If I could find a way...

Looking at your past and your present, what would you change now, that you think affected your life negatively.

If you could erase one moment in your life, something that resulted in a life changing decision... what would it be?

Care to share?

11 years ago i made the extremely bad choice NOT to tell someone how much i really did like them, and consequently ended dating someone else (someone i didn't like nearly as well). it took 11 years to finally get together because of it

Just stupid things like not putting a real effort at school and taking my parents for granted. I guess you start seeing things in a diffrent light when you become a father yourself.

one event...that happend once upon a time when i was about 17... i paid for(in many ways) ...im "debt free" now so to speak lol.

althom said:

thats part of being young and stupid tho

eheh

Christopher said:

So you don't owe your pimp anything?

althom said:

lol no i am pimp free now...i hope he doesnt find out where i live

About seven years ago I did something really foolish and it's something that still bother's me til this day.

Paisley said:

I forgive you.

althom said:

I forgot what I did to you tell me what it was.

Paisley said:

You left me for another woman.

Paisley said:

:eeK:

althom said:

:LOL: oh :LOL:

Christopher said:

:LOL: you prick! :LOL:

althom said:

Christopher said:

Ok bend over and spread your cheeks apart. :LOL:

I regret stuff I haven't done. Rarely what I did do,but there are a few friends I lost contact with that I wish I could have back.

This isn't a defining moment, but it is something I regret very, very much.

When I was performing, I was all over the west coast... My first show, however, required a lot of fliers and help passing them out, putting them on cars etc... I practiced a lot, and didn't have time to do everything.

I was kinda sorta seeing this girl, who I had dated before, but usually overlooked - because I felt I had her in "the bag"... whenever I needed her, she'd be there. My family knew her and loved her. Our families were friends.

Well, during the set up for this performance, she helped a lot. She did a lot of the leg work required to make the show a success. In return, I had made her assume that she was going to be my date that night.

A week before the show, we went out, as we usually do. We always went to parties together, but at the door we'd go our separate ways. I'd flirt with the girls, she'd flirt with the guys, bit we'd always end up leaving together. This was always the case. We had a relationship, but we were not tied to eachother... I think she was okay with this, as it's what I wanted.

At the party, I was talking to a girl I had wanted to date for along time. Word was out about my show, and she was very flirty and forward. She pretty much asked me if she could be my date for the show... I pretty much said "yeah", and left it at that.

I never mentioned my plans to my "girlfriend". She was still under the impression that she was my date for the evening of the show.

When the evening of the show approached, I still said nothing to her. She showed up at my house, dressed to kill, ready to accompany me to the show. I was ready. Dressed to kill and looking very dashing, but I couldn't look her in the eye... she sensed something was up. She got quiet... and very sad looking. Meanwhile, the other girl was waiting across town for me and the limo to pick her up.

I still said nothing to her, only something like, "I'll see you there..." (this really pains me thinking back about this...even writing it. I can't believe what an ass I was)

Still, she went. She went with my parents. She drank, she danced, she left with my parents... too proud to stay, too angry to look at me. My Mom took her home, to my room and put her to bed.

I stayed the night with my date, oblivious to the pain I had created. No, I was aware, just didn't care... apparently.

I lost a friend that night. For awhile, we didn't even talk... I saw her at parties, dates...she saw me with this same girl, dating etc...

Of course, I broke this girls heart too...when I started dating one of my background dancers. (more lies, more secrets...another story).

But, this girl that I hurt so coldly... I ended up marrying her. She's my wife. She's the mother of my three children. I love her so much, but I hate the person I was back then... I'm truly blessed to be with her now. We have our good times, Lord knows we have our bad times... but, in the end... your actions reflect you. You only hurt yourself in the end.

I've been carrying this around for awhile. It's good to vent.

I wish I could take that back... I wish I could redo a lot of things I did to her... I'd definately make some changes to how I treated people.

June7...that was very brave of you to share that. I was glued to the screen reading that. I wonder...have you shared this with her yet?

June7 said:

Oh June that is the best sweetest story I have heard in ages! But man you WERE and asshole But you did what you had to do to grow up I give you alot of credit.

althom said:

Yes... she is aware. I've shared this with her, she knows how sorry I am. She also knows what a different person I am now.

June7 said:

Ok...I'm glad you did share that with her. It sounds like you are still hurting over it though.

althom said:

Well, yeah... I think I'll always 'hurt' over that one, that was probably one of the meanest things I've ever done... and it's weird, cuz I'm not a mean guy. I'm actually very loving and caring... even then. I guess, like Sweeny said, it was something I needed to go through to get where I am today. I wish I could take that one back though.

June7 said:

I wouldn't beat yourself up over it. We all do stupid things when we are younger...it's just the way we learn. You just have to move on from it and make yourself a better person inspite of it.

althom said:

AWW Althom you are so sensitive today.

Okay... anyone else? I've laid my cards out on the table (so to speak)... what do you regret doing?

June7 said:

oh wow june...

Sometimes I think I reveal too much on this site...

June7 said:

JUNE!!