I used to ask my girlfriends how many guys they've been with, but not anymore. I've come to the realization that I really don't wanna know. If the number is 5 or 25, I'll always have it in my head. Ignorance truly is bliss in this case. As long as she doesn't cheat or have a disease, I'll be cool.

So who here simply must know the number? Why or why not?

I've only ever been with my Bf and my Bf has only ever been with me,but I think if things were different I would not want to know.

EvilWhiteMale said:

Not nessisary,
I tell 'em from the start it's a whole new ballgame.
But i'm fuckin with a rubber.

EvilWhiteMale said:

Ignorance is fine, but even if she told me that she had slept with 10,000 people it wouldn't bother me because honestly the past is the past with me.

I know other people say that, but with me it's actually true.

I tend not to ask, cos then they'd ask me...and I don't want to answer that question...

I agree the past is the past, but there's a natural feeling most people have that makes us not crazy about the idea of our partners being with a whole shit load of people. I don't know too many guys who would be happy about their girlfriends sleeping with hundreds of dudes, even if it was years ago.

I have no need to know, and I am not interested in numbers either

I have to know, it says a lot about their pesonality.
I admit that number will always be in your head, but it helps with the overall analysis. Sorry.

sinisterpentatonic said:

That is bullshit... IMO

sinisterpentatonic said:

So if a girl you were intersted said I don't know, 37 men how would you feel about her? And would you tell her your number?

(("confrontational" edit))
[This message was edited Tue Aug 26 1:06:47 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

It does not matter at least make sure your partner gets checked for STD's first and HIV.

AnotherLoverToo said:[quote]

sinisterpentatonic said:

Really? And you learned to analyze people at which accredited University? Well not everybody needs to go to a university to learn common sense. It's not hard to figure out someones behavior pattern based on their past actions. If a girl told me that she's been with 50 guys in the last 5 years I'd probably think a number of things about her; unstable,freak,boderline personality disorder, who knows because there are also a lot of other factors that play a part in the conclusion i make.


Do you think a person can truly be known simply by being aware of that number? And are people to be accepted or denied by you forever based upon that number and your pre-judgement? Talking from experience, most of the girls i've been with that have had a lot of partners before me were untrustworthy to say the least.I try to be non judgemental but that's hard for me, it's easy to blame things on youth but there comes a time when everyone is held accountable for their actions. Trust me I'm no saint, alot of women wouldn't want to know my past and the ones I have told seem to never get over it. Don't get me wrong if that's the way someone chooses to live so be it, I don't mind a freak but i realize that there's a slight chance of a long term relationship.

REDFEATHERS said:

You're entitled to that.
[This message was edited Sat Aug 30 21:14:00 PDT 2003 by sinisterpentatonic]

... that kinda shit I never ask and I need not tell ... It's a new relationship not old...right?

pejman said:

Very good point! When exactly is this convo gonna occur before or after you hit the sheets?

(("there's a difference between a porn star and a crazy past" edit))
[This message was edited Tue Aug 26 1:15:20 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

((pej made a great point edit))
[This message was edited Tue Aug 26 1:07:43 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

AnotherLoverToo said:

((double-standard/hypocrite edit))
[This message was edited Tue Aug 26 1:08:21 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

AnotherLoverToo said:

No problem, I'm glad it's clear to you now.
[This message was edited Mon Aug 25 22:19:08 PDT 2003 by sinisterpentatonic]

No I wouldn't want to know that is his business and it was all in the past.

Paisley said:

althom said:

Oh you phuckin prick you no damn well I didn't say that.

Paisley said:

Potty mouth too.

althom said:

dont tempt me.

althom said:

She'll never find a husband with a mouth like that

But Kobe might take her!


[This message was edited Tue Aug 26 0:50:28 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

only if you want to live, i guess.