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Why be tactful? I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that! 
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful.  So...how's everybody doing?  | |
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hi, melody!!!  | |
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The thing is that most people who are not tactful are hardly ever bothered by it. | |
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SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either. "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either. Well said | |
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Handclapsfingasnapz said: hi, melody!!!
Hi sweetheart! So...how's everybody doing? | |
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rdhull said: Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either.
true...there are some times where you just gotta tell it like it is, as opposed to skirtin around stuff. | |
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EvilSkittle said: The thing is that most people who are not tactful are hardly ever bothered by it.
Really? That's interesting..  So...how's everybody doing? | |
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I don't consider kindness to be a nicety, I consider it to be the only appropriate way to treat people. Beyond that, I have no use for tact. | |
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rdhull said: SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either. Well it depends on where you are trying to go... Hey! It made U love me... 
. [This message was edited Sun Sep 7 11:16:14 PDT 2003 by SensualMelody] So...how's everybody doing? | |
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Using tact is only necessary with people are who a) sensitive to a certain issue, and b) you care enough not to offend them. Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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SensualMelody said: rdhull said: SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either. Well it depends on where you are trying to go... Hey! It made U love me...
. [This message was edited Sun Sep 7 11:16:14 PDT 2003 by SensualMelody] This is true..bit Sesnual there have been times when I really wanted u to throw away the tact and say "look muthafucka...go to hell" to some folks "Climb in my fur." | |
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teller said: Using tact is only necessary with people are who a) sensitive to a certain issue, and b) you care enough not to offend them.
...good points...but one always use tact with those they care about and dont always refrain from having to kick a loved one in the balls if needed [This message was edited Sun Sep 7 11:39:37 PDT 2003 by rdhull] [This message was edited Sun Sep 7 11:40:49 PDT 2003 by rdhull] "Climb in my fur." | |
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A good kick in the balls can be the necessary, loving, thing to do sometimes, yeah... Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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teller said: A good kick in the balls can be the necessary, loving, thing to do sometimes, yeah...
LOL  "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: SensualMelody said: rdhull said: SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Melody I feel you..but listen...sometime somewhere you are gonna have to kick someobody in the balls. And just as one cant go around kicklin folks, tact doesnt always get you somewhere either. Well it depends on where you are trying to go... Hey! It made U love me...
. [This message was edited Sun Sep 7 11:16:14 PDT 2003 by SensualMelody] This is true..bit Sesnual there have been times when I really wanted u to throw away the tact and say "look muthafucka...go to hell" to some folks But baby...that's what I have U for...  So...how's everybody doing? | |
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teller said: Using tact is only necessary with people are who a) sensitive to a certain issue, and b) you care enough not to offend them.
Hey Teller...(a)true...but since U don't always know if a person is senitive to an issue, tact is appropriate. (b) I know U care about everybody...(cept for the one U told me about) LOL! So...how's everybody doing? | |
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SensualMelody said: (b) I know U care about everybody...(cept for the one U told me about) LOL!
oh dear | |
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2the9s said: SensualMelody said: (b) I know U care about everybody...(cept for the one U told me about) LOL!
oh dear "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: 2the9s said: oh dear
You two have some kind of inside joke going I see... Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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teller said: rdhull said: 2the9s said: oh dear
You two have some kind of inside joke going I see... 
I laffed because u actually answered seriously to what I though of as someone clowning around...and th e oh dear thing is funny. I say that sometimes too. Like now to your response teller oh dear..aka oh my "Climb in my fur." | |
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SensualMelody said: "to do or say the most fitting thing."
Sounds kinda lame to me 
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others.
Again, i'm not convinced. I mean, there's no need to be tactfull when u share the same opinion as someone else. And when u disagree, than why not say it as it is? Sometimes tactfull people are just plain arrogant. Of course, i agree there is no point in beeing rude or in intentionally huring a person's feelings. "It's better 2 B hated 4 what U R than 2 B loved 4 what U R not."
My IQ is 139, what's yours? | |
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SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Slut! | |
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FUCK tactful.
someone once said (I believe it was Toni Morrison) that "sometimes, you just gotta call a motherfucker a motherfucker". ***************************************************
Seems like the overly critical people are the sheep now days. It takes guts to admit that you like something. -Rdhull ...it ain't where ya from, it's where ya at... - Rakim | |
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Hi Melody! Good to see you back! | |
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LadyCabDriver said: FUCK tactful.
someone once said (I believe it was Toni Morrison) that "sometimes, you just gotta call a motherfucker a motherfucker". Nikki Giovanni said it and I said it after her "I like the rappers, because someone has to call a mutherfucka a mutherfucka"  "Climb in my fur." | |
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mcmeekle said: SensualMelody said: I was reading an article entitled "Learning the Art of Being TACTFUL"
Here are some points I really liked. The dictionary defines tact as "the ability to appreciate the delicacy of a situation and to do or say the kindest or most fitting thing." Wow! I like that!
It mentioned that being tactful is not just a skill; it involves a genuine desire to avoid hurting others. Man! I like that too!
Personally, I know that sometimes we can not be tactful like if we need to say something like... "THE APARTMENT BUILDING IS ON FIRE! GET YOURSELF OUTTA HERE!!!" Otherwise I can see why many like to be in the company of those who are tactful. Slut! Now see sensnual--dont u wanna knee this person right in da groin?
use the leg strength like u fallin out "Climb in my fur." | |
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LadyCabDriver said: FUCK tactful.
Hi Bonnie..my names Clyde... "Climb in my fur." | |
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rdhull said: and th e oh dear thing is funny. I say that sometimes too.
That's because you and 9s are the same person. This post not for the wimp contingent. All whiny wusses avert your eyes. | |
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Supernova said: rdhull said: and th e oh dear thing is funny. I say that sometimes too.
That's because you and 9s are the same person. Nova!  "Climb in my fur." | |
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