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Open Relationships Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
Y'all ever meant somebody who claimed they have an open relationship? I've always wondered about these people and if their relationships really worked. U know I've thought about it this before myself. I know this could be argued a great deal, but alot of men do cheat (people cheat), so I was thinking to myself, instead of having myself stress over it, why not just have a open relationship until we're both are really 2 settle down. It'll save time on arguments and me accusing him of cheating all he time, or being jealous of girls (vice versa with the guy) we both just have a understanding with each other of, instead of trying 2 do it behind each other backs, why not be opened about it and do it in the front lines  ... Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking at it like i'm settling for less, but more of 2 people coming 2 a understanding. I know the type of men I like and 4 some reason I'm always attracting those playa' type of men and it's true what they say, unless you don't have a ring on your finger you're really not married.
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DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
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DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
Y'all ever meant somebody who claimed they have an open relationship? I've always wondered about these people and if their relationships really worked. U know I've thought about it this before myself. I know this could be argued a great deal, but alot of men do cheat (people cheat), so I was thinking to myself, instead of having myself stress over it, why not just have a open relationship until we're both are really 2 settle down. It'll save time on arguments and me accusing him of cheating all he time, or being jealous of gils (vice versa with the guy) we both just have a understanding with each other of, instead of trying 2 do it behind each other backs, why not be opened about it and do it in the front lines ... Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking at it like i'm settling for less, but more of 2 people coming 2 a understanding. I know the type of men I like and 4 some reason I'm always attracting those playa' type of men and it's true what they say, unless you don't have a ring on your finger you're really not married.
What y'all think about this [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:12:12 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] How far from me do you live? | |
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Christopher said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
you just needed your crack hit for today didnt you? u know it I tried 2 stay away I really did I was beginning 2 go through withdrawl and ish  | |
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crazyhorse said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
Y'all ever meant somebody who claimed they have an open relationship? I've always wondered about these people and if their relationships really worked. U know I've thought about it this before myself. I know this could be argued a great deal, but alot of men do cheat (people cheat), so I was thinking to myself, instead of having myself stress over it, why not just have a open relationship until we're both are really 2 settle down. It'll save time on arguments and me accusing him of cheating all he time, or being jealous of gils (vice versa with the guy) we both just have a understanding with each other of, instead of trying 2 do it behind each other backs, why not be opened about it and do it in the front lines ... Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking at it like i'm settling for less, but more of 2 people coming 2 a understanding. I know the type of men I like and 4 some reason I'm always attracting those playa' type of men and it's true what they say, unless you don't have a ring on your finger you're really not married.
What y'all think about this [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:12:12 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] How far from me do you live? awww somewhere over the rainbow  | |
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DigitalLisa said: Christopher said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
you just needed your crack hit for today didnt you? u know it I tried 2 stay away I really did I was beginning 2 go through withdrawl and ish lol all is good...  | |
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Christopher said: DigitalLisa said: Christopher said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
you just needed your crack hit for today didnt you? u know it I tried 2 stay away I really did I was beginning 2 go through withdrawl and ish lol all is good... I got it bad 
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DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
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DigitalLisa said: crazyhorse said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
Y'all ever meant somebody who claimed they have an open relationship? I've always wondered about these people and if their relationships really worked. U know I've thought about it this before myself. I know this could be argued a great deal, but alot of men do cheat (people cheat), so I was thinking to myself, instead of having myself stress over it, why not just have a open relationship until we're both are really 2 settle down. It'll save time on arguments and me accusing him of cheating all he time, or being jealous of gils (vice versa with the guy) we both just have a understanding with each other of, instead of trying 2 do it behind each other backs, why not be opened about it and do it in the front lines ... Don't get me wrong, I'm not looking at it like i'm settling for less, but more of 2 people coming 2 a understanding. I know the type of men I like and 4 some reason I'm always attracting those playa' type of men and it's true what they say, unless you don't have a ring on your finger you're really not married.
