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Printablesag10 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Speaking of Taco Bell, I like those Chicken Chalupas... chicken taco  | |
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single. 
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go  I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel.  Looks like you're answering your own question and realizing that you should GO! 
Just GO!!
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Dude, put down the nunchucks! 
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk That's my point, he does what he wants and he don't care if it upsets me so why should i care if it upsets him? well se now--you didnt say all that at the first..now did you? why is that? um hmm... "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk That's my point, he does what he wants and he don't care if it upsets me so why should i care if it upsets him? well se now--you didnt say all that at the first..now did you? why is that? um hmm... ? Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Sweeny79 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Why are you so obsessed with Taco Bell?
and we have been together almost 7 years it's not that simple. taco bell= 
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minneapolisgenius said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel. Looks like you're answering your own question and realizing that you should GO!
Just GO!!
Just reading this thread is making me want to come over to where you live and pack your bag for you.
But seriously,I picky about how you fold shit.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol  you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol  cute!!  ! No matter which way our individual lives turn...I will always love her. | |
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Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Dude, put down the nunchucks!
She'd be away a few days. It's her life. What is the big deal? Nobody topuched no nerve,m we are having discvussions on relationships so to speak etc..stop with the armchair pshychologist stuff ..especially with me por favor. I think we have touched a nerve J "Climb in my fur." | |
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Christopher said: sag10 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Speaking of Taco Bell, I like those Chicken Chalupas... chicken taco I make great chicken tacos... ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol Does it sound so oh like me? Most def, my friend...  ...Especially knowing some of your stories from the 70's..:O  | |
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sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together.  WHOOP WHOOP! Go Sag! Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk That's my point, he does what he wants and he don't care if it upsets me so why should i care if it upsets him? well se now--you didnt say all that at the first..now did you? why is that? um hmm... ? I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Why are you so obsessed with Taco Bell?
and we have been together almost 7 years it's not that simple. taco bell=
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Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
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Byron said: INSATIABLE said: Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol cute!! ! No matter which way our individual lives turn...I will always love her. are you a great catch or what!?  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] MAD? Uh-uh. Sad maybe, but MAD!?!?!? Honey, that ain't right. Take some time for you. I've been thinking about doing the same thing, and I encourage my man to do so as well. | |
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sag10 said: I make great chicken tacos... 
:wishing to be teleported to Sag's house and we could all have a girl's sleepover with lots of food and wine: Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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sag10 said: Christopher said: sag10 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Speaking of Taco Bell, I like those Chicken Chalupas... chicken taco I make great chicken tacos... *going to sag10's house for dinner* . . . . . [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:41:30 PDT 2003 by Christopher] | |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull  That too, babe! Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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VinaBlue said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] MAD? Uh-uh. Sad maybe, but MAD!?!?!? Honey, that ain't right. Take some time for you. I've been thinking about doing the same thing, and I encourage my man to do so as well. No he was MAD! In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: minneapolisgenius said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel. Looks like you're answering your own question and realizing that you should GO!
Just GO!!
Just reading this thread is making me want to come over to where you live and pack your bag for you.
But seriously,I picky about how you fold shit. Naw, I'll do it well. I am an expert packer since I travel so much...which brings me to... My husband goes on trips ALL THE TIME and so do I. Most of our traveling is done seperately, and it works out great. At first it was kind of weird, but now we are used to it. That saying "Absence makes the heart grow fonder" is completely true. He knows that I love to travel and work away from Europe, and I know that he loves to travel for his work, as well as with friends, etc. Of course we always go on a bigger trip together, and that is always the best time spent traveling. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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sag10 said: Yes, chicken tacos at my house...
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sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. Again...
It's simply about feeling the comfort and freedom to be "yourself", no matter what...even if "being yourself" means wanting a vacation alone. There's nothing in what Sweeny desires that should justify an angry response...insecurities, however, will cause that type of reaction. Could it be that, perhaps, he feels insecure about other things within the relationship, and feels her desire to "be alone" is simply evidence that his insecurities/fears and indeed "real"??... | |
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sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. Well now thats becaue thats your relationship--having nothing to do with breaking or cagin someones "free spirit"..and if your man said "oh babe..dont go .." even though yall are cool with it before you would still go? Thats what this si a bout..regardless..spirit is not in this..its respecting th wishesd of your partner mutually..at least if its A HEALTY one..if its an obsessive selfish macho partner then by all means fuck it..go head on and enjoy yourself and have a margarita on me..but sweeny never said that from jump street...thats why when she stated "but he does what he does even if it upsets me" I said "whyd u just let us know that now"?. "Climb in my fur." | |
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Byron said: sag10 said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Tuscan Sun my ass. (Never saw that movie) I am for real and don't play that shit with me. And I don't have a jealous bone in my body. I encourage my mate to take time away from me... It is healthy, and makes for great sex when you get back together. Again...
It's simply about feeling the comfort and freedom to be "yourself", no matter what...even if "being yourself" means wanting a vacation alone. There's nothing in what Sweeny desires that should justify an angry response...insecurities, however, will cause that type of reaction. Could it be that, perhaps, he feels insecure about other things within the relationship, and feels her desire to "be alone" is simply evidence that his insecurities/fears and indeed "real"??... exactly it's about trust in the end.In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: INSATIABLE said: Sweeny79 said: I guess it's a bit of that macho, I'm a man your a woman bullshit.Guess so. You've been stating the same stuff throughout the thread. I just wish he'd answer my questions up there so I can get a clear answer!
I meant my man not rdhull That too, babe! I was gnna say.. "what question did I not answer?""Climb in my fur." | |
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