A lot of stress, her job - my attitude.

I'm feeling distant, almost wanna give up. We don't seem as close as we used to.

Kids keep me home... We're attending counseling.

Wish us luck.

Oh good luck sweetie, i wish you two the best.

Good luck June...hang in there

Crap...you are serious!
I'm sooo sorry you are feeling this way...hopefully it will all work out.

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[This message was edited Thu Jul 24 22:08:26 PDT 2003 by althom]

:HUG: Hang in the June7. Sorry you're going through that. I sure hope the counseling helps. And that your children are doing ok. If you ever need to talk or just vent..feel free to org note me!!

I'll keep ya in my prayers!!

Thanks guys... I love you all...

June7 said:

We love you too.

June7 said:

Errr...in a manly way of course?

JUNE! Ohmygod. I'm so sorry. I hope everything turns out okay.

Relationships have ebbs and flows, as I'm sure you understand only too well after being married so long. And relationships take effort. Especially when you have kids, seems like you have to work to find time to talk, make love, make repairs on the house, go grocery shopping, etc. The price of family life is giving up some (but not all) of your "individualism" (which is basically only being responsible for yourself, able to do what you want to do, when you want to do it) for the greater good of the family unit.



Sorry if I sound like Oprah Based on "the studies", if you want it badly enough and if you're both willing to listen to one another and make some adjustments, you're gonna make it, honey!
[This message was edited Thu Jul 24 22:23:34 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

Good luck, June... You have my thoughts and wishes...

AnotherLoverToo said:

Thanks y'all... I appreciate all your support.

It's been going on awhile. A lot of unspoken difficulties... stress, her job is driving her crazy, she's taking it out on me... her dictator ways... my freewheelin' carefree lifestyle is driving her nuts. It's not changed. I'm getting tired of it. But, we have three beautiful kids and a beautiful lifestyle... and I wouldn't want to jeopardize any of that... we're going to counseling, hope it works. I've gotta be more honest... I'm working on it...

I didn't mean to bring anyone down... and I thank you all for your responses.

Who in the f'ing eff rated this a "1"? Take that, (a "5") you insensitive brute!


[This message was edited Thu Jul 24 22:34:47 PDT 2003 by AnotherLoverToo]

AnotherLoverToo said:

Give me a name AnotherLoverToo...and I'll take care of them.

June7

Aw, sorry to hear that man
I recognise some of it though. Been living with someone with serious unresolved issues from the past, and then having two kids to look after, well it's hard sometimes man.
My helpful tips : Play the appropriate tunes loud through the speakers, or take the missus (without the kids) and have a seriously good time 'downtown'.

Hang in there June.

Good luck man , don't give up !

June7 said:

Sorry to hear that. First step in the treatment should be to get your ass off Prince.org and spend some time with her...

Anyway marriage isn't meant to be fun, it's one long stream of misery that flows across you until you grow old and die.

ian said:

you okay ian?

Natsume said:

Oops there I go thinking out loud again!

ian said:

You know we're not allowed to do that on prince.org!

Natsume said:

Heh I'm just starting to notice a common thread... all these divorces. marriages in trouble etc... could it be somehow connected to the mad hours we all spend on this website I think a study should be conducted immediately!

June7 said:

Good luck man. Sorry to hear this. Take it easy man

The only two things that will help;

TRUTH
and
LOTSA TALKING

Oh, and maybe some loving too, when you grow back together...

one simple thing... just sit back and relax. take a vacation with the misses. or just a night out to a nice restraunt and a bottle of wine.

i dont know about your "free wheelin ways" but take a break from those. clean the house for her. make dinner a couple nights. just relax and enjoy doing these things with your family.

if it is financial issues, sell an expensive car (if you have one) and get a cheap one or do something drastic to better your financial situation.

if it is the kids, send them to grandma's for a week before school starts back up.

but, once again, just relax. both of you. life is hard work but it shouldnt consume you. make sure you get enough rest. make sure you have the family time. make sure you think before you speak. and just make sure you have fun and enjoy your spouses company. if she gets bitchy because of work, shrug it off and dont fight back. just let it go, relax and keep everyone calm.

don't forget why you fell in love with her in the first place. and do get that counseling...nearly all marriages go over this hump...both of you probably aren't getting certain needs met by the other. change a few behaviors on both sides and you'd be surprised what a difference it can make!

ian said:

I think that´s a really good advice actually. It seems like you (June7) need to spend some time together with your wife and really talk her. Ninety per cent of all the relationship problems I hear about come from lack of communication. Counselling may be a good start but thr real work is left to you two alone.

Anyway; here´s to you:

Good luck, man... I hope that things go well for you.