I was asked back in March or so to be a reader at a wedding (former coworker) this December. I accepted but then got the hotel/travel options and I just so can't afford to go!! For two nights i'll be shelling out like $600 (not including the wedding gift!) and to me that's way too much money! I have to tell them I can't go but don't know how to tactfully do it...I'm afraid they aren't going to speak to me -- urgh...i hate predicaments like this. PLease help!!!

Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway...

Explain the situation...expressing a desire to live up to the committment you made.
There may be other options. There may be someone else in the wedding with similar
circumstances who would share room/expenses.
Wedding gift??? Be practical. Your presence would be the biggest present you could give.

Melody

Byron said:

He's right you know.

noepie said:

Indeed.

gooeythehamster said:

co-sign

Straight up is always better

plus you will feel better about it if you are honest...and the more time that goes by...the bigger predicament you will put them in

get it off your chest...you will feel much better honey


for you...

Byron said:

Sound advice all the way around

should i wait for the official receipt of the invitation? haven't gotten it in the mail yet...it should be any now...

I agree with Byron... take a chance, I am sure they will understand, and remain your friend... Good Luck!

purplegypsy said:

No, you should tell them as soon as possible so that they have time to find someone else to do the reading in your place if needs be.

ok here's my last question...i promise...i'm so bad with confrontation--how rude am i if i do it over IM or email or maybe hand-written letter??? AAAH! I hate this!!!

purplegypsy said:

You know what hun? It is better to do it in person if they are near. If not on the phone... Be brave. It is not really a confrontation. The outcome will be better than you think.

well i called and left a 10 minute message. the damage is done. so how they will react is now in their hands...thanks to everyone who helped me...my next challenge...telling my roomates i'm moving out-one of them just lost her grandmother-the other one is a selfish bitch who said i can't move out until she does in november when she is engaged. urgh...i hate everyone!