What y'all think about this [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:12:12 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] How far from me do you live? awww somewhere over the rainbow Yea,the same place any man would ever find a woman down for this,lol.But speakin for myself,the idea of another fool stickin his wackadoo in my lady makes me want to shoot someone. | |
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teller said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
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the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect | |
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teller said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
<--- believes this sort of thing might be why "good-bye" threads often catch so much flack <--- believes that you are absolutely correct...  THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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You have to be realy honest to him and to yourself, else it'll never work !!
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justkelley said: teller said: DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org and plus I had a really good ideal 4 a thread I just had 2 put down and this is one of them, so check it out...
<--- believes this sort of thing might be why "good-bye" threads often catch so much flack <--- believes that you are absolutely correct... Sounds alot like when you tell everyone your quitting cigarettes.You mean it but its gonna take awhile.need an org.patch | |
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crazyhorse said: DigitalLisa said: crazyhorse said: DigitalLisa said: What y'all think about this [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:12:12 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] How far from me do you live? awww somewhere over the rainbow Yea,the same place any man would ever find a woman down for this,lol.But speakin for myself,the idea of another fool stickin his wackadoo in my lady makes me want to shoot someone. wackadoo ?? 
thats a new one 
but yes...i think that is how most people would feel...i mean...your partner is to be just that...you dont share your body with anyone else. it would make me physically ill to think of going down on my man...knowing he had just been with some other woman...  or ...do you really think that you could have your man tell you 'i love you' after he had been makin out with some other bitch all night ?? i think not
so...lisa... no...i dont think that would work [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:32:36 PDT 2003 by justkelley] THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect yep this is true, it really is about communication and the respect y'all show 2wards each other. He can have all the women he want just make sure he let all the other girls know I'ma always be number one and they come second ... 2 JustKelly ... There's a difference between having sex and making love. Most of the time when a peron has sex it really doesn't mean anything except 4 a good orgasm  . I would rather know about it, then having a guy go behind my back and doing it. At least if we "communicate" in advance I know what I'm dealing with and having the option ofknowing how 2 cope with it.
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I think this is a subject that differs wildly for each person and each couple, and can't really be put into a box of "this is right for everyone" or "this is wrong for everyone".
I think it also differs in terms of gay/bi/straight relationships, and beyond that, in terms of so many other factors that work into any given relationship. That said...personally, I'm a believer in open relationships. This is not to say that I'm in favor of indiscriminate fooling around with people when I'm in a committed relationship - but I think it's natural for people in a long term relationship to get a little burnt out on the same partner year after year, month after month, whatever - and I think with honesty, communication, responsibility and a little bit of confidence, there's nothing wrong with going out for a little bit on the side. It can get the wanderlust out of one's system without feeling the temptation to wander off and cheat, and more often than not, a night of carousing around with the single folks will remind a person of how good they have it with their partner. I think where it ends with me is when there are secondary relationships and other situations where my partner would have serious emotional relationships with other people, which wouldn't necessarily involve me. I guess I can be all liberal and progressive where sex is concerned, but when it comes to making goo goo eyes for real, that's where I turn into Ol' Miss Sophia and start bustin' heads. | |
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DigitalLisa said: endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect yep this is true, it really is about communication and the respect y'all show 2wards each other. He can have all the women he want just make sure he let all the other girls know I'ma always be number one and they come second ... 2 JustKelly ... There's a difference between having sex and making love. Most of the time when a peron has sex it really doesn't mean anything except 4 a good orgasm . I would rather know about it, then having a guy go behind my back and doing it. At least if we "communicate" in advance I know what I'm dealing with and having the option ofknowing how 2 cope with it.
