SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

co- sign

I LOVE kids! I'm a God dang primary school teacher , but I want them to go home at the end of the day.

tackam said:

Well said!

personally, i'd rather not find out what the point is. at least not at the moment. and there's not much chance of it happening by way of "accident"

not everyone should have children.
the planet is overpopulated already

but, when they're around, kids rock

tackam said:

Yeah, what she said. (I want a vasectomy.)

It bothers me how some folks don't accept the idea of being childfree by choice. I've been told multiple times that I'm making a bad decision and/or I'll change my mind when I get older.

tackam is right...there is no where to go once you have had children and you are freaking out about your decision.Maybe if these places existed, then people would be able to work these feelings out rather than become depressed or have to live with unexplainable guilt.It is especially difficult for a woman to feel this way and express her feelings. Purplelove, go to your local bookstore selfhelp section and look for something that will help you deal with your feelings of being overwhelmed and neglected.Maybe plan a weekend away with just your spouse.Just don't talk about this issue with your spouse until you are both in a stress free environment, without the kids around and try to address how you feel, rather than your doubts about your children.There is hope.

Finess said:

thats actually why i left the thread...its heartbreaking to read this stuff

PurpleLove, I think there's more behind your stance and perspective than simply a question of why anyone should have children......Whatever it is that's creating the emotional stress within you, I hope you discover it and find a healthy way of dealing with it (truly, I do......no offense meant in any way). Resentment (or any of it's related emotions) usually stems from some feeling of loss of control, and often manifests itself by finding fault or placing the blame for that feeling on "others"...

As to why anyone has kids, it's purely a personal and individual choice, one that should never be taken lightly (although far too many do)...but put in simple terms, we humans have children because that's what we were meant to do...we were born to create. As well as this: having children is one of the best and most intense ways of experiencing what love was meant to be...unconditional, and neverending.

Byron said:

well said sweetie

matt said:

What u both say , I have been labelled crazy, sick and less of a woman when I express the fact that I do not want children. Mind u, only women have said this, never men, at least not to my face.

i didn't mean 2 piss on or off any1 here at The Org & i really feel people like Finess, JustKelly, NuPowerSoul & Matt r people who won't bite their tongue & say something suger coated.

but on The Real i Do Love my Ibn/Son.

he's Part 2 of me & he's cuter but at the same time the way Allah/TheOne/God brought him in2 my Life (like Finess said) it was destiny & i want 2 b a BETTER Dad then my Dad (or StepFather). if 1 day i woke up & he wasn't here i wouldn't know what 2 do with myself & i had the chance 2 let this all sink in so Thanks 4 all u'r post & i PRAY 2 Allah/TheOne/God that i b a better Man, Husband & Daddy
[This message was edited Tue Sep 23 7:53:33 PDT 2003 by PurpleLove7]

I don't want children. They're okay on toast but that's about all.

thanks 2 every1 who posted...