has always wanted to go and see things she may otherwise not have to opportunity to see. If her boyfriend is that insecure about it he would find a way to spend more time with her.

I see... (your question)

I say definitely take a solo trip...

For years (even in my marriage), I would take solo road trips once or twice a years (especially withing the last 5-6 years of my relationship)... the trust and loyalty was there (developed through the years, of course). My goodness how beautifully free it was and still is. I would more often head to California, having this intense urge/desire to connect with all earths elements/surroundings... specifically the ocean.

I would (still do) journal my trips... journal my feelings, journal the changing environments, the people I pass, met... well I journal just about everything I feel worth "time". I love to go view/experience Art Museums, eat at unique restaurants (simply just pull over at any given time or place that drew my heart in). *sigh* One trip... I packed my rollerblades (always had this desire to rollerblade along the ocean) and I did.

The best part is Sweeny... is that no one can alter your mood, no one can diminish/delude the beauty of a/your personal moment, leaving the moment pure in heart.

For the most part... I went with no plans arranged, simply packed my car, obtained the maps needed... and went journeyed right along. Sure... you get lost (it's great) ... but being free to act upon one's heart desires... is truly the most liberating "life experience" (I feel) anyone can obtain. Definitely a soul connecting experience as well. (I believe)

Ps~ Jealousy and possessiveness is never a good thing.
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 18:29:28 PDT 2003 by Freespirit]

Freespirit said:

that's what I'm thinking too.

Freespirit said:

Sooo very true...everyone should experience that feeling of undiluted pleasure.

Byron said:

I do that's why I wouldn't mind, might even prefer, going somewhere alone.

To Sweeny and all over women/men who are free spirits:

Go. You let him know of your plans and that is all you can do. He can't get the week off and if the situation was reversed, you would not want him to stay home.

He is worried though about a How Stella Got Her Groove Back type thing going on but he has to get over that. I am sure you much rather go with your man and have like one personal day to yourself but that can't happen.

It all comes down to double standards and that thier should be none, so if he does it, you should be able to do it, so on and so forth. Don't do anything you wouldn't want your partner to do.

It seems you respect the relationship and I am sure you feel the same, so in the end, he will be O.K. with it because he loves you and will most likely pick you up from the airport wearing nothing but a trenchcoat.

I would do that next time my girl goes on a trip without me, but I really don't want to make her sister sick.
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 19:10:47 PDT 2003 by jseven]

GO.

Seems like there's some insecurity going on with your other half.

jjjj
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 22:19:37 PDT 2003 by rdhull]

rdhull said:

EXACTLY!

Supernova said:

sweeny--why is your other half insecure?

rdhull said:

I don't know.

Sweeny
[This message was edited Thu Oct 16 7:14:45 PDT 2003 by Christopher]

AaronUniversal said:

Christopher said:

Christopher