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2. Personality 3. Spirituality 4. Sex 5. Intelligence Sorry, had to add a few of my own in there...because money and looks have never, ever ranked anywhere with me...ever.  | |
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Byron said: 1. Heart
2. Personality 3. Spirituality 4. Sex 5. Intelligence Sorry, had to add a few of my own in there...because money and looks have never, ever ranked anywhere with me...ever. Ok, fine then  , just take it to a higher level and shit! 
Seriously, though, this wasn't "my" test, I got it from a study that was done with men and women to determine how we choose mates and what we find attractive. I'd imagine things like "heart" and "spirituality" and "humor", etc., were intentionally left out to make each test taker decide for themselves whether or not to integrate those qualities with those that exist (say, humor into the "personality" category) and force a choice. I have seen you make, um, appreciative comments on the way certain women look, Byron, lol. When you say looks have "never ranked anywhere with you", are you saying that looks never have mattered or registered or influenced your choice of partners?
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: I believe we fail when we attempt to use a numbering system as a way of measuring importance. It Suggests we can sacrifice certain needs and wants if others are met. I feel it should more be set in a circle and we should seek someone who has the qualities we are compatible with universally.
.. the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. | |
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youngsoulrebel said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: I believe we fail when we attempt to use a numbering system as a way of measuring importance. It Suggests we can sacrifice certain needs and wants if others are met. I feel it should more be set in a circle and we should seek someone who has the qualities we are compatible with universally.
.. the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. Solid! | |
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youngsoulrebel said: the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are
simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. agreed, thanks anotherlovertoo, i love following your posts. zesty!!! | |
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Nothing beats a nice pair of tits. | |
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iridescence said: youngsoulrebel said: the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are
simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. agreed, thanks anotherlovertoo, i love following your posts. Taking ourselves to an uncomfortable mental place is sometimes the best way to grow 
And Christina--you don't "follow", you walk with me--I know you do!  | |
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youngsoulrebel said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: I believe we fail when we attempt to use a numbering system as a way of measuring importance. It Suggests we can sacrifice certain needs and wants if others are met. I feel it should more be set in a circle and we should seek someone who has the qualities we are compatible with universally.
.. the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. r u from this planet? your answers blow me away i agree with u when u seek out a mate, you're searching 4 a deeper understanding of who u r | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said:
Nothing beats a nice pair of tits. .. so if your woman, developed breast cancer and had a masectomy would you leave her JD ? because if your value system lies basically on the physical then you are already doomed for failure. .. slack post edit [This message was edited Sun Aug 10 9:01:13 PDT 2003 by youngsoulrebel] | |
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sumtymes said: youngsoulrebel said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: I believe we fail when we attempt to use a numbering system as a way of measuring importance. It Suggests we can sacrifice certain needs and wants if others are met. I feel it should more be set in a circle and we should seek someone who has the qualities we are compatible with universally.
.. the questions one must ask on the path of self knowledge are simple, but these questions need to be asked constantly once we are able to determine the appropriate responses to these questions, we have our answer. the path of all knowledge leads to self knowledge which is why i welcome studies such as these as they challenge our sensibilities and make us aware of who we are .. r u from this planet? your answers blow me away i agree with u when u seek out a mate, you're searching 4 a deeper understanding of who u r .. thank you i agree with you totally. my true path has always been one of discovery i have never been afraid of moving forward i confronted my demons, conquered my fears and forged my own destiny, because i will not accept any other way my confidence stems from my knowledge of self my clarity stems from my spirituality i work hard at learning and staying true to what i am to who i am which is fundamentally why i have a pure and very strong relationship with my partner which grows everyday as we learn and push each other towards better things .. | |
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JDINTERACTIVE said:
Nothing beats a nice pair of tits. | |
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Great question, Anotherlover. Made me realise, in one of those moments, that I enjoy the luxury of choices. Hmm, loved Muse's thought about viewing these traits in a circle. Nice answer! For me, a numbering system feels flawed too. For example, if there is no money to support me, would it still be possible for me to prioritise 'soul' as a highest priority, or rather, live by my ideal values? Anyway, back to my list...
1. Soul 2. Personality 3. Intelligence 4. Sex - if all three above are in order, sex will be really enjoyable 5. Money - essential for everyone's physical survival; not necessary for my true happiness but those are the values I was brought up with. I understand this is not the same for everyone 6. Looks I actually view all these things as essential and inter-related. Interestingly, I like to believe a person's soul IS reflected in their looks. This might become a contentious point if misunderstood, so, next... . [This message was edited Sun Aug 10 10:06:20 PDT 2003 by Anji] | |
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1. personality...mos def the most important thing to me...looks will fade with time...money can be as easily lost as won...i need a man who will stimulate my mind, make me laugh when all i really want to do is cry, hold me and tell me stories...someone who i can talk to...a man who is not only my lover but my best friend.
2. soul...i need a kind soul...someone who loves his mama and kids...plus someone who has 'soul' musically, who can get his groove on in a crowd...or alone with his turntables... 3. sex...i cannot stay with someone whom i am not sexually compatable with. i want someone who can excite me with a look , a touch, a kiss...then we can get down to it!! 4. intelligence...he needs to be able to have a good converstaion with me...not someone that knows nothing of the world, only of playstation. 5. money...does not buy happiness...but a little to play with is good. 6. looks...as long as "I" think he is good looking thats all that matters to me...he need not have the perfect body as long as i am attracted to him...and i have odd tastes!!!
