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Need advice!! I was asked back in March or so to be a reader at a wedding (former coworker) this December. I accepted but then got the hotel/travel options and I just so can't afford to go!! For two nights i'll be shelling out like $600 (not including the wedding gift!) and to me that's way too much money! I have to tell them I can't go but don't know how to tactfully do it...I'm afraid they aren't going to speak to me -- urgh...i hate predicaments like this. PLease help!!! Let the rain come down...17 days.... | |
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Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway... | |
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Explain the situation...expressing a desire to live up to the committment you made.
There may be other options. There may be someone else in the wedding with similar circumstances who would share room/expenses. Wedding gift??? Be practical. Your presence would be the biggest present you could give. Melody So...how's everybody doing? | |
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Byron said: Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway...
He's right you know. WHAT IF THERE IS NO TOMORROW? THERE WASN'T ONE TODAY! | |
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noepie said: Byron said: Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway...
He's right you know. Indeed. | |
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gooeythehamster said: noepie said: Byron said: Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway...
He's right you know. Indeed. co-sign THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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Straight up is always better | |
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plus you will feel better about it if you are honest...and the more time that goes by...the bigger predicament you will put them in
get it off your chest...you will feel much better honey for you... THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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Byron said: Just be upfront and honest with them, I think..."I'd really love to attend your wedding, but unfortunately I right now I can't afford to.."...If they stop speaking to you because of that, then you're better off not having their presence in your life anyway...
Sound advice all the way around | |
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should i wait for the official receipt of the invitation? haven't gotten it in the mail yet...it should be any now... Let the rain come down...17 days.... | |
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I agree with Byron... take a chance, I am sure they will understand, and remain your friend... Good Luck! ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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purplegypsy said: should i wait for the official receipt of the invitation? haven't gotten it in the mail yet...it should be any now...
No, you should tell them as soon as possible so that they have time to find someone else to do the reading in your place if needs be. | |
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ok here's my last question...i promise...i'm so bad with confrontation--how rude am i if i do it over IM or email or maybe hand-written letter??? AAAH! I hate this!!! Let the rain come down...17 days.... | |
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purplegypsy said: ok here's my last question...i promise...i'm so bad with confrontation--how rude am i if i do it over IM or email or maybe hand-written letter??? AAAH! I hate this!!!
You know what hun? It is better to do it in person if they are near. If not on the phone... Be brave. It is not really a confrontation. The outcome will be better than you think. ^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^*^
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well i called and left a 10 minute message. the damage is done. so how they will react is now in their hands...thanks to everyone who helped me...my next challenge...telling my roomates i'm moving out-one of them just lost her grandmother-the other one is a selfish bitch who said i can't move out until she does in november when she is engaged. urgh...i hate everyone! Let the rain come down...17 days.... | |
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