stymie said:

I don't either, because SOME of the "better looking" people can have the ugliest attitudes. It shouldn't really matter what's on the outside, but on the inside. See if the person is smart or if he has a good personality first before judging anything else.

I just pee on them.

CarrieLee said:

Carrie, I seriously doubt any guys ever flirt with you, so GET OFF THIS THREAD!

CarrieLee said:

This is what I do when someone hot flirts with me. Gotta mark my territory, after all.

paisley2002 said:

Well, I NOW have mixed feelings towards men of less than "desirable" looks as I once was of the opinion that guys that didnt think they were "ALL THAT" tried harder & were therefore better partners, & I found out OTHERWISE with my ex husband, in a hurry...But I guess I still feel in some ways one shouldnt judge a book by its cover so 2 speak, and feel that a guys looks has nothing 2 do with the goodness of his being, so I'd definately give a guy with sub-par looks a chance at least. There R many different reasons a person can turn another on that bypasses his looks...( that is just one turn on, & if theres nothing more 2 him of substance, beneath his surface, the good looks R hard 2 see after awhile, let alone stomach ) There R, however, great looking guys that have substance, and the not so-great looking ones as well. They need a chance.

i usually say 'thanks for the drink but no thank you to anything else' and move along my merry way. this of course is after talking for a bit. i'm not too mean. plus i'm looking for Mr.Right, not Mr.RightNow.

stymie said:

kiss85 said:

I agree totally...as I have said before, I have dated some beautiful men only to find them ugly - attitude/personality/nature and the more I saw them they became more "ugly" in my eyes, so girls some of them arent really worth it, and they are not a "catch" at all...

Then I have dated some "not so good looking" men, but they have been humourous, kind, respectful, and they make me feel proud to be with them..

An example of this was when I dated a guy and he had such a fantastic addictive personality, and yes I was younger too, and my friends on first seeing him, thought hell girl, what you doing with him?? ...within minutes they noticed girls swooning all over him and trying to chat him up, cos he was Nikky!!! Gorgeous from the inside and it showed through on the outside too...then my mates became jealous too, (in a good way) cos he WAS a catch!!!

So in reply to the question, no I do not ignore them straight away by looks alone, I am polite and wait to see whatthey are like personality-wise first...if he is rude abd crude then yes, I walk away, if I am not single then I am still polite and tell him that.

Vashti said:

You should know better.

EvilSkittle said:

You know what? I dont notice pysical beauty first..

When someone finds me attractive, I am flattered.

I will reciprocate the compliment by smiling or saying something that
will make the person feel good...then let him know I am married...

REDFEATHERS said:

Oh?

CarrieLee said:

Make them buy u enough drinks to help you
see blindly

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

That doesn't work with me..they never take the hint.

Anxiety said:

It depends on the situation. If you're going to see this person again, like you work with them or go to school with them, then yes, be nice and be friendly. If I'm walking down the street and some weirdo wants to say hey baby, then that is a total turn off for me. #1, they are just going by YOUR looks, so that frees you to just go by their looks AND their approach.

In my experience in these kinds of situations, the guy's approach is all wrong. STARING makes no sense to me. I just don't make eye contact. It's uncomfortable. Once I finally made eye contact with this guy that was staring at me on the bus and he mouthed "hello". I smiled and mouthed "hi." Then went back to looking out the window. I have a boyfriend, but I don't have to explain why I don't engage in a conversation with anyone. Again, it's not just because I don't find someone attractive, it's because they know nothing about me.

I once gave a guy my number because he seemed very nervous when he approached me and wanted to take me out to dinner. I thought it was sweet that someone was actually nervous to talk to me so I thought "What the hay." We talked on the phone and had NOTHING in common, he was studying biochemical engineering, talking about lab samples! He did all the talking and I was stuck on the phone, just taping my fingers. That was the first and last time I gave my number out to someone who just walked up to me.

So anyway, everyone that is saying how can you call a person ugly or just judge them by looks, well that is EXACTLY what that bozo is doing. He sees you and decides to try to "get wit you". In my experience it never turns out good. Again, if it is someone you see on a daily basis at work or a class then that is different and you have time to find out if you have anything in common.

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lillith said:

Hmmm...don't U usually get the drink, say U "gotta pee", run upstairs to the DJ booth to hide out while watching the poor fool look for U on the dance floor?

DJ506 said:

don't be tellin' all my secrets!!! now the poor schmo's will know where to look for me!!!
damn it!

I try to be curtious and smile nice and say I am taken or I am spoke for... I wouldn't be cruel.. That is just mean and not in my personality!