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Printablerdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said:  I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer! 
I meant my man not rdhull  That too, babe! I was gnna say.. "what question did I not answer?"This one. INSATIABLE said: But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.
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rdhull said: sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. Well now thats becaue thats your relationship--having nothing to do with breaking or cagin someones "free spirit"..and if your man said "oh babe..dont go .." even though yall are cool with it before you would still go? Thats what this si a bout..regardless..spirit is not in this..its respecting th wishesd of your partner mutually..at least if its A HEALTY one..if its an obsessive selfish macho partner then by all means fuck it..go head on and enjoy yourself and have a margarita on me..but sweeny never said that from jump street...thats why when she stated "but he does what he does even if it upsets me" I said "whyd u just let us know that now"?. The truth of the matter is somewhere between him being the little lost puppy dog and him being a macho jerk. He is at times abit of both. The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his? In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. Well now thats becaue thats your relationship--having nothing to do with breaking or cagin someones "free spirit"..and if your man said "oh babe..dont go .." even though yall are cool with it before you would still go? Thats what this si a bout..regardless..spirit is not in this..its respecting th wishesd of your partner mutually..at least if its A HEALTY one..if its an obsessive selfish macho partner then by all means fuck it..go head on and enjoy yourself and have a margarita on me..but sweeny never said that from jump street...thats why when she stated "but he does what he does even if it upsets me" I said "whyd u just let us know that now"?. Honey, what is up with your keyboard... I have been where Sweeney is, and yes I did go..but you see I sized up the situation and it was about jealousy, and insecurity, and control... And you are correctamundo.. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that 
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Sweeny79 said: Byron said: INSATIABLE said: Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol  you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol  I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol  cute!!  ! No matter which way our individual lives turn...I will always love her. are you a great catch or what!?  Great catch?..No. Appreciative?...Always.:F:  | |
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Byron said: Sweeny79 said: Byron said: INSATIABLE said: Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol cute!! ! No matter which way our individual lives turn...I will always love her. are you a great catch or what!? Great catch?..No. Appreciative?...Always.:F: I will always love you too, Byron...  ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull That too, babe! I was gnna say.. "what question did I not answer?"This one. INSATIABLE said: But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.
Don't you enjoy time alone? You're entitled. It would be a dagger because this is not an exactly healthy relationship..he obviously has issues, and upon return shit will happen and it wont ever be the same...now that said..his issues should be talked about on why he doesnt want her to go..deal with those issues and talk about them..dont just up and say "bye see ya ina few" because what kind of shit is that? I mean come on now..trouble is just going to ensue..he needs to work on some shit yes..she does too obviously if she with him and he is th e way she stated..thats what the dagger will do..make thngs more fucked up going out to a football game with the bopys is not equated with a vacation. She can have her nights with the girls..if not then something is really wrong and she should work out his issue or leave th e relationship if he cant work thorugh them etc or does not want to refuckingardless of finanaces, ones own money etc..if you in a relationship--repeect the other etc--understand what it means when they say someting etc..if u dont care then go etc... but come on now..its more than "having some time to yourself"..I NEVER said anything about NOT being allowed time for onesself etc at least intermittently etc..I stated a vacation is a whole different animal etc and oif you cant see that then I cant explain it any better [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:59:53 PDT 2003 by rdhull] "Climb in my fur." | |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that
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rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull That too, babe! I was gnna say.. "what question did I not answer?"This one. INSATIABLE said: But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.
Don't you enjoy time alone? You're entitled. It would eb a dagger because this is not an exactl healthy relationship..he obviously has issues, and upon return shit will happen and it wont ever be the same...now that said..his issues should be talked about on why he doesnt want her to go..deal with those issues and talk about them..dont just up and say "bye see ya ina few" because what kind of shit is that? I mean come on now..trouble is just going to ensue..he nees to work on some shit yes..she does too opbviously if she with him and he is th e way she stated..thats what the dagger will do..make thngs more fucked up going out to a football game with the bopys is not equated with a vacation. She can have her nights with the girls..if not then something is really wrong and she should work out his issue or leave th e relationship if he cant work thorugh them etc or does not want to refuckingardless of finanaces, ones own money etc..if you in a relationship--repeect th e other etc--understand what it means when they say someting etc..if u dont care then go etc... but come on now..its more than "having some time to yourself"..I NEVER said anything about NOT being allowed time for onesself etc at least intermittently etc..I stated a vacation is a whole different animal etc and oif you cant see that then I cant explain it any better I hear what your saying and you are right  it's just that I really want to go In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: It would eb a dagger because this is not an exactl healthy relationship..he obviously has issues, and upon return shit will happen and it wont ever be the same...now that said..his issues should be talked about on why he doesnt want her to go..deal with those issues and talk about them..dont just up and say "bye see ya ina few" because what kind of shit is that? I mean come on now..trouble is just going to ensue..he nees to work on some shit yes..she does too opbviously if she with him and he is th e way she stated..thats what the dagger will do..make thngs more fucked up
going out to a football game with the bopys is not equated with a vacation. She can have her nights with the girls..if not then something is really wrong and she should work out his issue or leave th e relationship if he cant work thorugh them etc or does not want to refuckingardless of finanaces, ones own money etc..if you in a relationship--repeect th e other etc--understand what it means when they say someting etc..if u dont care then go etc... but come on now..its more than "having some time to yourself"..I NEVER said anything about NOT being allowed time for onesself etc at least intermittently etc..I stated a vacation is a whole different animal etc and oif you cant see that then I cant explain it any better In no way do I think she should leave without saying another word about it. As she knows, of course they need to communicate, at the very least. But to be quite honest, I feel that the borderline would be crossed a bit if I told Sweeny "Hey girl, you and him have some major issues", etc. That's her personal business. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull That too, babe! I was gnna say.. "what question did I not answer?"This one. INSATIABLE said: But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.
