I have been dating DJ506 (other wise known as DJEmale )
for about a 1 year and 9 months... but we started dating before I joined the org...he sent me this way!

cborgman said:

Thank you! It is a pretty cool story, eh?

purplek said:

Wow! Congrats! All herb's posts kick ass!

It all depends on the two people involved...the (physical) distance between them...the honesty/realness shared...and the sincerity of their hearts. ...

Anything can work if you desire it to......but it's imperative to be able to share physical directness regularly, I think. Maybe(hopefully) you'll find yourself soon wanting to move in order to help facilitate that physical closeness. Nothing compares to actually "being" together, face to face, hand to hand...


"Pure Love"

cborgman said:

Good luck Chris

Byron said:

I agree 100%! I love that painting too--who painted it?

purplek said:

it is!

cborgman said:

YAY!

to both of you:

purplek said:

I wish I knew...(I'll have to go back and search and find out ). I love this painting, too...*smile*...It speaks to what I truly feel "pure love" is: where there's nothing at all between you...no inhibitions, secrets or hesitations.

I also love that the artist uses nudity to express that concept (there's literally nothing between them except their shared emotions)...it makes the love these two people share in the painting seem beautifully real...and very pure, indeed.

Have not tried it --- yet. Is it worth it??

luv4u said:

will let you know...

cborgman said:

Yes, please do.

If you are open and honest about everything, it certainly can work. I doubt there's a relationship here that could have a larger distance than mine, but I promise you that it is possible. How long is the distance in your case?

Good luck!

Moonbeam said:

hi, ian, i was really hoping you would give me some insight... thank you.



distance... about 767 miles

"If you are open and honest about everything"

I think those are key words..

sag10 said:

so far, as far as i know, we have been nothing but honest and open... honesty is one of his many fine qualities.

cborgman said:

If you ever have any questions, feel free to ask. Or call!

cborgman said:

You deserve something good.. Good luck Mr. cborgman.

Moonbeam said:

really? would be much easier to talk about it on the phone! wanna org note me your number?

cborgman said:

Definitely key words...(trust me, I know... )...dishonesty can leave a stain on any relationship...perhaps not an indelible one, but still...

It's one reason I feel physical closeness is important...because it allows that realness you both express to take shape/form between you...

sag10 said:

awww, thank you. call me chris...

he is definately something good, to put it very mildly

I wish my relationships would turn out the way I want them 2. But then, not everything is meant 2 be.

Org Romance sucks leave it alone, that's all I'm saying.
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Sweeny79 said:

I think it all depends on the person U meet U know. And then again U gotta meet them in the flesh 2 get a fuller picture.

JDINTERACTIVE said:

Well, that's what I mean orgers live far away from each other and may not ever meet.

Well, there's nothing wrong with pursuing a romance with someone you've met online. In today's crazy world, Internet contacts are usually the only way a lot of us can meet potential dating parents--unless you REALLY think bars and clubs are good spawning grounds.

But you gotta remember this: the Internet allows you to see only ONE SIDE of the person. In "real life" (so to speak) you'll be exposed to all their faults, imperfections and bodily functions.

So you have to have a large amount of objectivity to withstand an Internet romance.

As to 'Org romances,' let me say this. We're a pretty tight-knit community on here and everyone knows everyone else. If you date someone and it goes awray...prepare for some possible drama. I have lots of friends on here who can vouch for that.

I'd consider dating an Orger. But 'consider' is the key word there.

DudeDrops said:

Yep, sensible, very sensible. I would also say U expose Ur faults, imperfections and bodily functions(?!) 2 them 2 though.

Current org romancer and long distance relationship veteran here.

Ok, so here's my bit: LDRs have unique challenges. The main one being that you have to figure out how to make it stop being an LDR eventually, and for most of us, picking up and moving is a Big Deal. I think it's really, really important to make sure that the other person is included in your life, even if it can't always be in person. I mean, yeah, find a frequent flyer plan that you like. But schedule dates and, if possible, activities that can be shared even while you are apart. Share music/movies/tv shows. . .crap like that. Mail random stuff to each other. . .holding a physical object that the other person held can be such an nice thing. I asked Matt for a bottle of his cologne, and on a 'sad about the LDR part of the relationship' day, I wear it to make me feel better. Try to keep up on the other person's schedule, and ask how their day went. Normal stuff. It helps to keep it from feeling like a pretend relationship.

If you think that your loved ones are the core of your life and happiness, those practical difficulties can be worked out. I think it's about priorities and communication, basically.

I hope your org romance turns out well, Chris. You deserve it.

She knows I am there, and that I love her.