That when a relationship is right... It just comes

together?

I personally haven't experienced that before and I find

myself fighting against it a bit because it just flows! I'm

certain that sounds silly and all but I have thought it

just a fairy tale long ago. I am revaluating my prior

beliefs.

So let me hear your experiences.

Ready ...

set...

POST!!!

I totally misunderstood what you said


forget it!
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It did for me, finally...and I married her immediately. And it still flows.

CarrieLee said:

I hear ya! This one is amazing and so natural with it. He agrees with us to! He also is thrown off by how it just flows and we agree that likely we are just clueless as to how it should feel when it is right.

Wierd stuff Maynard!

This might sound weird but I've always kinda been afraid of finding REAL TRUE LOVE, I'm so afraid that when I do find that special one that I've given my to he will suddenly be taken away from me, for example, car accident, illness, etc, I dont think I could take that kind of pain.
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teller said:

Yeah? How long did you know her when you married?

It does happen...and then you learn...

teller said:

Thats great to hear teller.

sag10 said:

but what happends?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Sorry Muse...you got this too early!

Don't fight it, just go with it...ya never know you just may like it

Initially, perhaps, for some. There has to be some kind of attraction or something you have in common.

But I believe all relationships have to be worked at.

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

You learn not to question what is given to you..

A relationship shouldn't be hard... It should flow, and you and him really need to take advantage of what you have. It probably feels wonderful, and it should.. Have fun and enjoy your moments together.

Paisley said:

I knew my wife just over 6 months before we got married... We communicated alot and let it be.
After a while You just know you don't want no one else, and it feels like. Yes. I want you forever...


love edit...
[This message was edited Mon Oct 6 10:53:34 PDT 2003 by july]

sag10 said:

Thank you! I am learning to roll with it. Also not to expect it to change for the negative. I really haven't ever been burned or scorned so to speak. I just think I failed to hang out for what I really wanted or needed.

july said:

Hey July!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Muse...

july said:

How long have you been married now?

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

2 years 7 months. It will our 3 year anniversary in February...

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

I had known her on and off as a friend for about 5 years. We had always clicked, but were married to other people. When we both became available, we jumped at it. And truth to tell, I didn't know her all that well--mostly just from parties. But the chemistry was perfect--like what you describe.

Now that the dust has settled, you can see some of the regular stresses of a real relationship, and yet we still click as before--we're very happy.

You distrust it...do you not feel worthy of happiness?

july said:

2004...

july said:

Congrats!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Thank you Muse...



love edit...
[This message was edited Mon Oct 6 11:25:16 PDT 2003 by july]

teller said:

I have learned that I have had huge walls in place in what I thought was a way to keep from experiencing deep pain. What I came to understand through another here, was that I was in fact jaded and may never have suffered great loss or pain but I also haven't known great love either. I was very jaded. I am now working on correcting it!

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Joy and pain are both responses to values. In order to mute pain, you must deny your values--which mutes joy in the process.

Take risks.

teller said:

Agreed!

Also, when it's strong enough, free-will shuts down and you'll go for it anyway.

teller said:

Now that right there is a present fact! Good one!

I will let you know if and when it happens...

cross your fingers

cborgman said:

Fingers, toes, eyes!