One of my best friends recently embarked on a bit of an affair with a colleague. They started out as friends and all that but he now is in a terrible position of having to pick between 2 girls, neither of which he wants to let down.
I'd say, think how much trouble it'd cause to everyone involved and it's easy to see that it just isn't worth it. Don't mean to sound preachy! | |
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I think you shouldn't beat yourself up too much. I think it's only natural that you'd find someone attractive. That being said, you married for a reason and made a commitment. I'm sure your wife has looked at a man on TV or walking down the street and found him attractive. Nothing wrong with that. It's natural. But at the end of the day, I'm sure she wouldn't want anyone else as her husband but you. If all else fails, be a bit more grabassy at home. "I ordered no broth! Away with ye lest my cane find your backside!!"- Ralph Wiggum, Actor. | |
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OK...how would you uncrush a can ?
you would fill it up again...right ? so go home...and love your wife... i mean...really really love your wife. that way...you will spark the romantic interests that brought you together in the beginning good luck THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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otan said: So I've developed a stupid crush on a co-worker. And she's got a crush on me. And I'm married and she's engaged and no, we haven't done anything except play grabass, back BEFORE we knew about this crush - it was just being goofy at 4:30.
But, so, how do I become uncrushed on this girl? We're GREAT friends and co-workers and this crush is just plain stupid and I wish I could stop thinking about it. But it's eating me up inside. Find someone else that peaks your crush mode.. and try to get into them.. Keep reminding yourself that you this person is a no no and hopefully soon you will be infatuated with someone else and uncrush yourself! Its hard.. but we have faith in you! Little Miss Muffin... You vixen you...-Sag10 | |
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justkelley said: OK...how would you uncrush a can ?
you would fill it up again...right ? so go home...and love your wife... i mean...really really love your wife. that way...you will spark the romantic interests that brought you together in the beginning good luck that's really sound advice kelly. think about the things that brought you guys together in the 1st place! and talk to the girl if you feel like you have to...the grabby-ass has got to stop if you want to stop the crush. | |
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this is always something 2 worry about when we/u get married or commit 2 some1. u look out in the WOrld & u see some1 that u connect with & u wish it was like that with u'r Lover/Wife/Husband.
isnt' that a part of Human Nature? Peace ... & Stay Funky ...
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otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] You will be getting more than a slap in the face from your wife if you dont keep that beast in its cage | |
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CAMILLE4U said: otan said: sag10 said: Lust, get over it... You have a wonderful wife awaiting your arrival home..
Exactly. I tell myself that. And I do. I worship the ground my wife walks on. She is my best friend in the world and amazes me constantly. This is not a matter of choice or else I would have already chosen to not thinka bout it any further. I think it's more an issue of familiarity. We've worked together for two years and hit it off and she's cool BUT there's NO WAY she's my type, I'm not physically attracted to her, but I find myself thinking about her and wanting to touch her - WHY? it's idiotic. Glad I could confide in you. You wont go telling anyone, right? [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:11:20 PDT 2003 by otan] This sounds like it will pass. I used to fancy my boss, until she threatened to sack me. That sorted that problem out. | |
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My humblest and sincerist apologies. | |
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Dont forget you are married, however you can still dream, nobody can take your dreams from you. | |
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EllisDee said: KeithyT said: Forget both of those skanks. Honestly. You need to stop everything you have described, and come play grab-ass with me. Do your ladies have an ass like mine?
... damn... your backside sounds bootylicious Keithy, you and I should get to boffing now!... ... I thought Ellis was the straightest fella on here! Just somewhere in the middle,
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KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: Forget both of those skanks. Honestly. You need to stop everything you have described, and come play grab-ass with me. Do your ladies have an ass like mine?
... damn... that's just plain nasty Keithy... but on the upside, your lady's backside sounds bootylicious Keithy, you and otan should get to boffing now!... ... so that me and your lady can do the same... I always knew Ellis was the straightest fella on here! Too bad for me me. ... Mr. Ellis Dee-licious, the Official NPGigolo
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EllisDee said: KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: Forget both of those skanks. Honestly. You need to stop everything you have described, and come play grab-ass with me. Do your ladies have an ass like mine?
... damn... that's just plain nasty Keithy... but on the upside, your lady's backside sounds bootylicious Keithy, you and otan should get to boffing now!... ... so that me and your lady can do the same... I always knew Ellis was the straightest fella on here! Too bad for me me. ... you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO! Just somewhere in the middle,
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KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: Forget both of those skanks. Honestly. You need to stop everything you have described, and come play grab-ass with me. Do your ladies have an ass like mine?
