ohh matt! stay strong through these tough times!

It must be very difficult. Clearly, such a decision requires courage and honesty. I'm sure that your family and friends will support this decision, knowing it is the best thing for both of you.

I love your maturity regarding this breakup... I wish you well Matt..

I'm so sorry to hear that sweetie, i wish you nothing but the best in life.

my friend as im sure you know

you have the ultimate support group

at the ol finger tips


best to you

I know its hard, but what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. I'm glad it is going to be mutual and fair. The divorce and legal stuff isn't even the hard part IMO, it's getting your life back after having someone be part of it for so long, for better or worse.



My parents are divorced and I don't think I will ever get married. They were together for 14 years and its was ugly, both the marriage and the divorce, lol. I'm sure you guys gave it your best shot. Peace to you.

matt said:

I'm sorry to here that Matt, I really am. But maybe things will be better this way.

ian said:

Well, I'm reluctant to get too specific about the reasons, if only to respect her privacy and to avoid the "blame game." But I think it's fair to say that our marriage is ending because:

1) It's become clear that we're just not a good match as husband and wife.

2) We were relatively young when we got married... I was 22 and she was 21. At the time, I think we pretty much had a plan in place for our future. Since then, our personal goals have changed and diverged... we want to take our lives in different directions.

Now, for legal purposes, this is a no-fault divorce attributed to, in the words of the Indiana Code, "irretrievable breakdown of the marriage." But that's just lawyer-speak.



Thanks... fortunately, I don't see that being a problem. Although they say that a lawyer who represents himself has a fool for a client, I am nonetheless representing myself in this matter (in lawyer-speak, I'm proceeding "pro se"). Why? I don't foresee any real disputes in the dissolution of the marriage, and I'm not going to pay someone to do something I can handle by myself without difficulty. (Family law isn't one of my practice areas, but the paperwork I had to file was still a piece of cake compared to some stuff I've done.) The two of us have basically agreed who's going to get what in terms of our property. And since there are no kids, there won't be any custody or child support issues.

The total cost (in terms of money) will probably be $109, the filing fee that I've already paid.

In a way it's too bad that we have to go to court to do this... although I make my living from litigation, I never wanted to end up in court myself as a litigant. But that's the way it works. (Some states apparently let you do a divorce by mail when those involved can agree upon anything... I wish we had such a procedure here.)

sorry to hear about it matt

TheMax said:

Yes... last night I visited my parents and brothers to give them the news, and they could not have been more supportive. And my friends, both in the "real world" and on the .org/Internet, have also given me a great deal of support, for which I'm very grateful.

Thank you, everyone.

Sometimes...
What may be the best thing for you to do
Sometimes it the hardest thing for you to do
And thats real
Cause I know that I love you
I know how I feel about you
But I also know that don't make everything alright
And for that reason
I gotta say goodbye

Tell me have you ever been in a
Situation where the best thing you could do
Is the hardest thing you've ever done
But you try to do whats right
And I know that deep down inside
That I really wanna be there by your side
But I can't stand to see you cry
Not when its because of me

And its over, I'll never love another
I'm always thinking of her, I'm doing this because of her



I you lots and you know i

MostBeautifulGrlNTheWorld said:

Thanks, Jess. Those lyrics are so true...

I'm so sorry, Matt...hang in there, buddy.

Sorry Matt

I've never been married but I would like to and I have held out because I wouldn't want to have to go through that.

Well ladies Handsome single guy to soon be on the loose.
[This message was edited Thu Jul 17 14:25:48 PDT 2003 by righteous1]

i would say sorry, but maybe congrats is in order.

Today is the first day of your new life. Deep breath,
baby steps, you'll be fine, tomorrow is another day.


I wish you luck and happiness!

I wish you the best in life. Your a good guy and hope you find hapiness!

sorry you're going through this matt. i've been there and it's not fun.

but, being married to the wrong person is no good and i promise you'll feel at least a little better once it's behind you

Sorry to hear about this Matt. Good luck with the future.

A new direction can be hard... (extremely trying, I know).

(Best wishes Matt)

Matt, my heart goes out to you. If you need to bounce some sentiment off of a guy who's been there, I'm all ears (or rather eyes).

I'm very sorry.

shausler said:

YOU ALREADY SAID THAT

Sorry to read that fella, all the best for the future!

Get ready for WWIII dude !


trust me.. i know.

So... I filed for divorce on Tuesday.

Friday the two of us saw a movie (Pirates of the Carribbean) together. It was just like seeing a movie with a friend.

Sunday she was out of town (on a trip that was already planned before we decided to dissolve the marriage), and she called me. We had a pleasant chat... we discussed a few "business" matters (i.e., stuff related to winding up the marriage), but we talked about other things too, and there wasn't a single unkind word.

This isn't how a divorce is "supposed" to go... we haven't hired lawyers, been screaming at each other, or fought over who gets what. And I'm glad.