Number one edit [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:40:14 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] looks like to me... you are every mans fantasy...you go girl... i myself am gonna stick to the one on one thing... 
i like to know that i am his first, last, and everything because thats what i would offer in return.
plus...there are way to many diseases out there to be fuckin round like that THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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I'm not sure if an open relationship would work out, let alone a "temporarily" open relationship. | |
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justkelley said: DigitalLisa said: endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect yep this is true, it really is about communication and the respect y'all show 2wards each other. He can have all the women he want just make sure he let all the other girls know I'ma always be number one and they come second ... 2 JustKelly ... There's a difference between having sex and making love. Most of the time when a peron has sex it really doesn't mean anything except 4 a good orgasm . I would rather know about it, then having a guy go behind my back and doing it. At least if we "communicate" in advance I know what I'm dealing with and having the option ofknowing how 2 cope with it.
Number one edit [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:40:14 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] looks like to me... you are every mans fantasy...you go girl... i myself am gonna stick to the one on one thing...
i like to know that i am his first, last, and everything because thats what i would offer in return.
plus...there are way to many diseases out there to be fuckin round like that The way I see it I'm not his mama, I'm not gonna try 2 be I'm not about 2 step in his way of him doing whatever Cuz I'm probably gonna be doing my own thing anyway
But it's true with anxiety said, there is a thin line, if emotions starts 2 get invovled and those emotions ain't dealing with me, then on it's on fur real [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 7:50:32 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa] | |
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endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect Yup, you're right on target. I think also, there has to be the one major rule that the RELATIONSHIP part comes before the OPEN part. You have to know when to knock it off with the extracurricular activity to be present for the person who's number one in your life. I've seen some couples really lose the plot on this issue, which really seems like a simple thing to remember... | |
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Anxiety said: endorphin74 said: the key to open relationships (or any non-standard relationship) is having VERY open communication and respect for each other. You have to be at a point where you can honestly express feelings of hurt/anger/jealousy, etc and be willing to explore these feelings so they can be resolved and not just fester inside until you destroy your main relationship.
and yes, I do know a few couples with this type of arrangement...for all but one couple it works...and the couple who is being destroyed by it have problems bigger than just the "open" aspect Yup, you're right on target. I think also, there has to be the one major rule that the RELATIONSHIP part comes before the OPEN part. You have to know when to knock it off with the extracurricular activity to be present for the person who's number one in your life. I've seen some couples really lose the plot on this issue, which really seems like a simple thing to remember... True ! Futuristic Fantasy | |
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DigitalLisa said: Okay y'all I lied, I'm not really leaving, I couldn't stay away from the org
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lisa...be real ???
are you really going to sit there and tell me that you are all good with your man doing some shit like that ??? 
and the makin love/sex difference you pointed out... 
when in a relationship...a true relationship...a person just wouldnt do that...be it for a quickie or anything else... i cant believe you are seriously asking this question ! THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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No, I've never met anybody like that. Such depravity. | |
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I personally wouldnt/couldnt have an open relationship, and I think "some" people who do, do so for the wrong reasons.. | |
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so lisa...a few questions for you ...
since you would allow your man out like that ... *you wouldnt mind washing her cum out of his underwear ??? *can he have her over for dinner sometime ??? you know ...just as a 'little guest' ?? *would you cook the dinner...and set the table ...and then maybe do the dishes for them...you know...just to be helpful ??? *or hey.....how bout you go to the store and buy the condoms for him...because.....after all....you wanna be safe right ??? 
just somethings to think on [This message was edited Fri Sep 5 8:02:42 PDT 2003 by justkelley] THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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justkelley said: lisa...be real ???
are you really going to sit there and tell me that you are all good with your man doing some shit like that ???
and the makin love/sex difference you pointed out...
when in a relationship...a true relationship...a person just wouldnt do that...be it for a quickie or anything else... i cant believe you are seriously asking this question ! knock it down and dont look back digital.tear it up... | |
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At the end of the day, if you wanna fuck around, just fuck around, why have a relationship to fuck around with? | |
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well said !!! THE UNOFFICIAL ORG SEX THERAPIST
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