iridescence said: i have nothing but love for you, sammy but is it really hard?
yes, it takes self control and some discipline but at the end of the day wouldnt we all rather be proud of ourselves for making the right choices? we all make mistakes but some mistakes have great bearing on the soul. and this can potentially hurt quite a few people. mark, do the work, dont take the easy way out. the young girl is not even the main issue here. i am sure you are flattered with the attention but repectfully take care of the commitment you have already made, then move forward. if you decide to leave your marriage there will be plenty of opportunity to explore new situations. not trying to preach here, just giving my thoughts. i'll shut up now. my issue here is that self control is not as easy as we wish it to be. if mark has started this thread...its possibly already gone further in his mind then we may wish him to have. we can't change that fact...all mark has to do now is deal with the consequences of it. like i said...i'm not here to judge him. its not a good situation...i don't have kids...i probably wouldn't be jumping for joy if i had a daughter in this situtaion. the ideal advice is :sort the marriage out....leave her if you are not happy...only then PLAY. [This message was edited Wed Aug 20 14:06:02 PDT 2003 by msserendipity] How, i'm gonna make that booty boom...step back, give a girl some room....OH | |
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Marrk said: SpcMs said: Don't u have to go to school till you're 18 in the UK?
And i'll predict a mess @ work. But if she knows you'r married, and you let your wife know you want a divorce, the hell, y not. no you can leave school at 16 here.She does know i'm married. i've decided to not be stupid, my marriage does need tweaking a bit, i suppose it'll take a bit of effort on both sides, but it's worth fighting for. Hopefully i can retain a platonic friendship with this girl, i like her alot, she's funny. Good choice Marrk. however, if the marriage can not be salvaged, maybe you should think about a divorce. | |
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The most important thing here is YOUR happiness. If you want the best for your marriage, don't waste energy messing around. Instead, re-invest your energy in working with your partner to make both your lives happier together. It sounds like this will involve some hard truths, so be prepared to work your issues out. The rewards will be worth it in the long run.
If you've decided in your heart of hearts that your marriage is not what you want anymore, then you need to think about causing your wife as little harm as possible. I think it would be the right thing to do if you first make it clear to her where your mind is, before acting out of place. You owe your marriage that much. Then, you need to be honest with this younger girl about what you want from her, even if you don't know what it is that you want. Whilst I think it's perfectly natural for you to be in this predicament, it's worthwhile bearing in mind that your wife is just as likely to be looking for / finding fun elsewhere. You need to understand how that makes you feel and either work at winning your wife back, or work at finding your happiness elsewhere. The only real issue in this case, is that you might end up making an irreversible 'mistake' if you don't talk to your wife first. Good luck! | |
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Oh, and to answer your question...no, it's not wrong, but that's not the point. Your happiness is what it's all about. | |
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LennyKravitz said: MrBliss said: LennyKravitz said: Muffy said: Have you seen some 17 year old girls lately? They look Much older and yes guys can get into alot of trouble like R.Kelly and all. True also mixing business with Pleasure is wrong. Complications arise. How about all these Rock Stars that go with much younger Women. The STUD factor. Case in point Prince and Mani. Mick with his Brazilians and Rod Stewert. Get this in my opinion Mick needs a face lift and Rod Stewert also should retire his hairdo. I wouldn't get jazzed or excited for no old man like them not caring how much money they have. Yuck!
You are Natasha. No one else uses the word "stud" or capitalizes the way you do. Welcome back, beautiful. .. hi lenny Hi. Dave, right? Leeenny Kraaavitz Hello & | |
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Marrk said: ...If he's married (for 7 years to a woman 9yrs his senior, no kids involved, and they're not exactly 'in love' anymore, but just going through the motions?)
Somethings up for me. this girl @ work looks about 20, she's 3inches taller than me (I'm 5,9") has told me she wants me big time, and is currently sending me dirty emails.Infact she's just sent me a picture of her tits via her mobile. Excellent they are too. Staff nite out tomorrow, what should i do .Orgers? reality check: you're old enough to know better. she's a KID. | |
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Lust? No. Lie to another person (your spouse?). Yeah. Fuck a minor? May not be anything wrong with it, depending on the situation, but it's dangerous because it's illegal.
