After a shaky three months of hanging out with this guy I thought I was/am falling for he finally admitted that the reason he wasn't always available was because he had a live-in boyfriend and that on the nights he wasn't with me he was with him...I honestly thought it was because he was too busy with work. I'm such an idiot! I asked him why he now felt the need to tell me and he said because it looked like I was getting serious and he just wanted to be clear. He said that he liked me and how he still wanted to see me and all kinds of malarkey. I told him that if all he wanted was a fuck buddy that he should've been more clear from the beginning. He said that had he been clear I would not have stuck around. No shit!

He tells me this over dinner last night and I'm sitting there speechless and clearly starting to get upset and in the course of his speech about how much he likes me and how his relationship is on the rocks and blah, blah, blah. And then he tells me that even though it's "inappropriate" he "finds it hot that I'm all upset." That he was "actually getting horny" and then asked if I'd like to go to his house since the boyfriend was not there. I felt like I was slapped.

I've been to his house many times and there was absolutely no sign of a boyfriend. The guy has introduced me to his friends and he even took me to a a dinner with a celebrity client. In restrospect I can't think of any kind of a sign that a boyfriend existed. Anyway, I told him I had to leave and on the way out of the restaurant Sinead O'Connor's version of "Nothing Compares 2U" is on the speakers and he says "isn't this song appropriate." Again, I felt like I was slapped. I keeping kicking myself this morning for not saying anything.

Anyway, I'm driving home afterwards and he calls me on the cell and asks if I'm ok and I tell him no and ask him not to call me again. He said that I was being dramatic and that I should think about it before I make such a "harsh" decision. I ask him again not to call. And he says "I'm calling you in three days." And I said "DO NOT CALL ME AGAIN." He screamed back in the phone "I cannot accept that. I'll call you in three days." I hung up. Damn, we gay boys sure are dramatic.

Why am I posting this on the org? Who the hell knows. I'm just pissed, sad, angry and I feel foolish for falling for someone's fucking game...

PLAYERS

LIARS

ewww

Sorry to hear that. There are better fish in the sea. Hang in there.

i am sorry...

I'm sorry to hear that.

That does really suck. I'm sorry.

Damn...

Doesn't it just blow you away that he pulls the "dramatic" card on your ass...HELLO it's kind of a dramatic thing to be led on and dropped off a cliff. It would be one thing if the guy told you his situation and you made the decision to go with it and see where it led but it's another to be totally dubious for months and expect you to just be peachy keen.

I'm sorry this happened to you. You definitely deserve better treatment, at the very least some honesty. It's hard dating men cuz whether they are gay or straight, they suck!!

Keep your head up

Sorry to hear this. They can be mean and selfish.

Hang in there, a boy with substance will surely come along, you just have to be ready for him, and being involved with this guy will only get in the way. There are many different types of guys out there, gay and straight, you just need to focus on the type that will make you most happy, and wait for him. Nothing worth having comes without some kind of fight! P.S. I am single:)

so sorry you're having to go through this!

run! run like hell!!!

XxAxX said:

If you don't it will be harder than escaping from a black hole!!!

Thanks everyone!

Moxy said:

co-sign! figure out what you like/dislike and go from there!

Hang in there, hon...this guy is obviously screwed up...make sure that in three days you're nowhere near a phone!

That really sucks, i'm sorry. Men can never seem to make up their minds.. they want to have their cake and eat it too.

Nothing sucks like a boy?

Tough story
[This message was edited Mon Sep 29 12:50:36 PDT 2003 by deMatthijs]

yes, boys suck. the good ones do, anyway...

He sounds quite masochistic (getting off on your pain and negative emotion) and selfish, I'm afraid. I hope you find the strength to put the relationship aside, because if he is capable of this, he's probably capable of a lot worse
[This message was edited Mon Sep 29 17:06:02 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

AnotherLoverToo said:

Too true. If you were falling in love with him, TheResistor, I know how you must hurt and there's not much that can be said to truly comfort you.

He was not deserving of you. Time will heal your wounds. Hang in there.

damn!! sorry about that sounds like he was an asshole anyway

a lot of good insight here. and as I actually met you, even only once, you're good people and definitely deserve better. keep your resolve up when he does call!

madartista said:

Mo is AWESOME people