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Printableladydarknessintolight said: Teacher said: otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
 
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. You seem like a hypocrite. I'm a lawyer,hon, and in court could take you to the cleaners. I have seen and heard that you agreed to marry not once, but twice through this site alone. Were they illusions you set up for them,or yourself? How did you feel then? Can you deal with crushes, bumps in the road, etc? How many crushes have YOU had here? You seem to be a love addict (the celibacy vow) who is trying to find herself. I'm one of the many lurkers who find the constant flip flopping on your part a bit sad and a little self-serving. You always say "I don't care what others think of me" yet it's painfully obvious that you do. Here's one somewhat educated person who thinks you are a bit holier than thou,if only because there are so many transparencies in your telling others how they should live their lives, when you should maybe look at your own. If you wear honesty as a virtue, you will hopefully realize that someday.  Hon, I never said I didn't consider marrying before now did I? I said I never intend to get married and that it's a decision I made. I didn't say anything about WHEN I decided that, I realised that it doesn't, for me, matter how much I love the person, I believe that the concept ruins things. I also never said anything about crushes here, that was not the topic. I resent the personal attacks on me, please don't do it again. Now I at least will stop jacking Otan's thread. If u have anything to say to me there're emails and orgnotes. | |
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EllisDee said: KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said:  you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO!   ... you're the greatest, Keithy...  ...
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but not as great as singalongs...  ...Whatever you say Jim. "I saw a woman with major Hammer pants on the subway a few weeks ago and totally thought of you." - sextonseven | |
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Teacher said: otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. Read the LAST part of what I wrote, Teacher. READ it. I THANKED you for your frank input. [This message was edited Fri Oct 17 9:04:18 PDT 2003 by otan] The Last Otan Track: www.funkmusician.com/what.mp3 | |
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Oh shut up. Let's all get in a jacuzzi together.  "You know, you're the classic example of the inverse ratio between the size of the mouth and the size of the brain" | |
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Teacher said: ladydarknessintolight said: Teacher said: otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. You seem like a hypocrite. I'm a lawyer,hon, and in court could take you to the cleaners. I have seen and heard that you agreed to marry not once, but twice through this site alone. Were they illusions you set up for them,or yourself? How did you feel then? Can you deal with crushes, bumps in the road, etc? How many crushes have YOU had here? You seem to be a love addict (the celibacy vow) who is trying to find herself. I'm one of the many lurkers who find the constant flip flopping on your part a bit sad and a little self-serving. You always say "I don't care what others think of me" yet it's painfully obvious that you do. Here's one somewhat educated person who thinks you are a bit holier than thou,if only because there are so many transparencies in your telling others how they should live their lives, when you should maybe look at your own. If you wear honesty as a virtue, you will hopefully realize that someday. Hon, I never said I didn't consider marrying before now did I? I said I never intend to get married and that it's a decision I made. I didn't say anything about WHEN I decided that, I realised that it doesn't, for me, matter how much I love the person, I believe that the concept ruins things. I also never said anything about crushes here, that was not the topic. I resent the personal attacks on me, please don't do it again. Now I at least will stop jacking Otan's thread. If u have anything to say to me there're emails and orgnotes. Personal attack? 
It was an observation about you, darling, nothing of malice was intended. This is just an open site where you can voice an opinion. Why did you resent it (let it bother you)? Otan is right.He gave you kudos, yet you only read the "holier than thou" part of the reply.
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I think this thread has now got way out of hand by attacking people personally. I think Otan knows in his heart what he wants to do, and that is to love his wife forever, crush or no crush, Otan, you chose your wife, the grass isnt necessarily greener on the other side and you could risk losing everything special you have. Wake up smell the coffee and re-love your wife, like when you were first together. Do it!
This girl is just there for temptation, and you have to get over that, be strong, focus on your marriage and remember the good times you spend with your wife. And for anyone else using this thread as an excuse to personally attack others, please re-read their posts and look at yours again. This is about Otan and his marriage, not about sounding out others here.  Thank you. 'nuff said.
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minneapolisgenius said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO! ... you're the greatest, Keithy... ...
peace... ...
... doesn't it feel good to be on the inside of the inside jokes... Yeah, inside jokes
Great ...
they are the most wonderful things in life... ...
but not as great as singalongs... ...Whatever you say Jim. Kiss my ass, Mimi.  ... Mr. Ellis Dee-licious, the Official NPGigolo 
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Hey Otan look here: http://www.prince.org/msg...&tid=58972
I went through something similar recently.The good people of the Org helped me alot. That girl and me are best friends, nothing more now.I like her and myself all the more for it. |
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