If you're really interested in her, spend the next year(ish) wrapping things up with your wife and taking care of yourself in the aftermath of that, and then get involved with her as a legal adult. Everybody is treated with respect, no regrets. Good luck. | |
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I AM King BAD a.k.a. BAD,
YOU EITHER WANNA BE ME, OR BE JUST LIKE ME ™ | |
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I lust after them all the time. I'm just not ever seen with them :LOL: I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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CtheUncanny said: I lust after them all the time. I'm just not ever seen with them :LOL:
I AM King BAD a.k.a. BAD,
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The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis. | |
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Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. | |
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Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. And what is a mid life crisis? I have always wondered about this? I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. And what is a mid life crisis? I have always wondered about this? It's when a guy tries to act younger then he really is, he goes out and buys sports cars hoping to attract younger ladies and tries dressing more hip. | |
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Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. And what is a mid life crisis? I have always wondered about this? It's when a guy tries to act younger then he really is, he goes out and buys sports cars hoping to attract younger ladies and tries dressing more hip. So age is just a number until it comes to this And i guess this only applies to men(as in your example) :ROLL: I GOT YA, I GOT YA, I GOT YA PUNKASS! REPEAT | |
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CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. And what is a mid life crisis? I have always wondered about this? It's when a guy tries to act younger then he really is, he goes out and buys sports cars hoping to attract younger ladies and tries dressing more hip. So age is just a number until it comes to this And i guess this only applies to men(as in your example) :ROLL: True, age IS just a number and I'm sure that women also go through a mid-life crisis. | |
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What about a 30 year old woman with a 18 or 19 year old man? If it's all about getting the most out of looks and sex so what's the difference?. | |
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Let's not forget the entire anti-aging-cream-and-whatnot industry financed by middle-aged women who are trying to look 20. | |
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Marrk said: SpcMs said: Don't u have to go to school till you're 18 in the UK?
And i'll predict a mess @ work. But if she knows you'r married, and you let your wife know you want a divorce, the hell, y not. no you can leave school at 16 here.She does know i'm married. i've decided to not be stupid, my marriage does need tweaking a bit, i suppose it'll take a bit of effort on both sides, but it's worth fighting for. Hopefully i can retain a platonic friendship with this girl, i like her alot, she's funny. OH MARK! Hold onto that feeling You've made it to the right decision for all involved. | |
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Yeah Creme LE MER from the SEA. Listen only one thing gonna keep ya young and that's alot of Exercise and eating right and sleeping right. Tons of sex and all fits into that category. | |
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Thank you all. | |
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Muffy said: What about a 30 year old woman with a 18 or 19 year old man? If it's all about getting the most out of looks and sex so what's the difference?.
exactly | |
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If u want to be with this girl, get out of the marriage. If u're just in it for the sex,
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CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: CtheUncanny said: Paisley said: The poor guy cant help it, he's just going through a mid-life crisis.
Why do men have to go through a midlife crisis. They liked the same kind of look when they were younger. Why would that change. Who doesn't like perky boobs and a full high behind. He's supposed to settle just because he gets older? He doesn't have to settle he can still take it if he wants, it's just that alot of men do go through mid-life crisis. And what is a mid life crisis? I have always wondered about this? It's when a guy tries to act younger then he really is, he goes out and buys sports cars hoping to attract younger ladies and tries dressing more hip. So age is just a number until it comes to this And i guess this only applies to men(as in your example) :ROLL: SHIT!!! I been goin through a mid-life crisis... Sence I was 13. WHEN WILL IT END??? I AM King BAD a.k.a. BAD,
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msserendipity said: marrk i think you're gonna shag her anyway...then deal with the consequences.
that human nature. i ain't here to judge you. if you want to have sex (and generally its just for the sex) with her, do it...it means you're being unfaihful...but hey...if you think you can handle that then so be it. if you want a relationship with the girl, then this is more complex. you have made a commitment to your wife. your circumstances have changed...maybe you need to have this "fling" to sort your own head out. in a perverse away it may make you realise you're own relationship is better then you think. either way...whatever you do ...your heads gonna be fucked. can you deal with it? I agree with sammy, but also this girl is only 17...can she deal with it? If you went back to your wife, if you didnt, a real relationship? Cos you are 33 and she is 17...think about her, and dont lead her into something that might seem like fun for the moment, but later is something you both deeply regret... Good Luck! | |
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if you feel like yur marriage is over, isn't it better to seperate from your wife before you do something so hurtful?
have you lost everything in your marriage or in your wife or yourself that made you be married in the first place, have you lost all love? | |
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ummm I am gonna go out on a limb and say maybe not totally wrong if both parties are in consent and of legal age...but it might be a little weird...but who am I to say. | |
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