Byron said:

Yes, she is quite comfortable with her image...

teller said:

Yeah, you make a lot of sense, Iridescence, but how?

I am trying to let go...It's very hard though

easier said than done...but i'm trying.

teller said:

Doesn´t it feel very strange to stay as an employee when you used to run the business? I mean, if things are going badly then you must feel like they´re killing you´re baby while your hands are tied (like you implied). And when things are going well you must be feeling jealous that they´re (maybe?) handling the business better than you did, right? Either way it sounds like a painful experience. On the other hand, I can imagine that it must be hard to separate yourself completely from something you once created. Was staying with the company a difficult decision to make? (I´m curious)

MrBliss said:

very true. best to let it out and move on

HOW?!

I'm sooo pissed off I could spit nails!

well, if it's anger against the government, you're kinda screwed. they don't actually care what we, the people, think. i suggest a revolution, to overthrow the corrupt bastards. ORGnote me if you're in, 'cause i have a lot of unreleased rage about american politics. although, come to think of it you're based in australia, so that might be problematic. still, ORGnote me.

if it's anger against an individual, you should tell them what made you angry and/or spray them with an entire bottle of cheap perfume. anger management. works dontcha know.

Lammastide said:

i can only speak for myself but here is what works for me:

the first step is identifying the deeper issue, the internal reason the situation effects you so much. often the reason that we are holding on to grudges, bitterness and anger go deep within. look inside and find the problem and resolve to fix it. start with putting previous behaviors to rest. drop the blame game, change the way you react to the situation and learn to forgive.

learning to accept what you cannot change isnt always what we want to do, but the alternative stops us from living fully. bitterness is loss, frozen in resentment. it is also a chain that ties us to the person we want to be free from. untill we deal with the hows and whys of why we feel this way we cannot escape from the loss. so often we want vengeance, but end up with a hypercritical spirit, illness, rejection and chains to the situation. we hope that our bitterness will in some way influence others, but all that happens is that it destroys us. understand these things and move forward with a new mind set and learn forgiveness. accept the situation completely and understand that we have some responsibility for making it happen.

its not always an easy process at first. it takes time, patience, strength and awareness. it certainly beats the alternative though.

MrBliss said:

I farted!

It would be nice to be able to drop all the bitterness that we have. But it isn't a reality. Some people strive on nothing more than making others lives miserable. However, you have to realize that each party in the bitter game is responsible. I am mad at you and you are pissed. You have just given me your will and attention. I now have a control over you which I will use and exploit until I have bored with this game. It isn't so much as being bitter/pissed/upset. It is all about control.


my 2 cents.

alexnevermind319 said:

i hear what you are saying, alex, but it is a choice to live that way or not. so it can be a reality to drop
the issues and move forward in a space of healing and peace. i choose not to be burdened by all the drama.

you are dead on though, it so often is about control. the problem is that its not very effective and it robs
everybody of valuable time and energy not to mention how it deeply damages the soul.

release is peace.

Y'know I've been thinking about this recently and I really don't hold grudges as much as I just walk.

It's like if I find that a person has played me or that someone is treating me like garbage, I leave. I don't even bother to confront them because that's a waste of energy.

Then when I run into the person(s) I'm not rude just not a close as I once was. I don't make future plans and I don't call

I learn and I move on.

Is that the same as holding a grudge? I don't know

Maybe not a Grudge maybe just mad or angry,but hey it does kinda depend on who and what that person did to you and then well maybe you still love them,but they hurt you and it's really up to them to make amends for breaking your heart.

MR BLISS...IF ONLY WE ALL FELT LIKE U & I MY FRIEND...

I will ALWAYS be there 4 my friends...

I just hope one day he realises that.

I agree But phuck him anyway :LOL:

MrBliss said:

TRUE! But when U do let it go, hopefully whatever U had that grudge about U learned a lesson of some kind with it so it wont likely happen again.

CtheUncanny said:

Cold! But funny