have you ever known someone who was very thin-skinned and felt that everything was always some personal slight against them?


or perhaps someone who was hypersensitive and took what to anyone else would be a completely harmless, meaningless joke and thought it was "an unnecessarily cruel attack"?



or someone who was overly dramatic about simple things, trying to be coy, while pretending not to want any "drama" but being totally passive/aggressive in their actions?



how do you deal with a person like this? without offending them further? how do you tell them to get over it and that not everything is some great big huge hysterical drama? or would you care? would you just plough straight on ahead and just let them be offended and insulted, knowing full well you've not done anything to warrant it?


please. i really, really want to know.

First?

I have been all three and told myself to get over my fucking self and went on with life...all is good now

i have known people like this, yes.

the best way to deal with them is realize that you don't know what is going on in their life, and have no idea how bad they might have it.

or just keep kicking them in the face when they are down.

thankfully i am not one of those people. i used to be.

now i am more of a smile, and take it with a smile kind of guy.

Don't guys just beat each other up over this kind of thing, and then they're friends?

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

Jess is COOL!

[This message was edited Sat Oct 4 23:14:28 PDT 2003 by AaronMaximus]

AaronMaximus said:

OUT WITH IT...I know you wanna say something

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

Damn, I saw it before it was edited, I shoulda quoted it!

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

some people are just too easily offended.




that's all i want to say...
[This message was edited Sat Oct 4 23:19:16 PDT 2003 by AaronMaximus]

i'd need to ask the moderators for a go-ahead before i said anything more, or even hinted to you what i was talking about.

AaronMaximus said:

Ahh I see...eh we have all been there, such is life.

AaronMaximus said:

You could always shoot me an orgnote

You know, I am almost impossible to offend.

Ask 2the9s.

http://www.prince.org/msg...sg_1034622 http://www.prince.org/msg...sg_1046588




that's all i'm sayin'

give 'em hell!

AaronMaximus said:

The way I deal with coming into contact with people like this may be different to the way you may deal with it ... I tend to internalise and ask myself why people are in my life at any particular moment, or why situations are occuring.

All the things you mentioned, i.e. finding certain jokes offensive, being hypersensitive and over-dramatic to things you say, are indications that this other person is at a different point in their life to the one you're at. You're "out of sync". Either you have to learn through them, and accept that they're in your life for a reason, or you have to accept that you're at different points and, perhaps, let them go.

I would care, but I really wouldn't let someone else's hypersensitivity affect they way I believe I should be living my life ... unless, of course, that person is there to teach me things about myself I didn't know or didn't want to accept. It could be that the jokes I'm making "are" cruel or offensive in some way, or that I'm creating the dramatic response in the individual by the way I'm behaving. If I felt that was a possibility, I'd look at it further, but I wouldn't alter my actions unless they were contrary to the person I wanted to be.

Ultimately, we all have our own lives to live. You can learn from others, and you can teach others, but you can't live their lives, neither can they live yours. If you're incompatible with any of the people around you, or if they are making you feel bad about the way you're living, you either have to accept that they may have a point and decide whether you're willing to change, or to accept that you're at different points on the path and move on (either with or without them in your life).

xxx