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rdhull said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? I wasn't gonna go all week just a few days   In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc...
But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me.  Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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INSATIABLE said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. He will, Sweens. Just like you were there when he up and left without warning. You're taking a well-deserved trip. Maybe by instilling some well-needed independence from the relationship, he'll follow suit. Otherwise, it looks like you're headed for a stormy future if the boy's so codependent. I'm sorry, babe. I pray you make the right choice to make you genuinely happy.  Thanks  I do to  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc...
But babe, why would it be a dagger? Like Sweeny said, they're not married. They don't share a bank account. It's her money, not "their finances". She has a life, like he does. If he goes out to football games with the boys without her, isn't he entitled and allowed to have that time for himself? If she was THAT possessive about him having some sort of independence, then it sounds like a miserable relationship to me. He goes out ALL THE TIME, I never do 
In fact I only get to see him on Fridays and Saturdays because of our work schedueles and this Saturday he is going to a hockey game without me. I didn't get pissed when he told me I just said "wow that sucks" and moved on  [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:22:04 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single. 
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go  I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? I do...
Being a "free spirit", to me, means living a life in which following your desires, your heart, even your "whims" now and again is always a reality...and doing so without needing 'perfection' of circumstances to do so...and definitely not needing everyone's approval first, even if it's your lover/partner's. Hopefully, you'll have a partner who understands that part in you (and luckier still, will love that aspect about you...), and will not always view things thru how it effects them. Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible. | |
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EvilWhiteMale said: Want a week long trip in an abandoned power plant?
Only if your gonna be there, sir!    In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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rdhull said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? Come on RD... what is his motive? What is the real reason he doesn't want her to take a few days off? ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Byron said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible. REVEREND!  Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel.  In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Byron said: No matter what you decide to do...communicate openly, and constantly.
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Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
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feels like living in a cage, doesn't it?
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TweetyBird said: feels like living in a cage, doesn't it?
Who knows better than 'moi'. too cute In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol | |
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Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel. Grrr! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny | |
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Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol cute!!  ![This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:29:20 PDT 2003 by INSATIABLE] Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Byron said: sag10 said: Byron said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
...Sorry, but that made me smile...lol you smiled because of the free spirit part, didn't ya? Yeah, sumtin' like that...lol I just couldn't help but smile and laugh when I read your post, Sag..lol Does it sound so oh like me? ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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sag10 said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: Sweeny79 said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: rdhull said: INSATIABLE said: Woman!
Go have fun and enjoy the air around you! All on your own! Is he your master?! He needs to get over it. You deserve some time to yourself. It will be fun and therapeutically beneficial. Its not about being someones master..its about your partner wishing you not to go without them etc, respect etc. That's why I prefer being single.
Two seperate people can love each other, respect each other, and do things by themselves as well. It's not about supergluing the two people at the hip. That's a claustrophobic disaster waiting to happen. Don't you think it's disrespectful of him to shoot down an idea of hers, wanting to spend some time by herself? Do you want to be around your lady 24/7?! It has nothing to do with being around 24-7 etc..it can be a wiosh not to make an expensive purchase witoutout the othe r knowing or being involved etc..breaks down to respecting your partners feelings and taking them into ocnsideration..as ine would want their own to be etc...evidently he does not want her to go and she..oh nevermind... Wait a sec now, we are not married and we do not live together. I hear what you are saying but until there is a ring on my pretty little hand i don't think he has the right to tell me where and when i can go somewhere. I just want to know how to get around him getting pissed at me after the fact. I never said that..and my point is sometimes folks commuinicate their felings wrong and it comes out to like u said "tellin u what to do" etc..thats obviously hgow u are interpreting his obvious inside feeling of not wanting you to leave him etc..he isnt thinking "I odnt want her to have fun"..I mean come on now, what an attitude..if u go dont expcet this not to be a dagger in the relationship even if it is never mentioned again etc... Exactly what I've been thinking, I justreally want to go I know u do and you probably do deserve some time to yourself etc, but it is not th e right thing to do in my opinion. We all want to do certain things but we respecxt who we love...and if theres love invloved one would point blank stay at home..if there was no love then one would go. But he loves me and he still does what he wants when he wants to, regardless of how it makes me feel. Grrr! I know, that's why I started this thread. I need some outside opinions here. In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Speaking of Taco Bell, I like those Chicken Chalupas... ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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Byron said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? I do...
Being a "free spirit", to me, means living a life in which following your desires, your heart, even your "whims" now and again is always a reality...and doing so without needing 'perfection' of circumstances to do so...and definitely not needing everyone's approval first, even if it's your lover/partner's. Hopefully, you'll have a partner who understands that part in you (and luckier still, will love that aspect about you...), and will not always view things thru how it effects them. Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible. were talkin a fuckin vacatiuon not this fairytale shit! Lawd!
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sag10 said: Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Speaking of Taco Bell, I like those Chicken Chalupas... Baja Chicken Gorditas...  Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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rdhull said: Byron said: rdhull said: sag10 said: Nothing pisses me off more than a man who will not let his partner be a free spirit..
I say go. He will be there when you get back. not let her be a free spirit? is that what you equate not wanting a partner to take a week trip alone with etc? I do...
Being a "free spirit", to me, means living a life in which following your desires, your heart, even your "whims" now and again is always a reality...and doing so without needing 'perfection' of circumstances to do so...and definitely not needing everyone's approval first, even if it's your lover/partner's. Hopefully, you'll have a partner who understands that part in you (and luckier still, will love that aspect about you...), and will not always view things thru how it effects them. Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible. were talkin a fuckin vacatiuon not this fairytale shit! Lawd!
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Christopher said: Sweeny79 said: I have a week off from work coming up the first week of November and I want to go away for a few days, but my boyfriend can't take off. I was toying with the idea of taking a trip solo,but my man got mad when I mentioned it. Should I go somewhere by myself anyway?
[This message was edited Wed Oct 15 14:13:32 PDT 2003 by Sweeny79] you need to stop dating the guy from taco bell if he refuses to give you alone time sweeny Why are you so obsessed with Taco Bell?
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sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
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rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk Dude, put down the nunchucks! 
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rdhull said: sag10 said: Insecurities cause those types of fears...and "free spirited" types need partners who are as free of insecurities and fears as possible.
TOUCHE' um..no..NOT "touche"...taking a vacation on your own when a partner is ovbviously against it has nothing to do with no damn "free spirit" shit..yall quit tripin like this is some Tuscan Sun movie etc...the moment your man or men etc would say IM goin away for a week etc yall would trip ..so dont trip etc..."free spirit"
online bullshit talk That's my point, he does what he wants and he don't care if it upsets me so why should i care if it upsets him? In spite of the cost of living, it's still popular. |
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