(sorry...i looked at the last post while answering so i wouldn't have to try and remember the choices...so i was not aware 'soul' was not one of the categories...i am going to leave it though because it is quite important to me...) [This message was edited Sun Aug 10 10:47:09 PDT 2003 by lillith] you're only as old as you feel..............so how old do i feel 
Now that food has replaced sex in my life, I can't even get into my own pants. | |
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AnotherLoverToo said: I have seen you make, um, appreciative comments
on the way certain women look, Byron, lol. When you say looks have "never ranked anywhere with you", are you saying that looks never have mattered or registered or influenced your choice of partners?Exactly...I do appreciate beauty in all its forms, yes...lol...so yeah, you'll see me make a flattering comment about, say, Salma Hayek  ... ...But in a "listing" of qualities I hope/seek to find in a partner, looks never makes the list, ever...besides, a warm & sincerely caring heart, an enjoyable personality and a true and positive spirituality will make any woman amazingly beautiful in my eyes...
(hope you made a satisfying choice in how to spend your day today!
)So far, it's been a pretty good one... Thanks... | |
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Anji said: 1. Soul
2. Personality 3. Intelligence 4. Sex - if all three above are in order, sex will be really enjoyable So true...I think many people forget (or never realize to begin with) that 95% of sex is mental, not physical... | |
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1. Sex.
Everything else on the list determines how sexually appealing she is to me, in no particular rank or order. Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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teller said: 1. Sex.
Telly likes to think he is an animal LOL!
Everything else on the list determines how sexually appealing she is to me, in no particular rank or order. | |
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Anji said: teller said: 1. Sex.
Telly likes to think he is an animal LOL!
Everything else on the list determines how sexually appealing she is to me, in no particular rank or order. I forgot to mention to remove "Money" from the list. I would never expect a woman to bring me money. Replace it with Spirituality...or any other virtue... Fear is the mind-killer. | |
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The Perfect Mate:
0. Note: I have already found her
1. Sex: Yes, Female of course... 2. Personality: Kind, but strong minded. 3. Lifestyle: No smoking / No drinking 4. Diet: Various, not picky. A burger is cool but salad too... 5. Looks: Lusciously long light brown mostly dark hair and big bold beautiful brown eyes. 6. Communication: Not afraid to speak up, but not unkind. 7. Patience: Know there is a time for all things and each day leads it's own path. 8. Morals: Loyal, does not flirt or swear in anger. or think of others in an obtrusive manner... 9. Intelligence: Not important, but able to at least think on a normal functioning level. 10. Money: Not important at all actually...     | |
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july said: The Perfect Mate:
0. Note: I have already found her
1. Sex: Yes, Female of course... 2. Personality: Kind, but strong minded. 3. Lifestyle: No smoking / No drinking 4. Diet: Various, not picky. A burger is cool but salad too... 5. Looks: Lusciously long light brown mostly dark hair and big bold beautiful brown eyes. 6. Communication: Not afraid to speak up, but not unkind. 7. Patience: Know there is a time for all things and each day leads it's own path. 8. Morals: Loyal, does not flirt or swear in anger. or think of others in an obtrusive manner... 9. Intelligence: Not important, but able to at least think on a normal functioning level. 10. Money: Not important at all actually... Beautiful! | |
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july said: The Perfect Mate:
0. Note: I have already found her  ...That's wonderful to know...  | |
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I really enjoyed this thread! Some very solid healthy strong feelings were conveyed! I have learned from others ideas. Awesome! | |
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If I was gonna stick to ONLY the 5 things listed...lol...I'd say:
1) Personality (this encompasses everything that's important to me...) 2) Intelligence (mental and especially emotional intelligence is always a good thing...) 3) Sex (that she understands and respects not only what sex is, but what lovemaking can be to our hearts and souls ...)
4) Looks (but as I said, if the other things are in evidence, to me she will look like the most amazingly beautiful woman God's ever created...  )
5) Money (I'll make the money...lol  ) | |
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youngsoulrebel said: JDINTERACTIVE said:
Nothing beats a nice pair of tits. .. so if your woman, developed breast cancer and had a masectomy would you leave her JD ? because if your value system lies basically on the physical then you are already doomed for failure. .. slack post edit [This message was edited Sun Aug 10 9:01:13 PDT 2003 by youngsoulrebel] Erm, that seems like a rather unnecessarily po-faced and arrogant response to what was a light-hearted, humourous comment. If you don't find it funny, fine, but there's no need to jump down anyone's throat, and certainly no reason to make bullshit assumptions about people. So let's keep it civil please... | |
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ian said: Erm, that seems like a rather unnecessarily po-faced and arrogant response to what was a light-hearted, humourous comment. If you don't find it funny, fine, but there's no need to jump down anyone's throat, and certainly no reason to make bullshit assumptions about people. So let's keep it civil please... 
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this is why i love the org zesty!!! | |
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CtheUncanny said: After giving this some serious thought, i came up with this list.
1.Looks=I gotta "C" what i'm working with.(and i can only do that if i can look at her )
2.Money=Gotaa have a little comin in(if she has alot, GREAT!) 3.Sex=She should be good(if the main course is no good find a "side order") 4.Personality=Will need one to put up with me(but i'm wonderful 
5.Intelligence=Don't need her too smart(will realize how dumb i am and i won't be able to pull off the moves mentioned above :LOL:) Spoken like a true male species | |
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AnotherLoverToo said:
Ok I'll stop thread-jacking now... | |
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| @ everything I mean, like, where is the sun? | |
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