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I need some help with a wedding speech... I am off to a very dear old friends wedding this weekend. She is having a very small wedding in a very redneck town about 5 hours out of the city. She has lost contact with most of her girlfriends over the years, so I will be the only friend on her side attending. Fact is, I am gay, and all of her family knows. I am bringing a date with me, and he is kinda flamboyant, although this doesn't bother me, I think I might be up against some conflict coming from the grooms side(who I have never met). Anyways, long story short, she is a very special friend to me, and I do not want her to feel uncomfortable, yet I feel it will be my duty, as her only friend attending, to stand up and make a funny speech, or a toast, about all we have been through these past 20 years. Any suggestions from anyone on how to make a solid speech or a toast without making anyone there uncomfortable? I would like to hear different opinions from people: guys, girls, straight and gay. | |
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all i know is that it sucks that this girl cant have her friend come there and have him feel comfortable...i mean ...who cares if you are gay ?
well...i dont mean it like that...you know what i mean 
bet you didnt pick out their dates for them did ya ? say fuckem...and do whats right in your heart.  THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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Well, firstly, do not feel obligated to do anything. I'm certain your very presence will mean a great deal to her. But if you want to say something, I would suggest focusing on the dynamic that you share with the bride.
Did she stick with you through tough times? Did she help you through personal troubles? Did you go out and have fun every night? These are things good people do. Also, these are things people like to hear about. She has clearly made a positive impact on you. Tell her. Tell her new family. Wish them well. Champion her for being there all those years, express what she means to you as a person and congratulate her husband and his family on such a find. Gay, straight or whatever, that does not matter because these are universal things. The most important thing is to be sincere, short, and remeber that it is about her. Also, you can hope that the town is not as redneck as you think. And, I bet the husband and family will secretly be glad the guy that is getting up and toasting the bride is gay. Best of luck, I'm sure you will do great. Peace |
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tyme said: Well, firstly, do not feel obligated to do anything. I'm certain your very presence will mean a great deal to her. But if you want to say something, I would suggest focusing on the dynamic that you share with the bride.
Did she stick with you through tough times? Did she help you through personal troubles? Did you go out and have fun every night? These are things good people do. Also, these are things people like to hear about. She has clearly made a positive impact on you. Tell her. Tell her new family. Wish them well. Champion her for being there all those years, express what she means to you as a person and congratulate her husband and his family on such a find. Gay, straight or whatever, that does not matter because these are universal things. The most important thing is to be sincere, short, and remeber that it is about her. Also, you can hope that the town is not as redneck as you think. And, I bet the husband and family will secretly be glad the guy that is getting up and toasting the bride is gay. Best of luck, I'm sure you will do great. Thank you much, that is very sound advice! Peace | |
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Any last advice from anyone? I leave tomorrow and will sit down and write tonight, any input would be greatly appreciated, sorry to bump this thread, but this is kinda important to me... Thanks | |
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"hey, you're gettin' married and we're all here! cheers!"
really, i have no idea. unless you're the matron of honor or the best man, you shouldn't have to give a speech. not at any wedding i've ever been to, anyway. | |
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Ask Number23 to pinch hit for you.
He's a real troubadour. | |
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