REDFEATHERS said:

I use 2 think what was the point of getting married, butI've changed my mind complete. I use 2 think it was al about legal matters, however, once I've opened myself 2 love, I tried 2 look in2 the situation with deeper understand. The way look at it now is. it's basically a union you make between you and the person you're going 2 spend the rest of life with. Cuz it's like when you where single and datig, y'all live 2 different lives as 2 differet individuals, once you've make that further step in2 holy matrimony it's kind of like 2 seperate souls become as one. One mind, One body, One spirit underneath the higher power of love.
[This message was edited Sat Aug 23 22:47:36 PDT 2003 by DigitalLisa]

Muffy said:

For me,
It's not just 'Legal Documentation' or just the commitment.

The contract to love and cherish from this day forward is about the cerimony of exchanging vows and rings (which are
a symbol of the unbroken circle of love)
The vows are the integral part of whut make marriage a step
further than 'shakin up', even though common law marriages
are no less true. Of course vows put a whole different degree of pressure on those who take them. Kinda like baptism (after which you are to 'know' sin and be responsible for yours)

SISTER MARY'S "A's" FOR ANY SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE:


AFFECTION - Tender touching


ATTENTION - Time for one another


ACCEPTANCE - Avoid fault finding


AFFIRMATION - Be supportive and open to new things


APPRECIATION - Say "Thank You"


APPROVAL - See the good in your mate


AWARENESS - Be sensitive


APPEAL - Be attractive to your mate


ADAPTATION - Be flexible and ready to compromise


AFFABLE - Have a sense of humor


ANIMATION - Be positive


ADMONITION - Be monogomous


ADDICTION - Be habit forming for your partner



just thought i would throw that in...

see i think the problem is not marriage itself...its the way we look at it.

first of all...its not being tied down for the rest of you life...its having someone with you and for you ...forever...that is a gift in itself to be charished.
no...i am not married...however...i was once...(kinda ) and i can say that had my husband been a better man...i never would have left him...he gave me no options though...but i do look forward too having a husband someday...and loving him with all i have ...taking care of him...and sharing our love till the day we die...thats what marriage is for...

We had a discussion earlier in the chatroom, and many people say that piece of paper you sign ruins the relationship and would rather not get married.

I for one think that is a load of balls..if people love each other and wanna spend the rest of their lives together and wanna marry, why not? I lnow of a lot of long lasting happy marriages.

What are your opinions on marriage today?

I'm with Cloudbuster.

Decided that's all I feel like saying. After all, what else is there to say in this universe, besides "Cloudbuster is right"?

Cloudbuster said:

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Don't know how I missed this first time around!

Anyways...