Don't you enjoy time alone? You're entitled. It would eb a dagger because this is not an exactl healthy relationship..he obviously has issues, and upon return shit will happen and it wont ever be the same...now that said..his issues should be talked about on why he doesnt want her to go..deal with those issues and talk about them..dont just up and say "bye see ya ina few" because what kind of shit is that? I mean come on now..trouble is just going to ensue..he nees to work on some shit yes..she does too opbviously if she with him and he is th e way she stated..thats what the dagger will do..make thngs more fucked up going out to a football game with the bopys is not equated with a vacation. She can have her nights with the girls..if not then something is really wrong and she should work out his issue or leave th e relationship if he cant work thorugh them etc or does not want to refuckingardless of finanaces, ones own money etc..if you in a relationship--repeect th e other etc--understand what it means when they say someting etc..if u dont care then go etc... but come on now..its more than "having some time to yourself"..I NEVER said anything about NOT being allowed time for onesself etc at least intermittently etc..I stated a vacation is a whole different animal etc and oif you cant see that then I cant explain it any better I hear what your saying and you are right it's just that I really want to go But rd's talking about this vacation like it would last two weeks or something. You said just for a few days. I don't see anything wrong with that. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that
I'm here for you babe! I want you both to be happy!What is it then, what is the larger problem? 
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Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
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 I started this thread to get the voices in my head to calm down. You guys sound just like the thoughts I've been having In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that
I'm here for you babe! I want you both to be happy!What is it then, what is the larger problem?
I really don't think it's my place to go there sweetie! Fair Enough, your a smart girl anyone ever tell you that  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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minneapolisgenius said: But rd's talking about this vacation like it would last two weeks or something..
vacations all I ever wanted-gogo's "Climb in my fur." | |
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AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR why would you want to go somewhere by yourself? Why wouldn't I? In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: I started this thread to get the voices in my head to calm down. You guys sound just like the thoughts I've been having dang girl..you need to take yourself a vacation "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: minneapolisgenius said: But rd's talking about this vacation like it would last two weeks or something..
vacations all I ever wanted-gogo's too fucking funny!In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that
I'm here for you babe! I want you both to be happy!What is it then, what is the larger problem?
I really don't think it's my place to go there sweetie! Fair Enough, your a smart girl anyone ever tell you that  I don't know about that.
But thanks anyway. You're even smarter and I know you'll make the right choice. Just remember you have everything in your power to make yourself genuinely happy and healthy! I know you will!
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Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR why would you want to go somewhere by yourself? Why wouldn't I? That's exactly what I was going to say. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: I started this thread to get the voices in my head to calm down. You guys sound just like the thoughts I've been having dang girl..you need to take yourself a vacation don't i know it! In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: The problem I have is this, If i don't go I'll be pissed, if I do go he will be pissed either way there is conflict, so it comes down to this who's needs and wants are more important to me mine or his?
For the love of God honey, that is not the issue. It's much larger than that and I hope you can see that
I'm here for you babe! I want you both to be happy!What is it then, what is the larger problem?
I really don't think it's my place to go there sweetie! Fair Enough, your a smart girl anyone ever tell you that I don't know about that.
But thanks anyway. You're even smarter and I know you'll make the right choice. Just remember you have everything in your power to make yourself genuinely happy and healthy! I know you will!
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Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
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Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR why would you want to go somewhere by yourself? Why wouldn't I? doesn't sound like much fun, going on a vacation by yourself. | |
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althom said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
YES!!! Do you have to go everywhere with him? Just go! Thanks In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR why would you want to go somewhere by yourself? Why wouldn't I? doesn't sound like much fun, going on a vacation by yourself. I enjoy my own company In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: Sweeny79 said: AaronUniversal said: so stay home. what's the big deal?
I don't want to stay home
and that is a GREAT AVATAR why would you want to go somewhere by yourself? Why wouldn't I? doesn't sound like much fun, going on a vacation by yourself. I enjoy my own company then why spend the money and risk pissing off your bf, when you can enjoy your own company at home? | |
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