... damn... that's just plain nasty Keithy... but on the upside, your lady's backside sounds bootylicious Keithy, you and otan should get to boffing now!... ... so that me and your lady can do the same... I always knew Ellis was the straightest fella on here! Too bad for me me. ... you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO! ... you're the greatest, Keithy... ... peace... ... ... doesn't it feel good to be on the inside of the inside jokes... Mr. Ellis Dee-licious, the Official NPGigolo
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otan said: I think it's more an issue of familiarity. We've worked together for two years and hit it off and she's cool BUT there's NO WAY she's my type, I'm not physically attracted to her, This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. | |
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Teacher said: Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. Fancy a shag? | |
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Cloudbuster said: Teacher said: Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. Fancy a shag? U got the general idea, as always... see me in London | |
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Teacher said: Cloudbuster said: Fancy a shag?
U got the general idea, as always... see me in London Sadly tho', I don't think London is gonna happen. The amount of stuff I have to do in that week is just daft. The only way that I can buy some time is if I kill a couple of friends. | |
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Cloudbuster said: Teacher said: Cloudbuster said: Fancy a shag?
U got the general idea, as always... see me in London Sadly tho', I don't think London is gonna happen. The amount of stuff I have to do in that week is just daft. The only way that I can buy some time is if I kill a couple of friends. | |
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Cloudbuster said: JDINTERACTIVE said: That's a good Cloudy! | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: Cloudbuster said: JDINTERACTIVE said: That's a good Cloudy! How's your ass this fine...erm, cold morning? | |
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Cloudbuster said: JDINTERACTIVE said: Cloudbuster said: JDINTERACTIVE said: That's a good Cloudy! How's your ass this fine...erm, cold morning? Hairy and warm as ever. Taking it along 2 the cop shop soon. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said: Hairy and warm as ever. Taking it along 2 the cop shop soon.
Hairy! What are you doing at the cop shop? Been holding up laundrettes again? | |
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Cloudbuster said: Teacher said: Cloudbuster said: Fancy a shag?
U got the general idea, as always... see me in London Sadly tho', I don't think London is gonna happen. The amount of stuff I have to do in that week is just daft. The only way that I can buy some time is if I kill a couple of friends. I can help with that Oh well, another time. | |
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Teacher said: I can help with that
Oh well, another time. My evil twin! But seriously, If anything changes then I'll orgnote you. 'Cos it would be cool to meet you. | |
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EllisDee said: KeithyT said: you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO!
... you're the greatest, Keithy... ... peace... ... ... doesn't it feel good to be on the inside of the inside jokes... Yeah, inside jokes Great Just somewhere in the middle,
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KeithyT said: EllisDee said: KeithyT said: you know I really hate it when you do that! BUDDY-ROO!
... you're the greatest, Keithy... ... peace... ... ... doesn't it feel good to be on the inside of the inside jokes... Yeah, inside jokes Great ... they are the most wonderful things in life... ... but not as great as singalongs... ... Mr. Ellis Dee-licious, the Official NPGigolo
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Teacher said: otan said: Teacher said: REDFEATHERS said: What a dumbass thread.
Otan, u need to check your values. If u don't have the values it takes to stay married, then give your wife her life back. Thanks for that bit of brilliant holier than thou self-help propaganda. Is that you, Dr. Laura? On second thought, I take that back. Your reply was alarming but very well put and absolutely right on the money. No. I do NOT want to lose my wife, and that is what this is all about. Thanks for the slap in the face. It was good. I needed that. [This message was edited Wed Oct 15 11:45:21 PDT 2003 by otan] Holier than thou?? U asked for advice, I gave it. I will not get married ever, it's a choice I made. I made it because I don't believe in the concept, but I also strongly believe that if u DO get married, u had better KNOW that u can deal with the things in life that do happen, like crushes, disagreements and other bumps in the road. Lust is just, and only, lust. That isn't (or at least I hope it isn't) why u married your wife, so u should be able to see your LIFE versus the LUST. That is all. You seem like a hypocrite. I'm a lawyer,hon, and in court could take you to the cleaners. I have seen and heard that you agreed to marry not once, but twice through this site alone. Were they illusions you set up for them,or yourself? How did you feel then? Can you deal with crushes, bumps in the road, etc? How many crushes have YOU had here? You seem to be a love addict (the celibacy vow) who is trying to find herself. I'm one of the many lurkers who find the constant flip flopping on your part a bit sad and a little self-serving. You always say "I don't care what others think of me" yet it's painfully obvious that you do. Here's one somewhat educated person who thinks you are a bit holier than thou,if only because there are so many transparencies in your telling others how they should live their lives, when you should maybe look at your own. If you wear honesty as a virtue, you will hopefully realize that someday. | |
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