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Printablejustkelley said: lisa...be real ???
are you really going to sit there and tell me that you are all good with your man doing some shit like that ??? 
and the makin love/sex difference you pointed out... 
when in a relationship...a true relationship...a person just wouldnt do that...be it for a quickie or anything else... i cant believe you are seriously asking this question ! who says he's gonna be the only one, 
what u think I'm just gon sit there and let him have al the action, I think not  | |
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DigitalLisa said:[quote] justkelley said: who says he's gonna be the only one,
what u think I'm just gon sit there and let him have al the action, I think not --- hey... we all gotta have a goal in life ...right ?? THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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What y'all think about this See ya at the clinic :LOL: 
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justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ??? 
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] | |
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justkelley said:  red...
well said !!! That is what I dont understand, they want a relationship for security? So they fuck around in their partner??  Usually the other partner just goes along with it to make their "loved one" happy...it just doesnt work.. 
I say, if you cannot stay faithful, then just stay single.. [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:50 PDT 2003 by REDFEATHERS] | |
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Ok problem solved... now what about that damned chicken-and-egg dilemma? | |
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REDFEATHERS said: justkelley said: red...
well said !!! That is what I dont understand, they want a relationship for security? So they fuck around in their partner?? Usually the other partner just goes along with it to make their "loved one" happy...it just doesnt work..
I say, if you cannot stay faithful, then just stay single.. [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:50 PDT 2003 by REDFEATHERS] listen i agree with anxiety, cuz after being in a relationship 4 so long you do get tired of each other and it doesn't really have 2 always be about sex ya know... you might just wanna hang out with a different guy every now and then  | |
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REDFEATHERS said: justkelley said: red...
well said !!! That is what I dont understand, they want a relationship for security? So they fuck around in their partner?? Usually the other partner just goes along with it to make their "loved one" happy...it just doesnt work..
I say, if you cannot stay faithful, then just stay single.. [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:50 PDT 2003 by REDFEATHERS] Called sport fucking | |
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DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
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MartyMcFly said: Ok problem solved... now what about that damned chicken-and-egg dilemma?
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justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. | |
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DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. see i'm not the type who's gonna try have chains on ya and hold u down  | |
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DigitalLisa said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. see i'm not the type who's gonna try have chains on ya and hold u down It shouldnt be about having chains and holding someone down, damn, that isnt right, but if you love and respect them and fulfill all their needs, then surely they wont want to go else where for sex? | |
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REDFEATHERS said: justkelley said: red...
well said !!! That is what I dont understand, they want a relationship for security? So they fuck around in their partner?? Usually the other partner just goes along with it to make their "loved one" happy...it just doesnt work..
I say, if you cannot stay faithful, then just stay single.. [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:50 PDT 2003 by REDFEATHERS] 
why even bother with a "relationship" I thought the point of a relationship was to be exclusive??? Plus I have yet to meet a man who would go for this. some guys don't mind sleeping around but for some reason cannot stomach his woman sleeping around... 
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i think that if you are that easily bored in a relationship...you may not be ready for one...they are a lot of work and a lot of time must go into making sure that you 'water the soul' of the relationship everyday...
i think it best if maybe you stick to just dating around for now... leave the relationships up to the ones that are ready for the commitment
because if you have that little respect for your relationship...you will sleep with a man who is currently in a relationship...and then see...a bitch like me would surely go the fuck off... THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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Erm, Im not 1 really 4 open relationships. I mean what is the point, I mean if Ur with some1 than it should be only them becuz U dig and love 'em right? Id feel guilty jumping in2 bed with any1 else and would be worrying myself what my partner was getting up 2 and who with. | |
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justkelley said: i think that if you are that easily bored in a relationship...you may not be ready for one...they are a lot of work and a lot of time must go into making sure that you 'water the soul' of the relationship everyday...
i think it best if maybe you stick to just dating around for now... leave the relationships up to the ones that are ready for the commitment
because if you have that little respect for your relationship...you will sleep with a man who is currently in a relationship...and then see... bitches like me and would surely go the fuck off...hellyeah edit
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butterfli25 said: justkelley said: i think that if you are that easily bored in a relationship...you may not be ready for one...they are a lot of work and a lot of time must go into making sure that you 'water the soul' of the relationship everyday...
i think it best if maybe you stick to just dating around for now... leave the relationships up to the ones that are ready for the commitment
because if you have that little respect for your relationship...you will sleep with a man who is currently in a relationship...and then see... bitches like me and would surely go the fuck off...hellyeah edit 
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REDFEATHERS said: DigitalLisa said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. see i'm not the type who's gonna try have chains on ya and hold u down It shouldnt be about having chains and holding someone down, damn, that isnt right, but if you love and respect them and fulfill all their needs, then surely they wont want to go else where for sex? 2 each his own i guess.. ... | |
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Fhunkin said: Anxiety said: endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect Yup, you're right on target. I think also, there has to be the one major rule that the RELATIONSHIP part comes before the OPEN part. You have to know when to knock it off with the extracurricular activity to be present for the person who's number one in your life. I've seen some couples really lose the plot on this issue, which really seems like a simple thing to remember... True ! 'zactly | |
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I could never even date a guy who was having an open relationship, never mind sleep with one..  | |
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but think about it
I just think it would take less stress off the relationship and there would be less temptations if ur partner knows the door is open whenever | |
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DigitalLisa said: REDFEATHERS said: DigitalLisa said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. see i'm not the type who's gonna try have chains on ya and hold u down It shouldnt be about having chains and holding someone down, damn, that isnt right, but if you love and respect them and fulfill all their needs, then surely they wont want to go else where for sex? 2 each his own i guess.. ... What if you fell in love with him Lisa, I mean really fell for him, and you wanted him exclusively...and he didnt want to change his ways? What if you had a baby with him and in the evenings he wasnt home cos he was out with his other women? What if your feelings changed so much you were beginning to get jealous..and it was breaking your heart inside, but you allowed him to carry on just so you wouldnt lose him? I think open relationships hold a great deal of insecurities...IMO Oh it just isnt me... | |
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good luck with that lisa ...
thank GOD we have choices in life... THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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DigitalLisa said: but think about it
It has nothing do it with insecurities it has alot 2 do more with security .I just think it would take less stress off the relationship and there would be less temptations if ur partner knows the door is open whenever read above | |
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REDFEATHERS said: DigitalLisa said: REDFEATHERS said: DigitalLisa said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: justkelley said: so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey...how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because...after all...you wanna be safe right ???
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] Listen I read somewhere where Sammy Davis jr wife caught him with his mysterious one day and instead of going off on him like she was expectating, His wife invited her over for dinner... I laughed at this and thought she was a G 4 that, I was thinking this is me all the way
[This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:09:51 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] give me a break It's like this... You can do what u do just take care of urself, have a little respobility and respect me. Then there would be no trials and tribulations. see i'm not the type who's gonna try have chains on ya and hold u down It shouldnt be about having chains and holding someone down, damn, that isnt right, but if you love and respect them and fulfill all their needs, then surely they wont want to go else where for sex? 2 each his own i guess.. ... What if you fell in love with him Lisa, I mean really fell for him, and you wanted him exclusively...and he didnt want to change his ways? What if you had a baby with him and in the evenings he wasnt home cos he was out with his other women? What if your feelings changed so much you were beginning to get jealous..and it was breaking your heart inside, but you allowed him to carry on just so you wouldnt lose him? I think open relationships hold a great deal of insecurities...IMO Oh it just isnt me... I totally agree with Redfeathers here. But people will please themselves I guess. Far be it 4 me 2 judge. | |
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rdhull said: DigitalLisa said: .
What y'all think about this See ya at the clinic Will you be giving or taking shots? | |
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DigitalLisa said: DigitalLisa said: but think about it
It has nothing do it with insecurities it has alot 2 do more with security .I just think it would take less stress off the relationship and there would be less temptations if ur partner knows the door is open whenever read above well go on then girl if that's what you want and you can find someone to buy into that with you go 'head  waiting for the oh shit he hurt me thread from lisa edit
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butterfli25 said: waiting for the oh shit he hurt me thread from lisa edit | |
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